What interests any woman above all? That's right, men. Surely some of you have had the desire to meet a true Englishman. But that's what he is like the man is English?

Naturally, they differ from Russians in quite a few ways. First of all, they do not like initiatives from a girl in a relationship, which, unfortunately, is what some of our men are guilty of. The man himself invites you on a date, he himself proposes to start a relationship, he himself proposes without hints. It wouldn't hurt for us to learn.

Men of England Quite good-natured, they are happy to help when necessary. Like all Englishmen, they are conservative, restrained in emotions and gallant, and they are very proud of these qualities. You can also familiarize yourself with popular men's.

What may be a little surprising is the constant consistency and moderation in everything. The British don’t start quarrels over trifles, never show jealousy (why waste time, you’re still together anyway) and constantly clarify all the little things. If something is unknown to an English man or happens unexpectedly, be prepared for obvious bewilderment on his part.

Men there look at life as a program on a computer. All actions must be clearly programmed and debugged, just like in life everything should be point by point. Partly they are like this because of their upbringing; from childhood, boys are raised there without pampering, they make many demands, sometimes very serious.

British men love to look after, doing it elegantly and beautifully. They give gifts and flowers to their chosen one, but this is only after a certain period of meetings, not immediately. Suddenly she doesn’t suit him as a girl - English practicality does not allow wasting money in this case.

But the British are usually in no hurry to get married. And here everything is simple - a family in England needs a good income, life there is expensive, so they marry only those in whom they are completely confident. Quite reasonable, I must admit.

In England, there is a custom that is a little strange for Russian girls: on the first date, the man pays the entire bill, and on other dates the bill is usually divided in half (whether in a restaurant or in an expensive one). This is where Russian men take advantage; we are ready to pay for our companion on every date.

By the way, when you start a relationship with an English guy, don’t expect that you will spend Saturday evenings together. According to tradition, Friday and Saturday are times for all-male gatherings with friends. Therefore, if a man suddenly asks a girl out on a date on Saturday, everyone around him will decide that he has no real friends. At first, this division of days of the week can be a little annoying, because the girl wants constant attention. And the English man has a weekly Saturday outing with friends to the pub.

Unlike our men, in England the male sex is more reserved when communicating with unfamiliar people. It’s in our bars that two complete strangers can discuss their new car or ex-wife. But in England you won’t find this, they are ready to discuss only secular topics with strangers, and even then the conversation will be unemotional, they will not interrupt you, even when they hear an obvious lie. Although, for us this may seem like a plus.

This is how they appear Englishmen, English men in particular. To understand them completely, you need to communicate with them a lot and for a long time, and even then you simply won’t notice all the character traits.

Compliance with the basic principles allows you to avoid many mistakes and smooth out the difficulties of the adaptation period married life, which are certainly the same for both mononational and international pairs:

• Agree “on the shore” about those aspects of family life that can cause conflicts: finances, raising children, distribution of the family budget, etc.
• Recognize contradictions in relationships. Do not create illusions (in order not to be disappointed, you must not be enchanted). Don't be surprised when your family life turns out to be completely different from what you imagined it to be. You must be prepared for serious internal changes. Flexibility, tolerance for other people's opinions, other people's values, respect for foreign culture and willingness to change are the main key to success in marriage with a foreigner.
• Don't turn a blind eye to difficulties. Both spouses will have to put up with misunderstandings and difficulties in communication, and accept in the other what seem strange quirks and even annoying shortcomings. The clash of two different cultures in a single family can lead to serious conflict and disappointment. At the junction of two cultures, it is important to grow a third – a compromise family culture.
• You should also not be afraid of difficulties, because overcoming them together is a great opportunity to quickly get to know each other.
• Learn to understand each other, get to know your partner’s psychology, find compromises. Understand and anticipate the desires and needs of your partner.
• Be tolerant and flexible, be able to apologize and accept apologies. You cannot constantly remind your partner about mistakes, about the fact that you once violated family relationships. Do not impose your demands, respect your partner’s “I”.
• Understand the causes and consequences of infidelity.
• Don’t shoot from the shoulder, but look for a way out. Don’t run away in different directions when faced with the first difficulties.
• It is important to focus on what you have in common, despite cultural differences and language barriers. We must learn not to avoid problems associated with cultural differences, but to recognize differences and anticipate possible stumbling blocks.

Why do people get divorced? mixed marriages? Reasons and motives for divorce- these are different things. Motives for divorce may be:

lack of common views and interests, inconsistency of characters, adultery, absence or loss of feelings of love, love for another, frivolous attitude towards marital responsibilities, poor relationships with parents, alcoholism or drug addiction of a spouse, lack of normal living conditions, sexual dissatisfaction.

Just as in ordinary marriages, there are many options for divorce in mixed marriages. reasons. How many families, so many reasons. Moreover, one divorce may have several reasons.

Very often, this reason is the discrepancy between our ideas about ideal partner, formed under the influence of the parental family, the idea of ​​\u200b\u200bfamily in the native country, and real partner. Modern families focus on mutual marital love. And inflated demands are often placed on a partner chosen for love. The differences in family patterns across cultures cannot be underestimated. Often these expectations remain unspoken and even unconscious, and items on the “expectations list” often contradict each other and cannot coexist in one person. As in the joke about a wife: a wife should be a housewife in the kitchen, a courtesan in bed, and a queen when visiting.

Very often, spouses realize that they got married to a completely different person, they lament how the person has changed in marriage and that the love has passed. But in fact, the illusions are gone and there is a reason to get to know your real spouse, and also to see the real you.

A specific illusion in marriage with a foreigner - it is possible "marry into the country", and happiness in marriage with a man will follow. Another illusion when successful Russian ladies with higher education from the capital "lowering the bar" and connect their lives with a truck driver from a village in a western country. It quickly becomes clear that the spouses have nothing in common; the same thing would happen in the event of a similar misalliance in their home country.

In general, in the family life of spouses, one of whom has moved to the country of residence of the other, there are several stages. First stage – addiction stage(the moving spouse must undergo socialization in the new place and is completely dependent on the other spouse). Second stage – with stage of alienation, attempts to defend their personal space and individuality. Moreover, the more ideal the partner seemed at the first stage, the deeper the disappointment in him at the second. The third stage is either recovery the partner’s former attractiveness and mutual understanding, or gap.

According to theory acculturation, developed J. Berry, There are four forms of cultural (this fully applies to marriage immigration): assimilation, separation, marginalization, integration. Depending on the extent to which the maintenance of cultural identity and inclusion in a new culture is recognized. The ideal option for an immigrant and for the family as a whole is integration(identification with both new and native culture). Unlike integration, separation implies the isolation of the immigrant from the new culture, assimilation– denial of the native culture and identification of oneself only with the new culture, and marginalization– lack of stable psychological connections with either the native or the new culture.

What else can complicate the life of an international couple? Very often for both spouses this means remarriage. The most common types of remarriages are the marriage of a middle-aged or elderly divorced man to a younger, free and childless woman. If a woman grows out of her parental form of marriage and begins to follow her own line, this leads to conflicts. The second option is marriage to a divorced woman with children. In most cases, both partners are divorced, and the age difference is usually small. Both were dissatisfied in their first marriage and enter a new one with the hope that this time their married life will be better. Often children from first marriages become the cause of conflicts in new family. To avoid this, stepfathers and stepmothers should try to take a place in their children's lives that is different from the place own father and mother. If they try to compete with the child's natural parents, they will fail.

A Russian study of remarried spouses shows that about 40% of men and about 25% consider the children of their wife/husband from their first marriage as “a hindrance in marital life.” And according to American psychologists, stepmothers face more problems in a new family than stepfathers, apparently due to the prevailing stereotype of the “evil stepmother.”

Very often, unresolved problems in first marriages turn into second ones. In people who are insecure, with complexes and psychological problems this manifests itself in choosing exactly the same partner as in the first marriage. So a woman, having divorced her despot husband, steps on the same rake in her second marriage. And a man, having divorced a dominant woman, chooses new wife exactly the same.

Adequate and adaptive people are able to draw conclusions from previous failures in relationships and make meaningful and rational choices, making every effort to save a new marriage.

And now a little about the peculiarities of marriage with an English man.

Let me make a reservation right away, we are talking about a typical and adequate Englishman. We will not take moral monsters into account, freaks are freaks in Africa too, this category does not know nationality.

In marriage with the English, the main word is - partnership. For the British, equality in relationships and adherence to rules and agreements are fundamental. And these rules imply decency towards women. The British are not famous for their temperament in love, courtship is boring, and you can’t expect romance from them. But you can always count on them not to leave you sick or in difficulties. If a wife cannot or does not want to work, an Englishman is usually able to understand and accept this.

English men - good fathers . They rarely save on children; the father is obliged to provide his children with a happy, healthy childhood. In education, everything natural is approved, adaptation to the cold, freedom, no violence.

Usually an Englishman chooses his wife thoughtfully; rarely the main criteria are sexuality, youth, and beauty. At the same time, love recedes into the background in priorities, but remains in the first place mutual respect and understanding.

Jealousy in society it is condemned and carefully hidden. An Englishman will not understand if his wife monitors his mobile phone or personal correspondence, and will not humiliate himself by the same actions towards his wife.

But very often the British discuss difficulties in life, for example, in relationships with colleagues or other work problems.

One of the important traits of a wife for an Englishman is the ability save– on utilities, transport, food and clothing. One may not expect grand gestures from the Englishman, but they are not particularly stingy either. If sometimes the wife allows herself to spend a lot, this will not raise serious objections. Respect for good, expensive, natural things will always earn your husband's approval.

An English husband usually does not refuse housework, even in our opinion, completely feminine.

All English people are certainly distinguished by their love of nature, which is why one of the forms of leisure in the country is country walks, barbecue. Love for nature also manifests itself in love for domestic animals and in caring for wild animals.

Work-related injuries are quite common in the UK, and many people injured in such accidents suffer significant injuries. monetary compensation for injuries sustained and financial losses incurred, including lost earnings and private medical expenses.

1. Two or more citizenships - multiple citizenship (a situation when a person acquires a second citizenship without the knowledge or permission of the state of which he was originally a citizen) - for example, a Russian citizen acquires British citizenship without formalizing a renunciation of Russian citizenship. 2. Dual citizenship (a situation where a person acquires a second citizenship in accordance with a special agreement on resolving issues of dual citizenship (Russia had such international treaties - agreements only with Turkmenistan and Tajikistan).

Britain, Britain, mistress of the seas... The glorious past of the great empire, the exploits of brave soldiers who paid for its power with blood and lives - these echoes of past greatness still leave their mark on the worldview of the British.

It cannot be otherwise: the nation, which at one time conquered and turned half the world into colonies, looks somewhat down on the non-British part of it. In addition, the island geography of Great Britain partly explains the detachment and individualism of its inhabitants: Europe is a “continent” of which they completely refuse to recognize and perceive themselves as a part. Everything British is good and trustworthy because it has stood the test of time and become Her Majesty's Tradition. Everything “continental” is vain, changeable, and therefore short-lived and should be treated with caution.

This is roughly what a Briton thinks - a fan of customs and traditions (sometimes that have long since become obsolete, but still exist in spite of common sense and expediency solely due to the British people’s dislike for any changes). Old is gold - this is what an old English proverb says, emphasizing the real value of everything past and old.

Traditionalism and adherence to established, unshakable rules are a funny and often a source of jokes trait of the inhabitants of Foggy Albion. However, jokes are jokes, and the constancy of the British in their affections is a sign that for the most part they are reliable people who know how to keep their promises and can do business with. Isn’t this what women who come to a dating site to look for their soulmate are looking for in men? They are fed up with changes in life and now especially value constancy and predictability. Few Englishmen start relationships on the side, much less leave their wife for a young girl. Walking around the city, you can often see older people holding hands and treating each other with tenderness.

The British marry late, mainly after 30 years. It is considered the norm here to live for several years before getting married. civil marriage. One of the reasons why they still get married is the reduced tax for those who are married. Most British people become fathers after the age of 35.

The British love to be close to their children and raise them. You can often meet fathers with strollers in parks. If the family is separated, the Briton will regularly pay the elements. But not at all because of love for children, but because of strict legislation. If at least one loophole is found, in order to save their finances, they will take advantage of it. But at the same time, during a divorce, the man still continues to spend a lot of time with his baby.

A big advantage of the British, especially for divorced women with children, is their love for children, and without dividing into theirs and others. An Englishman will have no problem marrying a girl with a child and will take care of and raise her child.

In families, there is usually no separation of concepts into male and female. women's work. A man can cook, hang laundry, wash dishes, tidy up, and help his wife around the house. And this is without shouting that such matters do not concern him and that it is beneath his dignity. In the UK, equal rights for partners in running a household are accepted, so the British are eligible bachelors.

The dank and damp climate of Great Britain has left its mark on the temperament of its inhabitants - you will not find too violent passions and bright emotions here: if someone expresses their feelings too noisily in the middle of a London or Liverpool street, then we can give an absolute guarantee that it is anyone , but not a born Briton, a true and unflappable English gentleman.

The island's cold weather makes the locals hardened. Here you can often find a Briton in a light T-shirt and shorts when there is a strong wind outside and the weather is not at all warm. Don't be surprised if your fiancé or husband is bewildered by how you wrap yourself before going out.

Gentlemanship is as constant and an integral sign of a true Briton as adherence to tradition. Today it has little in common with high society manners and means only an established and ingrained habit of “playing by the rules.” “This is not cricket” - this is what the British say, disapproving of someone's dishonest actions and unwillingness to keep their promises.

The British are always polite, which instantly melts the hearts of Russian girls. “Please” and “thank you” are the most common words spoken by Brits. And he will expect the same from his chosen one. Here men do not welcome rude girls.
Scandals, screams, broken dishes are rare in family life with an Englishman. He will not tolerate noise and loud scandals. But we must pay tribute to the British. They always try to find out the cause and solve the problem. Until the last moment, a British resident will seek consensus with his soul mate.

By the way, open reproach and condemnation are not accepted in British society: sometimes the only reaction to misbehavior can be only pursed lips and an arrogantly upturned chin - it is believed that this should be quite enough for the offender to understand how low he has fallen in the eyes of others .

However, it would be a mistake to think that the British are dry and impenetrable pedants. Probably no one knows how to make fun of themselves as desperately as they do: even in the most difficult, sometimes tragic, life situations The British not only completely retain their presence of mind, but also find the strength to joke about what is happening. These people's sense of humor is absolutely amazing.

Often, after a date with an Englishman, many girls begin to complain about his stinginess because he invited them to a cafe and did not pay the bill for two. This has less to do with the character and greed of the man, and more to do with the standard behavior of women in the UK. The girls here are independent and pay for all their purchases and lunches in cafes, even on dates. This is why separate billing has been adopted in the UK. But once you show the Brit that you don’t mind being looked after, he will shower you with flowers, interesting gifts and going to cafes. Men in Britain are not greedy at all. Yes, many of them are then very frugal in family life and do not accept unplanned expenses, but they do not skimp on courtship.

Planning family life with a resident of Foggy Albion, it is worth considering that sports broadcasts and gatherings with friends in the pub will play a significant role in his life. Beer is the British favorite drink. English men don't go on a drinking binge, don't come home on wobbly legs and don't make scandals. But they drink a lot. And you have to get used to the fact that your husband can show up drunk late in the evening after watching a football match with friends.

Having moved to Britain, you will have to adapt to their diet. Breakfast is a must here. And the famous joke “Oatmeal, sir” perfectly reflects its essence. Oatmeal, wheat or corn flakes are ideal breakfast options. Eating late, after 7 pm, is not accepted here. And it is unlikely that you will be able to change the habits of your English husband. Rather, you will have to adapt to the new nutrition schedule.

Britain is a country of collectors. And, perhaps, after a couple of months of relationship with your boyfriend, you will learn about his unusual hobby. It is not necessary that he will collect stamps, unusual mugs or travel postcards. Collectibles are sometimes amazing. These could be unusual labels from purchased goods, bright caps from beer bottles, or funny shaped glasses. Collecting occupies an important place in the life of any Englishman.

The British love walking around their country. Therefore, when marrying a British man, you should be prepared to spend frequent weekends in nature. A married couple riding bicycles in the outskirts of the city after a working week is not uncommon here.

The British also know how to celebrate: for example, their wedding is not a prim, monotonous ceremony that sets teeth on edge, but fun party with an abundance of treats and observing many wedding traditions(ah, these traditions!). For example, a bride invites five of her bridesmaids to the wedding, whose dresses are specially sewn to match the bride’s outfit and are paid for by her mother. There is no question of stinginess and saving at a British wedding: it is believed that luxury wedding- the key to a prosperous life for young people.

These videos will clearly show how weddings take place in England:

However, the life of a young wife after the wedding will not be a continuous series of shopping tours according to her mood: every purchase should be expedient, good and worth the money. And your behavior should also become what is customary in Britain - restrained and friendly. And if you are still a skilled housewife with good manners with a smiling look - then you will clearly be welcome on the Island. A Briton will not understand the foolish waste of money because he liked “that blouse”, or his mood has suddenly deteriorated and only shopping can lift it. All purchases must be planned and taken into account in the family budget. Thoughtless purchases can cause scandals in the family and worsen relationships with your husband.

Remember one thing: daring clothes and bright, flashy makeup will not be appreciated by your husband, his parents, or neighbors.

I will write about English men. I think that the text will dispel some myths that are very strong among women in Russia. During the Soviet era, there was a belief that a foreigner was practically a prince on a white horse. Such a misconception can be justified by objective reasons, the Iron Curtain, etc. But I noticed that the myth about a certain exclusivity of men over the hill is still alive than all living things, and it is still considered very prestigious to marry a foreigner. I have never had such ideas, so it’s surprising for me to come across them every time, especially among educated women

I will describe how courtship occurs and generally try to give some characteristics to men in general. I will write about the English family later, as well as about wider aspects of the culture. Let me make a reservation right away that I am writing from the position of traditional and conservative views.

Common features

In England, men are less likely to cheat. But not because the British are so moral, it’s just the principle of “fair play”. Taking someone else’s is bad. In addition, the British are inert, do not reflect much on the topic of feelings and love, and do not like to change the existing order of things, but to have a mistress It’s still very costly in terms of time, finances and energy, just like leaving an established family

The British are not pretentious in terms of appearance. You can often see a handsome man paired with an unsightly woman, sometimes downright ugly. And not because English women are scary and there is no one to choose from, not at all, in Britain the cult of appearance and body is actually not very developed, plus again inertia plays a role: they follow the path of least resistance, usually ugly women are more accessible and accommodating. Older men do not pretend to have relationships with young men; they mostly choose women their own age.

The British pay fair alimony after a divorce. Again, the principle of fair play, plus legislation under which you won’t be spoiled, although if there is a loophole for non-payment, they use it like little ones. After a divorce, they may not see their children for years and they may not care about them at all, even if they pay all the alimony

The British drink, they drink a lot, but they still slip into outright multi-day drinking bouts less often. Again, it depends on the social stratum, but if you take the middle peasant, then the percentage of clinical alcoholics is less than in Russia, but here there were no cataclysms like in Russia, from which you not only go into binge drinking, but hang yourself.

English men rarely become outright dependents, with the exception of professional gigolos, but only because a rare English woman will allow such a situation.

In terms of appearance, the British take care of themselves, but without fanaticism. Americans love jokes about the crooked and neglected teeth of the British, it's true. In principle, there is no cult of athletic, pumped up bodies among men. Well, they try not to overeat, they do aerobic exercise to the best of their ability, which does not lead to a muscular body. In the lower social strata, nutrition is not monitored at all.

The gentleman is already a dinosaur

Many women in Russia believe in the myth that the British are all gentlemen, and in general almost every aristocrat... if not by blood, then by vocation. There is no trace of gentlemanliness here. And it didn’t exist in the sense of courtliness even before the sexual revolution. True English lady she had to be able to steadfastly endure all the vicissitudes of fate and not complain, she did not have to expect concessions from men. On this moment in fact, there is not even a courtship ritual. This does not depend on the social stratum... by the way, it’s a paradox, but among ordinary hard workers from the working class there are more courteous and courteous men than among those higher on the social ladder.

Fear of embarrassment

The English of both sexes are generally very constrained people; the biggest nightmare for an Englishman is to find himself in a situation of embarrassment, i.e. in a situation of awkwardness, confusion, embarrassment. Almost all communication codes are designed to avoid this situation or not allow it to arise. Another cultural aspect- the British are not straightforward, they like to wander around their gardens, speak in allegories, or simply the absolute opposite of what they think; open expression of feelings is not accepted. This is also part of the process of avoiding embarrassment. In this aspect, the relationship between M and F is simply a minefield for the poor fellows, at every step there is a risk of embarrassment, they are very afraid of refusal or misunderstanding, they are afraid to express the seriousness of their intentions and feelings, the British generally do not like straightforward, deep seriousness in all respects, this is considered bad manners. English women on the love front are much more relaxed and straightforward than the British, otherwise they would stop reproducing altogether.

Flirting and courtship...so to speak

The British don't know how to flirt. Or rather, they know how to flirt, but only within the framework of polite etiquette, when it does not oblige anyone to anything. In England, unlike the USA, flirting in the workplace is not a crime and is even part of some corporate culture. There are special places for social flirting - a cafeteria, a printer, etc.

But if an Englishman falls in love, although this is a big word given their temperament, well, let’s say, he begins to feel attracted to a woman, then a bottleneck arises. This bottleneck is overcome in a unique way. Two ways

1. Irony and sarcasm. Banter. How in primary school: Hit the girl on the head with his briefcase, showing sympathy. So it is with the British. Sympathy is expressed in jokes and banter. In principle, it can actually be funny and funny if a woman is okay with self-irony, I really like English humor, but over time it gets boring and begins to irritate.
2. Outright rudeness. A paradoxical situation arises, but despite all the fear of embarrassment, it is easier for an Englishman to get drunk and say something like: “fancy a shag” (which means “let’s get laid”) than to invite a woman on an “official” date. Because a date is too straightforward, too direct, too open about feelings and intentions. And it doesn’t seem shameful to offer a fuck casually, if they refuse not so embarrassedly: “I seemed to be passing by here, I had an urge, and you seem to work well as a sperm receptacle.”

Dating problem

With the above-described features of communication, the problem of dating arises. Relationships usually start either at work, or in the learning process, or through a circle of friends and acquaintances. It is not customary here to approach a complete stranger while sober in broad daylight. I remember once an Englishman met me in the park where I was taking photographs. When I told my local friends about this, this passage was discussed for a very long time. Everyone was very surprised and alarmed that he just came up to meet me like that. As a result, my friends agreed that nothing good should be expected from this man... in principle, that’s how it turned out.
If we talk about certain dating clubs, then again the principle of indirectness and beating around the bush works. After all, a club or a dating site is too openly a statement of its intentions. Therefore, on dating sites, the British are rarely the first to write, they “wink”, like, but rarely openly write a message. Those friends of mine who found a couple through websites took the first step themselves.

Therefore, acquaintances between complete strangers often occur in a drunken stupor in clubs and pubs. A man gets drunk until he loses his pulse and then, having become bolder, approaches the woman he likes, if the woman doesn’t mind, then immediately on the sofa or in the corner they begin straight-up foreplay, end in someone’s home in a bed, and get acquainted in the morning. Very romantic. Many of my local friends met their regular boyfriends and even husbands this way, and these are not the lower social stratum, but educated young professionals from good families. If a man has not reached the point of conditioning, then he will stare at the woman in a daze, but will be afraid to approach... even if she is already wide-eyed, flirting. Sometimes they simply do not understand the language of flirting and coquetry, even the most overt flirtation. Feminism also plays a role here. And without aggressive feminism, the British are not particularly brave, but with feminism they are so afraid of everything. Women have already begun to take the dating process into their own hands and are the first to approach. Therefore, men often play the role of muslin young ladies. Confectionary-bouquet period? no, there is almost no such thing here.

It should be noted that the aggressive ideology of feminism, homosexuality and other rainbow freedoms has had a very significant impact on the relationship between a man and a woman. It's unavoidable. Men are feminized, women are masculinized.

First date

If, after all, a certain stage of courtship has begun, well, at least the first “official” invitation to a date has been announced, then you should not expect anything exciting. The British are generally not very impulsive and hide their feelings, everything goes according to the hackneyed boring scenario. An invitation to the cinema is already something interesting. The theater is something out of the ordinary! A bouquet of flowers - wow, what an entertainer! Basically, this is an invitation for a glass of beer in a pub, for coffee, or less often for dinner in a restaurant. The bill is usually split in half. It's rare to pay for a woman. This does not depend on the man’s income. Paying for a woman is too straightforward and feminism again, but if you pay, it means that sex will happen that same evening. And even without paying the bill, the man expects the woman to agree to sex on the second “officially” announced date. Yes, English women themselves don’t mind, as I wrote above, it’s quite normal to immediately jump into bed when drunk.

Don't expect any interesting compliments, beautiful confessions, see above. It’s good if they say “you look gorgeous,” which means “you look great.” They also resort to this technique - to compliment not the woman’s appearance itself, again too straightforward, but the items of her wardrobe, like a beautiful blouse, or this color suits you. It is not customary to show concern openly, even if the couple is already officially dating. Recently, the tabloids were screaming that Prince William opened an umbrella over Kate and carried it, and even, believe it or not, His Highness’s hands did not wither.
They don’t walk you home, even if they live close to each other. If they accompany you, then further sex is implied.

The inertia and laziness of men sometimes reaches the point of ridiculousness. If some kind of acquaintance has taken place and phone numbers have been exchanged, then often men seem to begin to arrange a first one-on-one meeting, and then they say something like: “listen, I’m tired here, let’s just come to me, we’ll see.” movie or cook something." read - “I’m too lazy to get up from the couch, so come on, let’s have a quickie.” In my opinion, hiring prostitutes is much easier in this case.

Most Englishmen are deprived of some instinctive courage of a male to achieve a woman, to invest some effort so that she becomes yours. If a woman hesitates to have sex, even if the woman is very beautiful, smart and just a godsend, then men immediately switch to those who are more accessible and accommodating. Therefore, intercultural marriages have become so widespread, when the British marry black women, Chinese women, Filipino women, etc. Less hassle

Asexual Society

But what about secular gallantry? It is precisely in relation to women that it is not here. There is a non-gender politeness when people hold doors or let people through, regardless of gender. Here they don’t accept or give coats to women, they don’t pull up a chair, they don’t help them carry a heavy bag in the subway or the airport until the woman asks. In front of women they freely swear, make obscene jokes, including in a professional working environment, and the higher the rank, the less any limits are observed at all. It has become typical to address a woman as “mate,” which means friend, or can even be translated as “dude.” Initially, the word was used in informal communication among men of the lower classes, now beyond gender and beyond classes. It seems that society is completely asexual. If anyone is active in this regard, it is gays and lesbians. And heterosexuals are nailed down from around the corner like a bag of dust

There are also positive aspects to this non-gender attitude towards women. It’s quite easy to make acquaintances at all sorts of seminars and professional events; you can calmly exchange contacts with men and they won’t perceive it as flirting or an ambiguous proposal. This is called socializing, convenient.

Among the British there are also men in the traditional and, let’s say, “continental” sense of the word; they are often about 40 or older. There are also enough men who are self-confident, not inert and not amoeba-like, and younger, but again this is not the rule, but rather the exception.

The Irish are already more like men for the most part, because Irish society still retains its traditional way of life. But the Scots are strange, I don’t like them at all, they are quite hysterical and greedy, the British have jokes about their stinginess.

I will write about the English family later

Commitment family values, impeccable education and manners, specific humor - this is all about prim British men.

The British seem boring only at first glance. It doesn’t matter whether you met him in an English course, when you had difficulty pronouncing “London from the Capital of Great Britain,” on the Internet, or while walking around Trafalgar Square.

You don't have to graduate from Oxford or think about what to say and how to behave with him - there are already several tips on how to win the heart of an Englishman.

You can not only attract his attention, but very soon change your passport.

Write it down! 5 main rules, which will help you please, at first glance, a cold British man.

1. Talk and listen

There is a myth that Europeans are looking exclusively for housewives. That's why it's a myth, to debunk it. will be truly interested in your life and you as a person.

Therefore - I assure you - it is true interested man will be happy to listen to you talk about yourself, your life and your country. (Remember moderation and balance)

The British are excellent listeners. Although, don’t forget that you shouldn’t constantly talk about yourself.

It is difficult to meet an Englishman who does not control his (unless he is an ardent Liverpool fan during the Champions League) and, but this does not mean that he is not interested.

They usually laugh sincerely, understand humor (of any kind) perfectly, and joke well themselves, but all this is accompanied by courtesy and courtesy, especially towards women.

They also love to communicate - that’s why they willingly talk about themselves and their country, but it’s important to ask the right questions. This is no longer a discovery of British scientists, but an elementary one: people love when people are interested in them.

Tell, ask and listen. Speak, smile, in a word, be alive: don’t be shy to express your feelings and emotions.

Not only the British: any man will appreciate your openness and sincere interest in your interlocutor, especially on the first date.

2. Traditions

The English, and the British in general, live in their own separate world- on the island and in the still existing monarchy, with centuries-old traditions. And the latter definitely cannot be taken away from them.

If you have once visited England, you probably understood: the queen, tea at 5 o’clock and “British English” are sacred.

If a woman comes up with ideas, a man brings them to life. Don't even think about paying the bill at a café, even if it's common practice in Britain to split the bill.

I assure you that an English gentleman knows: he always pays. Dot.

By the way, it’s worth mentioning separately about the holidays: Christmas, St. Patrick’s Day, Easter - it’s not like congratulating an Englishman on these holidays of death. Therefore, you can immediately mark the main British celebrations on your calendar.

3. Smile

Everything is different there. Talking directly about work, children and hobbies on the first date should be done very gently and carefully.

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With the British, everything is different. This does not mean that they want to hide something: it is just their custom to talk about abstract topics: musical tastes, books, leisure time.

If you communicate with a Briton on the Internet or you see each other for the umpteenth time, you can safely ask questions about business, his family and hobbies. If you really charmed him.

By the way, the British, like all men, do not like to be distracted from work, so try not to write to him during working hours.

No, no, while at work he still loves you, it’s just that the office is his little personal world.

5. Love for animals

Don't know what to talk about with a Brit? Talk about animals. The inhabitants of the island adore everyone without exception: big, small, wild, domestic.

The most a large number of Britain's thriving animal welfare shelters and foundations are proof of this. And all your ideas in the spirit of pacifism will become an excellent topic for conversation and maybe even for investment.

The favorites are, of course, the dogs. Millions of British people watch the royal corgis, and the British dote on their pets, communicating with them affectionately and respectfully.

Particular attention is paid to exhibitions where the dog can be shown in all its glory, especially if the pedigree goes back to the royal family.

A separate nuance: love for nature and British landscapes. Even in the smallest and most inconspicuous courtyard in London you can find a stunning classic English garden, green and blooming, or “winter”.

Don't put all your eggs in one basket

This is one of the most popular British sayings. ABOUT When communicating with an Englishman, just like with any other man, you should not bet on one thing.

Finding balance and harmony in your condition is perhaps the main task of any woman.

This is exactly what men are attracted to, all men without exception. Lightness, smiling and openness are your main trump cards.

Yes, the British have their own characteristics: specific humor, adherence to traditions and selectivity in communication.

Follow the plan, and very soon your Englishman's heart will begin to melt. Share in the comments what you know about how maybe I missed some features of communicating with the British?

Don't miss your chance
Ksenia Litvin, psychologist Growth Phase.