Torsunov Oleg – Laws happy life(book 1)
Torsunov O.G.
LAWS OF A HAPPY LIFE
Book one
"Vedabuk"
Preface
What is the need for this publication?5
Happiness hides deep within each of us6
Subtle forces influencing our
consciousness - fantasy or reality?7
Practical value of the book?7
What is the basis of this book and who is it for?
Introduction
Vedas - ancient books of knowledge 14
Thematic range of knowledge presented in the Vedas 16
Briefly about the structure of the first series of books17
So, the themes of the first series of books: 17
Chapter first
THE POWER OF TIME
Our attitude towards time brings us either happiness or suffering19
Justice time 24
Understanding the justice of the power of time gives peace 32
Discussion about the approach to studying the laws of a happy life42
The sun is an instrument of time, embodying its laws 47
Time creates cycles of movement of everything that exists in the universe 52
The power of the divine force called Time55
Time is the most subtle force acting
in the material world 57
Discussion on the difference between soul and body 63
Time gives us either fear or fearlessness 69
The story of how Alexander the Great
felt the power of time 76
Determining time 78
Does the past exist or is it just history? 78
Future tense - is it really real? 85
We will not be able to cancel the main periods of our lives 88
Is everyone ready to accept the existence of spiritual time and soul? 97
Commanding Aspect of Time 105
Subordinate aspect of time 110
Universal time 115
What does it mean to not waste time 127
DAILY REGIME
Where do owls, larks and eagles come from 129
Rest mode 134
Consequences of disrupting bedtime routine 138
Consequences of chaotic sleep 141
What practical steps can help you start following a sleep and rest schedule? . 145
One example of sleep disorder from my medical practice 151
Consequences of violating the lifting regime 155
The struggle with oneself to maintain the daily routine continues 164
Taste act 170
The desire for bodily pleasures does not give a person either happiness or health. 176
The taste for inaction is the hidden desire to die 184
Rules of conduct immediately after waking up 190
Ablution (pouring water) 193
Preparation for ablution, dousing 197
Rules for performing ablution and dousing 198
Main cases when it is useful to perform ablution203
Cleansing the mind and mind 205
Sample list of exercises.
Static exercises 211
Which is better - milk or meat 264
Getting ready for bed 273
Requirements for bedroom 279
Evening mood before bed 282
Application284
Book one
THE POWER OF TIME
PREFACE
What is the need for this publication?
The title of the book already speaks for itself. It encourages you to become happy.
How to become happy? Happiness inevitably comes to a person who simply realizes the need to urgently study the patterns of his life.
Often the events that happen to us seem random. And these “accidents” can be repeated for decades from year to year. For example, many people suffer from loneliness and misunderstanding from others. Not knowing how to help themselves, they experience great suffering for many years, continuing to hope for a miracle. And you shouldn't put up with this.
A person’s life will become happier and more interesting, even if he simply understands that there are no coincidences in this world, and decides that for his own good it is necessary to change for the better. But if you really use the knowledge tested by many people and apply it in practice, then natural success will not take long to arrive. On the other hand, it is hardly possible to quickly correct the situation by simply believing that everything that happens to us is temporary setbacks.
Let's watch our lives. Maybe, indeed, we will be able to discern some mistakes in our attitude towards loved ones, our destiny? Self-observation will reveal patterns that we must take into account when striving for happiness. However, if you live without taking into account the patterns hidden from view, then it will be much more difficult to help yourself, isn’t it, dear reader?
Subtle forces influencing our consciousness - fantasy or reality?
Now it is becoming obvious to many that, in addition to material (gross) reality, there are phenomena in life associated with the invisible influence of subtle laws and forces on our consciousness. For example, love at first sight. The two people met their eyes and felt happier. It is unlikely that this phenomenon can be explained in any other way than from the perspective of the invisible interaction between a man and a woman. Otherwise, how can you fall in love completely at first sight? stranger?
Proctic value of the book
The practical value of this book is that it increases the chances of achieving physical, emotional, mental and spiritual happiness. The material in the books is based on my lectures on medicine and psychology, given to a wide audience, and is intended to provide practical assistance to a person seeking happiness. In this book, dear reader, you will not find dry psychology or theories that are not applicable in life. All the material I have collected is used every day to provide real help to those who need it. However, theoretical reasoning still takes place, and there is a need for it. Agree, we cannot live without knowledge.
Theory is needed in order to form “eyes of knowledge” in our minds and develop a correct understanding of things. Through the prism of this understanding, we can see subtle, hidden for most people, patterns of work of the human body and human society. If there is no theory, we will not have the eyes to see all these patterns.
Life events indicate patterns. What will we change in our lives without knowing the laws? Nothing.
How else? If we do not recognize the existence of laws that affect our lives, then there is no point in even trying to change anything. If everything is accidental, then why think about the future, hidden in a veil of fog?
Looking for ways to make the lives of my patients happier, I came to the following conclusion: a person’s fate is closely related to how much a person follows the highest laws of life. Thus, for me personally, the existence of laws that affect human life has become an obvious reality. Therefore, I would like to immediately emphasize that most of the information in this book describes laws that affect our life and destiny.
The laws of human life are not something dry, theoretical and distant, as it seems at first glance. You only need to try to put them into practice once, and it immediately becomes clear that they are inextricably linked with our everyday life.
These laws always exist, regardless of whether a person believes in them or not. Therefore, I urge you, dear reader, to try to evaluate how practical and useful knowledge of the laws of a happy life is.
Vedas - ancient books of knowledge
What are the Vedas? As already mentioned, the word "Veda" is translated as "knowledge". It is no coincidence that in the Russian language the root “ved” indicates knowledge. This meaning can be easily seen in words such as “know”, “statements”, “tell”, “reconnaissance”, “inquire”, etc.
The Vedas are ancient wisdom. The main treatises of the Vedas were written down by the sage Srila Vyasadeva about 5 thousand years ago, before which they were transmitted orally from teacher to student for many millennia. This is confirmed by historical facts referred to in the Vedas. Many modern scientists and researchers also consider the Vedas to be the most ancient knowledge on the planet and subject them to serious study, making many interesting discoveries along the way.
Many talented people have drawn and continue to draw inspiration for their scientific or literary activity in the deep wisdom of the Vedas. Famous people of the past such as J. F. Goethe, A. Einstein, R. W. Emerson, L. N. Tolstoy and many others admired the greatness of the Vedic message. It is not for nothing that the Vedas themselves say that the comprehension of this eternal knowledge is joyful.
Despite its antiquity, this knowledge is deeply scientific and diverse. For example, such a perfect description of our body (the human psyche and physiology), the structure of the Universe, moral laws and medicine cannot be found in any other work. But the most valuable thing is that the Vedas give a detailed answer to the most important question: “What is the meaning of human life? This is their main message to humanity. The topic of how to build our relationships with the world in which we live is touched upon no less deeply and practically.
Justice of time
To understand ourselves more deeply, we must first understand the forces acting on our consciousness. According to the Vedas, in first place among them is the just force - time. Knowing what time is is necessary to understand how it affects our destiny. Only taking into account its influence can one draw serious conclusions about how to live further.
Reader: What do you mean by “time affects us”? It seems to me that the word “time” was generally invented for convenience, so as not to be late. Why try to give so much meaning to everything?
Reader: Then it’s not at all clear what you mean by the word “time”.
Author: By the word “time” I mean the force that makes us grow old. This is exactly how time works on us. We feel its influence. However, since this force is invisible to our eyes, we believe that aging occurs naturally. However, we are afraid of being late and understand that time must be taken into account in our lives. Since the passage of time has for us great importance, we invented the clock.
Reader: In your opinion, there is a force that makes people grow old. Maybe she makes us die too?
Reader: What are you saying - “die at the right time”? Who needs to die?
Reader: I understand it this way: if a person fails to recover from a serious illness, then he dies. We also know cases when qualified assistance still saves the patient. Maybe when doctors act unsuccessfully, it is also the force of time that makes them make mistakes?
Reader: From your reasoning we can conclude that we are all puppets in the hands of this invisible force called time. But you must agree that living then makes no sense at all, because all the same, all events will occur according to the will of time.
Author: On the one hand, you are right, everything will always happen according to the fair will of time. Nevertheless, justice exists and always triumphs. Therefore, we have freedom of choice in how to use the time allocated to us by fate. We will not be able to move the date of death with our will, but no one will forbid us to live our lives more richly.
The will of time affirms the law of justice in our lives. According to the Vedas, we live forever, and all our desires that arose in past lives, according to the law of nature, must come true in due time. In addition, for all our actions committed in past lives, we must receive either a reward or punishment. Punishment or reward will also come in due time.
This is where the justice of this world is expressed - the power of time “in due time” will reward us for everything we have done and will realize everything we desired. This is what makes life worth living.
Reader: Who is “we” who live forever, where have you seen someone live forever?
Reader: “Spiritual, eternal soul”, “our body is like a mechanism” - all this is completely incomprehensible, so at least explain what it means to “die in due time”. If this power of time is true, then why shouldn’t I live more?
Often the length of our life depends on how pious our past life was. Do you think time has a fair influence on us?
Reader: I do not see justice in the actions of the forces of time that you are now describing. I don't like being responsible for my past desires that I don't remember and facing punishment for my past actions. I have current desires that I want to bring to life. What then is justice if this power makes me suffer for my past mistakes and prevents me from getting what I want now?
Reader: Where is the justice if I want to get mine now, but this event will only happen sometime in the future?
Reader: If the power of time is so powerful, then why shouldn’t it fulfill all my desires at the same time?
Reader: You tell everything very well. But I don’t have to take turns eating ice cream and cake, but I have to take turns getting slaps on the back of the head. Is this also the result of my past desires? Find me a man who wants a slap on the head!
Author: No, of course, no one wants suffering, it comes as a result of our past wrong actions. If in our actions we went against the happiness of other living beings, then, according to the law of justice, we will have to receive exactly as much suffering as we caused to other people. All this suffering will also come in time. Therefore, in addition to “happy times,” we also have time allocated for suffering.
Reader: I understood that if I have nothing but troubles in my life, it means that in past lives I committed only bad deeds, and at the same time I did not have any good desires.
Reader: Of course it was, that’s understandable. But if we suffer so much for what we have done, why then do we do these things? bad deeds? Do we really want to suffer for them?
Author: No, we just don’t always understand which actions are good and which are bad. We simply do not have enough knowledge of how to live correctly. All suffering comes to us due to the lack of this important knowledge. In order for the power of time not to make us suffer at some point, we need to study the laws of a happy life. Then in the future only happiness will come to us.
Reader: So many people are suffering. Don't they all know how to live correctly?
Reader: Well, okay, you said that all wishes come true, so I declare: “I want to know how to find happiness!” So, now my wish will come true and I will find happiness?
Author: Undoubtedly, it will come true, but in order to avoid disappointment, you must also understand how the desires of a child differ from the desires of an adult. The child wants one thing, then another, and all his desires are like a game. Therefore, these desires are also fulfilled in a childish way. An adult does not play with toys, but firmly wants to fulfill his desires. Fair time also responds to such strong desires in an adult way.
Reader: How can one firmly want to “find out how to find happiness”?
First you need to study the laws of a happy life;
Then check how they operate in our lives;
After this there will be confidence that they exist;
Having strengthened, understanding will turn into faith in the justice of the laws of this world;
Only by gaining a firm belief in the justice of the laws of the world in which we live are we able to cultivate a strong desire to “find out how to find happiness.”
Reader: Of course, I have no faith in what you are telling me now. It turns out that my desires to “find out how to find happiness” are just childish pranks, and fair time, therefore, will not fulfill them?
Author: Time is fair, so it will fulfill a child’s desire to “find out how to find happiness” in a childish way. Then a little childish understanding will appear that there is happiness. In other words, a little faith will appear. The next desire to “find out how to find happiness” will be more adult, and time will fulfill it again. This way, more faith will appear, and gradually the desire to be happy will become stronger. Now it is clear?
Reader: Yes, now it’s clear that I don’t understand anything in my life. From your words it turns out that I have never wanted to be happy in my life?
Reader: How many times do I need to repeat: “I want to know how to find happiness,” so that finally my desire to know how to be happy becomes serious and adult?
Reader: What is the criterion for the fact that my desire has become serious and strong?
This process of cultivating in oneself a stable desire to know how to become happy inevitably gives rise to a serious, systematic study of the laws of a happy life.
Conclusion: only by systematically (not jokingly, but seriously) studying the law of time, we can gradually cultivate in ourselves a serious desire to be happy. A serious desire differs from a childish one in that it always entails some kind of practical action. Without practice, it is impossible to understand the justice of powerful time.
Definition of time
According to the Vedic scriptures, time is the aspect of God that controls the universe; it cyclically affects the entire material creation, moving it towards destruction. Time is the greatest punishing force in the material world. Time always adamantly punishes everyone who does not want to obey its will. This is a substance independent in relation to all factors of the material world, which, while influencing all types of activity of matter, itself never falls under its influence. Time is the connecting link in all processes of change of matter occurring in the Universe.
Time is all-pervasive and is divided into three parts:
Past;
The present;
Future.
Commanding aspect of time
Time naturally rules our lives. The sun is called kala chakra (wheel of time) in the Vedas. His movement guides our lives. When night falls, our body begins to require sleep. It’s difficult to sleep during the day and you have to do something.
We, without noticing it ourselves, always adapt to the cyclical activity of time in this world. For example, to eat fruit, we must wait until it is time to ripen. In central Russia, you can eat fresh potatoes only in the second half of summer, and this is also the limit that time sets for us. And children need to be taught different things at different times. Sometimes children want to drive a car or imitate adults in other ways. But their parents strictly tell them that the time will come, and then you will be able to do this. Or, for example, it is undesirable for a woman to conceive children before a certain period, just as when the childbearing period ends, she will no longer be able to get pregnant at all.
All these facts indicate that time rules and you cannot jump over it. If a person tries to do something ahead of time, he will look like a fool.
Reader: Does conceiving a boy or a girl also somehow depend on time or is it just an accident?
As for conceiving children, Vedic astrology there is a whole section explaining how to do this correctly. It turns out that by studying the Vedas, you can plan the birth of a brilliant child. In addition, knowing the monthly hormonal cycle of a woman and the cycle of the moon, a Vedic astrologer can quite accurately calculate when a boy will be conceived and when a girl will be conceived. For example, the Vedas indicate that one of the regularities is that on even days of counting in relation to the first day of a woman’s menstrual cycle, boys are mainly conceived, and on odd days, girls are conceived. The sixth, eighth, tenth and twelfth days from the beginning of the menstrual cycle are favorable for conceiving boys. For conceiving girls - the seventh and ninth days from the first day of the menstrual cycle.
There are other patterns as well. For example, if during conception a man’s sexual desire is greater, then a boy is born, and if a woman’s sexual desire is stronger, then a girl is born. These things are also not an accident and depend on the strength of the planets influencing the sexual power of the husband and wife, which is determined by their karma, and therefore the time of their birth.
Thus, knowing the patterns that time dictates to us, we can plan the conception of children. However, a person who does not respect time and lives disorderly, even after numerous calculations by the most experienced astrologer, is not destined to learn how to plan the sex of children. Moreover, he is unlikely to be able to have good children, as well as achieve any other types of happiness.
Reader: Again it is not clear: “the commanding aspect, the subordinating aspect of time.” Is there any way to explain this in a simple way?
As a result, the subordinating aspect of time comes into force. Unbeknownst to us, it begins to change our perception of the world, and the course of events becomes tougher and more inexorable. For example, as a result of exposure to the subjugating aspect of time, a person loses clarity of understanding of events or, in other words, intuition. In addition, it often happens that some little things can become a very big problem.
The subordinate aspect of time disorients a person, and he does not have time to react to the changes that occur in his life. So, for example, a person who has not deeply realized how time dictates its will to us will not be able to understand that the time of his death has come.
Reader: Do you want to say that if the subjugating aspect of time does not influence consciousness with its punishing force, then you can guess that your death is approaching?
Reader: Well, this is hardly accessible to everyone else, is it?
Reader: How can a simple person who respects powerful time realize the approach of his death?
Severe loss of interest in life;
Dulled perception of the world.;
Disappearance of the sense of taste when eating food;
All close people suddenly seem distant;
There is a feeling of inevitability of something;
There is a desire to repent of all your sins and
An understanding of eternity comes.
There are also physical criteria:
The nose becomes sharper;
The look becomes absent;
Propa. gives facial expressions;
The body becomes alien (wooden).
Of course, these symptoms can appear in many serious illnesses, but their presence and a special inner feeling make a person understand that his time is near.
However, if a person does not recognize the commanding aspect of time, then even knowing all these criteria, he will not be able to unravel their meaning. Such people either panic greatly when nothing particularly terrible happens, or, conversely, do not notice obvious harbingers of their death. Those who respect time and try to do everything on time all their lives, some time before death they learn when they will have to leave this world. This happens either through understanding the listed symptoms, or through prophetic dreams, or in some other way.
Reader: Still, please explain once again what the commanding aspect of time is.
Reader: In other words, if the time has come for a woman to conceive children, then she will understand this through the prompts of intuition, the appearance of worries, etc., that is, through those signs that the commanding aspect of time will give her to her consciousness. Did I understand correctly how it works?
Conclusion: thus, the commanding aspect of time places us within a certain framework of existence. He dictates to us that the time has come to perform certain duties. However, we have the freedom to choose whether to obey it or not. Those who have not submitted to the commanding aspect of time then have to deal with its subjugating aspect. When the subordinating aspect of time enters into communication with us, then we no longer have any freedom of choice in our relationship with it. Happy in this world will be only the one who, faced with the commanding aspect of time, immediately begins to fulfill his duties. A reasonable person will not wait until the subjugating aspect of time begins to act on him, bringing with it inevitable suffering.
Subordinate aspect of time
We can, out of necessity or at will, refuse to comply with the will of time. In this case we will inevitably have to deal with its subjugating aspect. The action of the commanding aspect of time is more or less clear: at night you want to sleep, during the day you want to stay awake. But what does the “subordinate aspect of time” mean? Who can force us to get out of bed in the morning? If I want, I sleep, if I want, I get up, master master. It turns out that time does not always clearly subjugate us to its power, and therefore it seems that everything in this world is permitted. For example, the Sun will not pull us out of bed in the morning, but if we lie in it for a long time, our spine will gradually begin to ache, our physical tone will decrease, and our mood will deteriorate.
There are many signs that indicate that if we do not obey time, then suffering is inevitable. For example, if you get out of bed late, a person is guaranteed hypotension or hypertension, that is, dysregulation of vascular tone, decreased immunity, diseases of the spine and joints. If you go to bed late, mental exhaustion will gradually develop.
Any type of activity, be it food or recreation, is under strict time supervision. Therefore, we will specifically focus on all these details of the action of the subordinating aspect of time in the “Daily Routine” section.
Reader: Your words give the impression that this world is full of violence, and not the desired justice. One step to the side - and you are warned that you cannot go there, the second step to the side - and punishment is inevitable. Where are the fair laws of a happy life?
Reader: However, we see many people suffering greatly and for a long time. How do you explain the fact that these warning mechanisms do not work on them?
Author: They work, but most people do not draw conclusions when in contact with the commanding aspect of time. Moreover, even after experiencing suffering in contact with its subjugating aspect, they continue to do all sorts of stupid things. That is why there are so many drug addicts, debauchees, drunkards, parasites and suicides who, while experiencing unbearable suffering, still do not draw the right conclusions from this bitter experience.
Reader: Everything is clear about drug addicts, but what additional suffering can a suicide experience?
For example, the Vedas claim that if a person commits suicide, then, according to fate, until the time comes for him to leave our planet, he will remain living on it in a subtle body, or, as people say, in the body of a ghost. In this state, a person perceives everything, but cannot perform actions or communicate with people around him. Thus, having experienced numerous sufferings due to this unnatural condition, what
the catcher leaves his place of residence in due time and goes to where he will soon receive a new body. Thus, time commands our birth and our death. The issues of soul reincarnation will be discussed in more detail in the topic “The Law of Karma.”
Reader: But tell me briefly, what is the difference in the perception of their own death between those who obey the laws of time and those who do not obey them?
For the former, death comes like a cat who takes her kittens with care. At the same time, kittens, although they are taken by the scruff of the neck, feel protected and cared for.
For the second, death comes as the same cat, but at the same time it grabs its victim by the scruff of the neck not like a submissive kitten, but like a mortally frightened mouse. Some people leave their unwanted body with a smile on their face, while others leave it in terrible fear.
So the riskiest thing in this world is trying to play tricks with time.
Reader: I don’t understand, how can you die with a smile on your face? This can only be seen in films about civil war heroes, but in reality, who cares?
Is it fun to die?
Author: At the moment of death, a person has an acute premonition of what will happen to him next. Therefore, people who lead a sinful life suffer greatly when they die. But let’s take another situation, when a person, after the death of the body, must go to the spiritual world. The perception of the spiritual world brings immeasurable, according to our concepts, happiness. Therefore, a person who feels at least a glimmer of spiritual happiness before death completely forgets that he is on his deathbed. What can we say about those who at the moment of death are in a spiritual trance or, speaking in the language of the Vedas, Sanskrit, in a state of samadhi. Such people, even at the moment of death, experience boundless happiness.
Reader: So, in the event of a serious death, the subjugating aspect of time mercilessly punishes those who did not want to obey its will?
Reader: I understand that punishment can have educational power. But why would the mighty time punish a person at the very last moment, where is the justice in that?
Thus, time directly or indirectly forces us to follow the laws of a happy life. Even the very thought of this brings me a dose of optimism personally.
Reader: In connection with these facts, I have not yet become more optimistic, but let’s hope that someday this will happen.
Conclusion: time in its subjugating aspect brings us closer to happiness much faster than any other force in this world. However, it is unlikely that anyone will want to deal with time playing this role. Harsh punishments, although useful, are not pleasant. Only sinless people are not afraid of the subjugating aspect of time, since it does not punish them, but encourages them. A deep understanding of this topic gives inspiration to do everything right and thus avoid suffering.
Universal time
People are not born happy, they are made.
As a system of high values, these laws govern the Universe with perfect order and absolute efficiency, supporting the progress, development and evolution of everything and everyone. They teach man how to get the best benefit from the human form of life and how to use this form of life very wisely.
Here are the laws of a happy life - information from Dr. Torsunov.
Wish everyone happiness
When we wish everyone happiness, our relationships with people improve and our affairs improve as they relate to the people with whom we associate. (read also the article “Formula of Happiness: I wish everyone happiness”)
Law of pure love
Our life without love is nothing. Pure love is the expression and manifestation of true, sincere care, respect and love for people. By sincerely caring and helping people become truly happier, we will begin to experience pleasures that we did not even suspect about and that we have never encountered in our lives.
Life in goodness
Living in goodness and developing in yourself good qualities, a person is filled with the power of happiness, experiencing joy from everything he does. Such a person’s protection from evil increases, the ability to achieve success in everything and influence other people appears, the inner world improves and beautifies, and self-confidence increases. He becomes independent from unfavorable circumstances.
Serving God
A person spiritualizes his life through spiritual practice. The causeless mercy of the Lord showers on him, fulfilling all his innermost desires.
Law of Blessing
The blessings of holy persons are the greatest treasure available in this world. By their grace, the impossible becomes possible.
Law of balance
The basis of any success should be balance, that is, a sense of proportion between the result we want to achieve and the very ability to produce results.
Law good relations
The most valuable thing we have, and what helps us all succeed, is other people. The relationships that connect us with people are valuable and the key to our own success and the success of everyone else. Maintaining good relationships between people is achieved through trust.
The increase is based on seven principles:
Always keep your promises;
always be kind and polite;
always be open to other people's opinions about us;
if we offended someone or made some mistake, ask for forgiveness;
always be on the side of those who are absent;
Always set expectations clearly;
always strive to understand the other.
Investments of trust (good deeds) into the account of another person must be made constantly and guided by the law of pure love, which is a necessary guarantee of success.
Law of Cause and Effect
The fundamental law of existence that determines a person’s present and next life is the law of karma. Each human act gives rise to certain reactions (what goes around comes around), so we must always be strict with ourselves, not indulge in sins and vices that only doom us to suffering. Be aware of your decisions and actions. When making decisions, ask yourself: “What are the consequences of this decision, will it bring satisfaction and happiness to me and those around me?” Act towards others as you would like them to act towards us.
Law of Least Effort
Accept everything completely as it is, and not as you would like to see. Having accepted things as they are, take responsibility for the situation and circumstances perceived as “problems”, i.e. don't judge anyone.
The Law of Intention and Desire
Having desires, be firmly confident that if not everything goes as we would like, then there are reasons for this - after all, the Lord’s plans for our destiny are much larger than we currently imagine them. Don't let obstacles distract our attention. Accept the present and focus your desire on the future.
Until we actually live up to high ideals, we will not be truly happy; and until we are happy, our life will not be filled with meaning, and we will not achieve success. The reason for our failures lies in ignorance and ignoring the laws of a happy life. Therefore, in order for a person to be happy and live a full life, it is very important to live in accordance with these laws.
Dr. Torsunov's lectures are based on the Vedas.
Source http://my.mail.ru/community/torsunov_lection/17E79C6FEF17636E.html
Do you think that if you follow these laws, life will be happy?
Have your say!
It's no secret that for the most part people in family life unhappy. If there is no happiness in family life, then, you see, no success in work will bring joy. Often problems in relationships with relatives take all your strength and interfere with achieving your intended goal. Even when seriously engaged in self-improvement, a person is not always able to change anything in his family life for the better. Moreover, as soon as there is a desire to start improving your family life, relationships with loved ones become even worse, and even become completely upset.
So, the problem of proper relationships with relatives has to be solved to this day. Many scientists around the world pay close attention to this issue. Vedic wisdom in this case also provides an original, incomparable to any other explanation for the emergence family problems, which, as it turns out, we create for ourselves. The Vedas also indicate ways to resolve them. They claim that without knowing how to choose a spouse and how to properly create a happy family with him, hopes for family happiness are like just the dreams of a baby. The fact is that it is through family life that we work off our heaviest karma. That’s why for many of us, difficulties in family life are the biggest challenge in life.
However, by making an effort to study this topic and thereby managing to create a prosperous family, we will be able to overcome even the greatest adversity much more easily.
Thus, so that family karma does not break us at all, we need to take care of this in advance, even before getting married. However, for the most part, young men and women, swimming in the waves of riotous youth, do not think about it at all.
So, the main goal of this publication is to give young people knowledge about the ways to properly create a happy family. For young people to gain it, their parents must take care of it from childhood. Therefore, the second, no less important task of this publication is to give parents knowledge of how to prepare their children from childhood to create a happy family.
Practical value of the book
This book contains a lively conversation on the topic of our difficult family life. It simultaneously presents three different opinions regarding a happy family life. The author's point of view regarding the successful creation of a family is based on Vedic knowledge and defends its priority. The reader and the reader are guided by their ideas of masculine and, accordingly, feminine character and with their help they defend their “life-tested” positions. A conversation structured in this way flows very lively, highlighting the relevance of the problem being discussed. At times the conversation becomes heated and takes on a rather tense character, while at times it delves into theoretical issues of creating a happy family.
I hope that you, dear reader, will not remain indifferent to what is written and will become the fourth participant in our conversation. Only then will this book acquire practical value for you.
Scientific basis of the book
In the usual understanding, science means certain studies and experiments on the basis of which scientific dissertations are successfully defended. According to the Vedas - the most ancient and independent source of knowledge from modern science - there are two methods of understanding the world: descending and ascending.
The top-down method of knowledge is based on divine wisdom, which is given to humanity from above, that is, from the greatest sages and saints, who, in turn, receive it from the highest beings of the Universe. Perhaps such a phrase sounds strange and even funny for some. It may seem that it is talking about something far-fetched. The author of this book once held the same opinion until he began to study in depth the wisdom of the Vedas. The Vedas state that a person who unprovenly rejects knowledge that he has not yet studied and tested from his own experience should be considered simply a fool.
The Vedas call another type of scientific knowledge of the world ascending, or experimental, which corresponds to the ideas of modern science. This method of knowledge is also recognized by the Vedas, but they place it in second place after the descending method (the foundation of all progress based on ancient knowledge). In other words, science must first master in detail the heritage that came to us from antiquity, and then move on. Otherwise, in her research she will constantly mark time or even turn back progress towards the destruction of humanity.
Agree that we were brought up on the knowledge that was tested through scientific experiment and therefore was considered unshakable. Nevertheless, every five years modern scientists declare that they previously did not fully understand this or that question (they were stupid), but now they have figured it out (they have become smart). We are all immensely glad that science is progressing, the only question is where. Not as a reproach to the scientific method of cognition, one can ask: I wonder what scientists will say regarding their current achievements, say, in five years?
So, the Vedas do not reject the ascending method of understanding the world, but believe that science should be directed in the direction recommended by the thousand-year experience of the ancient sages. Only in this case will there be a guarantee that scientific knowledge of the world will not lead us to disaster. Millions of people have followed the path of attaining the truth, which is recommended in the Vedas, and thanks to this they have achieved perfection. This is evidenced by many of the historical narratives that abound in the Vedas. How can we thoughtlessly consider the Vedic scriptures to be fairy tales or epics?! Convinced of the wisdom of the Vedas personal experience Having studied their heritage first-hand, I came to the deep conviction that the Vedas are the most serious and ancient science that is worthy of careful study. I think that after carefully reading this book, you, dear reader, will agree with my point of view.
Who is this book for?
This book is intended primarily for young people who are preparing to start a family. It is also useful for the parents of those who decide to start a family, their friends and relatives. So, for example, it gives practical advice parents who want to help their children in this matter. By the way, this fascinating conversation, in the form in which the book is written, is being conducted specifically with parents who want to help their daughter create a happy family.
Undoubtedly, this book will be useful for those who have already started a family, but do not know what to do next. The book reveals a deep understanding of the laws of a happy family life, and it will be useful to anyone who wants to understand this issue. In other words, this book is for all people seeking happiness.
Introduction
Connection of previous topics in this series with this book
It is no coincidence that from studying the powerful forces of the universe (time and the gunas of material nature) we move on to issues of family relationships. It is properly constructed family relationships that are the practical implementation of how deeply we have studied and correctly understood the influence of the powerful forces of the universe on us. If you have built your family relationships correctly, then you have already passed the exam to study the action of the gunas of material nature and understand the laws of a happy life. By the way, incorrectly constructed family relationships no less clearly characterize the way time and gunas act on us; However, in this case, learning is carried out not through happiness, but through suffering. Therefore, after a detailed study of the influence of time and the modes of material nature on our lives, it is worthwhile to understand in detail the issues proper organization your family life.
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O.G. Torsunov
Laws of a happy family life. Book five
Preface
Why is this publication necessary?
It's no secret that most people in their family life are unhappy. If there is no happiness in family life, then, you see, no success in work will bring joy. Often problems in relationships with relatives take all your strength and interfere with achieving your intended goal. Even when seriously engaged in self-improvement, a person is not always able to change anything for the better in his family life. Moreover, as soon as there is a desire to start improving your family life, relationships with loved ones become even worse and even become completely upset.
So, the problem of proper relationships with relatives has to be solved to this day. Many scientists around the world pay close attention to this issue. Vedic wisdom in this case also provides an original, incomparable to any other explanation for the emergence of family problems, which, as it turns out, we create for ourselves. The Vedas also indicate ways to resolve them. They claim that without knowing how to choose a spouse and how to properly create a happy family with him, hopes for family happiness are like just the dreams of a baby. The fact is that it is through family life that we work off our heaviest karma. That’s why for many of us, difficulties in family life are the biggest test in life.
However, by making an effort to study this topic and thereby managing to create a prosperous family, we will be able to overcome even the greatest adversity much more easily.
Thus, so that family karma does not break us at all, we need to take care of this in advance, even before getting married. However, for the most part, young men and women, swimming in the waves of riotous youth, do not think about it at all.
So, the main goal of this publication is to give young people knowledge about the ways to properly create a happy family. For young people to gain it, their parents must take care of it from childhood. Therefore, the second, no less important task of this publication is to give parents knowledge of how to prepare their children from childhood to create a happy family.
Practical value of the book
This book contains a lively conversation on the topic of our difficult family life. It simultaneously presents three different opinions regarding a happy family life. The author's point of view regarding the successful creation of a family is based on Vedic knowledge and defends its priority. The reader and the reader are guided by their ideas of masculine and, accordingly, feminine character and with their help they defend their “life-tested” positions. A conversation structured in this way flows very lively, highlighting the relevance of the problem being discussed. At times the conversation becomes heated and takes on a rather tense character, while at times it delves into theoretical issues of creating a happy family.
I hope that you, dear reader, will not remain indifferent to what is written and will become the fourth participant in our conversation. Only then will this book acquire practical value for you.
Scientific basis of the book
In the usual understanding, science means certain studies and experiments on the basis of which scientific dissertations are successfully defended. According to the Vedas - the most ancient and independent source of knowledge from modern science - there are two methods of understanding the world: descending and ascending.
The top-down method of knowledge is based on divine wisdom, which is given to humanity from above, that is, from the greatest sages and saints, who, in turn, receive it from the highest beings of the universe. Perhaps such a phrase sounds strange and for some even funny. It may seem that it is talking about something far-fetched.
The author of this book once held the same opinion until he began to study in depth the wisdom of the Vedas. The Vedas state that a person who unprovenly rejects knowledge that he has not yet studied and tested from his own experience should be considered simply a fool.
The Vedas call another type of scientific knowledge of the world ascending, or experimental, which corresponds to the ideas of modern science. This method of knowledge is also recognized by the Vedas, but they place it in second place after the descending method (the foundation of all progress based on ancient knowledge).
In other words, science must first master in detail the heritage that came to us from antiquity, and then move on. Otherwise, in her research she will constantly mark time or even turn back progress towards the destruction of humanity.
Agree that we were brought up on the knowledge that was tested through scientific experiment and therefore was considered unshakable. Nevertheless, every five years modern scientists declare that they previously did not fully understand this or that question (they were stupid), but now they have figured it out (they have become smart).
We are all immensely glad that science is progressing, the only question is where. Not as a reproach to the scientific method of cognition, one can ask: I wonder what scientists will say regarding their current achievements, say, in five years?
So, the Vedas do not reject the ascending method of understanding the world, but believe that science should be directed in the direction recommended by the thousand-year experience of the ancient sages. Only in this case will there be a guarantee that scientific knowledge of the world will not lead us to disaster. Millions of people have followed the path of attaining the truth, which is recommended in the Vedas, and thanks to this they have achieved perfection. This is evidenced by many of the historical narratives that abound in the Vedas. How can we thoughtlessly consider the Vedic scriptures to be fairy tales or epics!? Having confirmed the wisdom of the Vedas from personal experience, studying their heritage first-hand, I came to the deep conviction that the Vedas are the most serious and ancient science that is worthy of careful study. I think that after carefully reading this book, you, dear reader, will agree with my point of view.
Who is this book for?
This book is intended primarily for young people who are preparing to start a family. It is also useful for the parents of those who decide to start a family, their friends and relatives. For example, it gives practical advice to parents who want to help their children in this matter. By the way, this fascinating conversation, in the form in which the book is written, is being conducted specifically with parents who want to help their daughter create a happy family.
Undoubtedly, this book will be useful for those who have already started a family, but do not know what to do next. The book reveals a deep understanding of the laws of a happy family life, and it will be useful to anyone who wants to understand this issue. In other words, this book is for all people seeking happiness.
Introduction
Relationship between previous editions of this series and this book
It is no coincidence that from studying the powerful forces of the universe (time and the gunas of material nature) we move on to issues of family relationships. It is properly constructed family relationships that are the practical implementation of how deeply we have studied and correctly understood the influence of the powerful forces of the universe on us. If you have built your family relationships correctly, then you have already passed the exam to study the action of the gunas of material nature and understand the laws of a happy life.
By the way, incorrectly constructed family relationships no less clearly characterize the way time and gunas act on us; However, in this case, learning is carried out not through happiness, but through suffering.
Therefore, after a detailed study of the influence of time and the gunas of material nature on our lives, it is worthwhile to understand in detail the issues of proper organization of our family life.
Happy family: what does it mean?
What is a happy family life? This is what you first need to understand before starting a family. I hope that you, dear reader, having studied the material of our previous conversations, have already understood that the secret of a happy life lies in competent work on oneself, which, ultimately, should lead a person to spiritual practice. The next step to happiness is to understand how to make spiritual progress without ruining your relationships with your relatives.
As soon as a person begins to work on himself, his worldview and habits rapidly change, which leads to strong changes in life.
Undoubtedly, his relationships with loved ones are rapidly changing as a result of this. By working on oneself competently under the guidance of an experienced mentor and following the recommendations of the scriptures, a person gradually improves his character. It is logical to assume that in relationships with relatives this should bring positive results on the path to happiness. So it is: thanks to properly carried out self-education, family happiness continuously increases.
However life experience shows that most often a person, having begun to engage in self-improvement, on the contrary, spoils his relationships with relatives. What is the reason for this paradox? The fact is that for the most part people engage in self-improvement, guided not by spiritual science, but by whatever they please. As a result of such “spiritual practice”, they begin to be very proud of themselves and their “spiritual” achievements and at the same time despise their relatives who live without striving for changes in themselves. At the same time, these newly minted “saints” and “mediums” begin to blaspheme and scold everything that does not correspond to their worldview. Both ancient religious traditions and progressive cultural foundations of society fall under their criticism.
The Vedas believe that the family foundations of society are the basis for the harmonious development of a person. In most cases, it is a well-structured family life that provides those who strive for perfection with reliable protection for their moral growth and spiritual progress. Of course, there are also rare souls who, having reached a certain level of spiritual perfection, renounce the world and, having taken this step, rise to the next stage of progress. Therefore, it is not surprising that in all spiritual traditions there are monasteries where these ascetics who have renounced the world live.
However, it is very difficult for a person who has recently begun to engage in self-improvement to realize the criterion that would indicate to him how much he has already reached the level of renunciation. Most often, beginners, having taken up self-improvement, begin to consider themselves renounced after just a few months of spiritual practice. Some of them begin to imagine themselves as mentors to all their relatives, without exception, including their parents.
Having become proud of their knowledge, these “five minutes later saints” boldly destroy their family and social ties. How does this usually end? The fact is that after a few months of “detached life,” they get married again and, most often, having moved away from self-improvement, they descend to their former sinful life.
To prevent such incidents from happening while working on oneself, a person needs to understand how competently, under the sensitive guidance of holy people and scriptures, one should engage in self-improvement in the context of family life. Only by adopting a scientific method of self-improvement, tested by the practice of hundreds of thousands of people, can you get a guarantee that progress towards happiness and progress will be stable and unshakable.
The family should become a fortress that protects our happiness
The family should become a fortress that protects us from the degrading influence of our own bad karma.
In order for this fortress to truly be impregnable and protect against all the hardships of life, young people, instead of wasting their lives, should seriously take care of creating a happy family.
To do this, you need to delve into a serious study of the laws of a happy family life. If you approach the issue of creating a family in some other way, then there is very little chance that the strength of the family they create will be strong and indestructible.
Only a competent approach to creating a family, proven by thousands of years of experience of sages, will make your future family life happy.
Relying on chance and luck in this matter is very dangerous. As already noted, family karma is the harshest, and every person in his life will definitely and fully understand and feel this in one way or another. Therefore, before starting a family, young people should seriously work on themselves. If this work turns out to be successful, then, despite all the difficulties of family life, it will bring both happiness and spiritual progress into your life.
So let's don't hesitate to dive into the science of creating a happy family by taking part in the discussion below!
How I understand my family happiness
To marry or not to marry - that is the question
READER: Let's see; It seems to me that, on the contrary, it will interfere.
READER: I'm also glad to meet you. Before you, no one has ever managed to speak so calmly and judiciously with my husband, who is completely intolerant of other people’s opinions.
READER: Well, it's begun! What a wife, she hasn’t even really met the person yet, and she’s already started criticizing me!
READER: Stop grumbling. If you strive for goodness, then work on your character!
READER: What didn't you like again?
READER: The fact that you behave like a woman and constantly mumble, are constantly dissatisfied with something.
READER: Please do something. If she says a few more words, I’m not responsible for myself!
According to the Vedas, there are four ways of life:
1. Apprenticeship (in which it is advisable to observe a vow of celibacy).
2. Family life.
3. Avoidance of responsibilities that interfere with self-improvement.
4. Renunciation of the world.
READER: What, you can’t study and get married at the same time?
READER: Of course you can't! If you got married, and even decided to study, then who will support the family?
READER: My dear, I’m not asking you! Can you at least be quiet here for a little while? Is it possible to discuss such important issues in such an environment?
READER: Here you see! It is best for a married person to take care of his family. This is what I wanted to say, but you always shut my mouth with a smart look. Whether what I say is true or not, you, as always, are not particularly interested in it.
READER: If there is a God, then may He help me continue my studies in these unbearable conditions! I would like to know the reasons why it is better not to get married while studying, but to remain alone?
READER: How does accumulated sexual energy improve the assimilation of material?
READER: It’s strange that sexual energy is somehow used in studies!
READER: What does a person really gain if he does not expend his sexual energy by observing a vow of celibacy?
The Vedas believe that the vow of celibacy promotes the development of good character traits, increases endurance, increases the supply of mental and physical energy, improves health, helps strengthen memory, and increases determination and enthusiasm in achieving goals. Generally speaking, by observing a vow of celibacy, a young person can quickly cultivate and clear his mind, and this is the most important factor for successful study.
The great ancient sage Patanjali emphasizes the importance of celibacy in controlling the body, speech and mind. He explains that preserving the seed imparts valor and determination, strength and power, fearlessness and courage, energy and vitality (Yoga Sutra 2.38).
He suggests preserving the seed through concentrated effort of will.
Let's continue to list the reasons why you need to first learn and then start a family.
2. A person’s life is divided into certain periods. Each of them corresponds to a certain way of life:
– the time before achieving physical and mental maturity corresponds to the period of apprenticeship (childhood, adolescence),
– a person’s maturity corresponds to the period of family life,
– elderly age corresponds to a departure from active material responsibilities and a transition to spiritual responsibilities,
- especially spiritual developed people in old age they can accept renunciation of the world.
The Vedas believe that it is most favorable to link your actions with a certain period of life.
Therefore in adolescence It’s best to study, and when you’re mature, get married. We have already discussed this in topics devoted to the influence of time, place and circumstances on our destiny.
3. Celibacy during the apprenticeship period promotes in-depth study of the material also because no problems other than the study itself are particularly distracting.
4. Before marriage, a person is responsible only for himself; after marriage, he is also responsible for his family.
These additional responsibilities of providing for a family, caring for children and a wife, and arranging a home make it difficult to direct the mind to study and do not allow one to fully concentrate on it.
5. For obvious reasons, after marriage (communication with the opposite sex), a person’s selfishness begins to increase. This interferes with proper listening and deep learning. We have already said that in order for what is heard to penetrate the mind, humility is necessary, and it is easier to cultivate it in oneself without having close communication with the opposite sex.
6. Karma of family relationships is the most difficult and difficult to overcome. Therefore, it is better for the effect of this karma to begin after graduation.
Otherwise, there will simply be no time to study.
Here are the main reasons why it is better not to get married before graduation.
READER: You see, my dear wife. I told you that my family life is not conducive to good learning.
READER: What you're suggesting? Do you think someone is keeping you in your family?
READER: I did not mean that; understand, we are just discussing this topic.
READER: Nothing just happens or is said. Everything in this world has a reason.
READER: Lord, how can you work in such conditions?
It’s somehow strange from you, an unbeliever, to hear so many appeals to God. It sounds like you are very worried. But I don’t understand what is the cause of concern? I believe that your wife has the right to her female point of view, and this does not at all interfere with the discussion of the material. It is for this reason that we invited her here. If her statements seem somewhat emotional to you, know that it is quite difficult for women to restrain their emotions in matters of family relationships.
READER: If you think that I am more emotional than I should be, then please forgive me!
READER: Yes, sorry, dear, I agree with everything, I’m just in a bad mood this morning.
READER: It seems to me that we are discussing this quite vividly interesting topic, that's all.
That's why I'm not angry with you.
READER: You can't imagine how hard it is to study if there are so many problems around. You need to work, raise children, and endure various problems and shortcomings in the character of your loved ones at the same time as studying.
READER: Hard is not the right word. Yes, it’s unlikely that anyone will be able to understand me, you can’t fit into someone else’s skin!
I understand that, being a family man, it is very, very difficult for you to study. However, since you did not encounter this material before getting married, it means that you should start studying it now. As for the topic that we are studying, you undoubtedly have certain advantages over unmarried people. You will be able to understand all our conversations not only theoretically, but also practically. And all this thanks to the fact that your wife agreed to sort out such complex material together with us. True, now an additional emotional burden will fall on your shoulders, but this will only strengthen you.
READER: So far I feel not hardened, but inflamed. Okay, I have a serious question. Speaking about the vow of celibacy, you pointed out the clear advantage of unmarried people over married people. It seems that an unmarried person is better off in every way than a married person. To be honest, that's what I always thought.
READER: It turns out that those who do not have a sexual desire are not recommended by the Vedas to get married at all, and are advised to remain unmarried?
For all other people who are subject to desires for material happiness and well-being, celibacy is recommended for the period while they are studying. When studies are completed, a person who has a strong attraction to the opposite sex, on the contrary, is recommended to begin a responsible life as quickly as possible.
READER: What do you understand now by responsible living? In previous conversations, we have already come to the conclusion that only by engaging in spiritual practice does a person become truly responsible.
However, renunciation of the world should not be artificial (false), it should be conditioned the highest level consciousness.
Therefore, most people are not ready to live in renunciation, and almost all young people, in order to increase responsibility in life, must get married after finishing their studies in order to start taking care of their family. This will help strengthen their minds and will not at all prevent them from achieving spiritual perfection.
READER: I realized: caring for others should increase responsibility, and responsibility, in turn, increases rationality. Without intelligence you will not be happy. Therefore, those who are not capable of renunciation are recommended to get married immediately after studying.
READER: Yes, she tried and, it seems to me, she simply learned all our previous conversations about the action of time and the gunas of material nature by heart.
Now don't put your finger in her mouth.
READER: Thanks for the compliment. I have a question. If a family man behaves irresponsibly with his neighbors, does this mean that his rationality not only does not increase, but, on the contrary, decreases? In other words, does it happen that before marriage a young man behaves much more seriously than after it?
READER: But still, could you touch on it, at least briefly now?
Okay, I'll touch on it briefly. At the beginning of family life, the level of intelligence among spouses actually decreases somewhat. This occurs due to a natural withdrawal into sensual pleasures. However, with proper organization of family life, this period of relaxation of the mind passes and, with strong desire, young people will undoubtedly begin to progress again.
READER: You answered me in general, but I would like to know more specifically, how often do young people after marriage turn out to be more frivolous than before marriage?
If we talk about the relationships of most young people, then a few months after marriage they begin to seem somewhat frivolous to each other, which is quite natural. As I already said, the reason for this is the overly strong immersion in family happiness that is quite natural for this situation. Under family happiness in in this case sexual relations are implied.
If young people, having gone through this stage of family life, subsequently do not begin to work on themselves, then over time their rationality will melt more and more. In turn, this will lead to problems that will have to be worked on sooner or later. Thus, family life constantly forces us to be responsible, and sooner or later we will still have to start working on ourselves.
READER: If the mind constantly melts from family life, then how can one find happiness while living in a family?
READER: I asked you a question only about one spouse. You answer me right away and young man, and about the girl. It seems to me that girls, on the contrary, get smarter when they get married.
Does the intelligence of spouses always decrease or increase synchronously?
READER: But it seems to me that after marriage men most often become lazy and less serious. Women have to work a lot around the house, and not much in the family, so you can relax.
READER: And if the character of only one of the spouses has really deteriorated, then how should the other behave?
READER: Why such hypocrisy: if someone has shortcomings, then why pretend that they don’t exist?
Understand that we are talking about the fact that one of the spouses actually has a better character than the other. This advantage is always expressed in the same way: the spouse with a purer, more sinless character naturally pays attention only to his own shortcomings. He really doesn’t want to see flaws in the character of those close to him.
READER: Is this the only criterion that indicates good character? Are there really no other positive character traits other than not seeing bad qualities in others?
Humility and forgiveness are two keys of the same lock, which opens the door to improving family relationships. If a person is able to develop precisely these character traits, then family relationships it will certainly look better.
READER: And if one of the spouses constantly notices the shortcomings of the other, but the latter does not notice or does not want to notice them in the first, then does not this other become a scapegoat?
And this happens, but only in the case when a person does not notice the shortcomings of relatives because he is either afraid to notice them, or does not want to show through his behavior that he notices them. By such behavior he shows weakness of character and inevitably becomes humiliated. While those who try to behave with honesty, humility and a positive attitude, those close to them quickly begin to appreciate and respect.
However, the nature of our selfishness is such that each spouse tends to quickly notice the bad attitude towards him from his relatives. And at the same time, each of the spouses does not notice at all how he himself inflicts all kinds of insults. Moreover, he considers the insults inflicted on him as fair remarks, which, in his opinion, will definitely help to a loved one get better.
As I have already noted, if a person is not inclined to focus on the shortcomings of his neighbors and, moreover, is able to show positive thinking in any situation, this undoubtedly indicates the advantage and purity of his character.
READER: Is it better not to make fair comments at all, let the relatives live as they want?
READER: How can you determine whether you made a remark correctly or in an unacceptable form?