So a new one has begun academic year, there are chores and worries ahead. First-graders get used to a completely new life for them, and this is sometimes quite difficult. They have to learn all the new rules and one of them is the rules of etiquette for schoolchildren at the table.

Learning etiquette

Good manners must be instilled from childhood, then it will be much easier for the child and at school to behave correctly.
Even before school, the child must learn the minimum of the rules of etiquette at the table:

• do not indulge in while eating;
• eat gently without stuffing your mouth;
• wipe your mouth with a napkin, not a sleeve;
• do not put your elbows on the table.

Ways to teach etiquette

There are many ways to teach your child etiquette both at school and in preschool age... Many of them are easy for parents to use.

Remember: The child must be interested in learning, otherwise you will lose his attention and there will be no benefit from the lesson.

Book source of knowledge

In the bookstore, you can buy a book on etiquette for children, but you need to choose it correctly:

• it is better to take a not too large book;
• illustrations contribute to better assimilation of information in it;
• a book on only one type of etiquette is easier to study;
• a simple and clear text is a guarantee that the child will approve of the book.

Cartoons

Cartoons are an important part of a child's life. So why not take advantage of this? Instructive cartoons can be viewed together. Thus, you can not only talk about important points, but also just spend time with your baby.

Chatting with children

Conversation is purposeful communication, a method of raising preschool or school age but not before.

Conversation rules:

• should be short;
• meaningful;
• the presence of illustrations (cards, drawings, etc.).

Typically, such conversations are conducted by teachers at school or kindergarten.

Poems and games

V game form almost everything can be explained to a child. And the rules of etiquette at the table can be easily beaten. There are game scenarios on the Internet, in books, or you can come up with your own.
Rhythm rhymes make it easier to learn the rules and how they apply in life.

In addition, the study of poetry trains the child's memory and speech, and also helps to expand the vocabulary.

School cafeteria rules

During breaks, all the students of the school run into the canteen and, of course, a lot of people gather. It is necessary to have time to eat, but it is also important not to forget to follow the general rules of etiquette:

• do not run ahead of the class;
• do not rush to sit at the table;
• do not push;
• be sure to wash your hands;
• follow the queue;
• walk carefully around the dining room between tables;
• after the meal, remove the dishes after themselves.

At the table

Lunch will be more enjoyable if you follow the simple rules of etiquette at the table:

From early childhood, it is necessary to teach the child to eat neatly, soundlessly, to use the dinner set and napkin correctly, and not to talk at the table. It is time to teach a child from the age of five to six months, that is, when they begin to spoon-feed him.

Before feeding, be sure to wash your hands, lay a tablecloth or oilcloth on the table, tie a clean napkin to the child, put a bowl of boiled water and cotton wool nearby. The spoon should be comfortable, small, with smooth edges. The baby should be fed carefully, after eating, wipe his lips with damp cotton wool, then with a clean napkin.

As soon as the child begins to eat on his own (approximately between a year and two), it is necessary to teach him to wash his hands thoroughly before each meal, tie a clean napkin. The napkin should be changed frequently (at least twice a week). The spoon should be lightweight and comfortable. From the very beginning, be sure to ensure that the child holds the spoon between the index, thumb and middle fingers of the right hand. Under no circumstances should he be allowed to hold the spoon in his fist. Before eating, check the cleanliness of your child's nose so that he does not develop the habit of sniffling or chomping.

From four to five years old, when the child is already used to eating with a spoon on his own, it is time to teach him to use a fork, not too large, comfortable and not sharp. Immediately pay close attention to how the baby picks up the fork, how he holds it. After all, it is much easier at the very beginning to teach a child how to use the dining set correctly than to retrain him at an older age.

As soon as the child learns to eat on his own, he should be seated at the table with adults. At the same time, the mother, father, older sisters and brothers should always remember that the child takes an example from them, watching how they use the dinner set, how they take bread, how they sit at the table.

Between six and seven years old, a child should be able to use a knife, cut meat, holding a knife in his right hand, and a fork in his left, to know that it is impossible to eat from a knife. He is already able to learn more complex things, namely:

• that fish, cutlets, cabbage rolls, scrambled eggs (without ham) are eaten with a fork, without the aid of a knife,

• they take bread from the common dish with their hands onto their plate and eat it, breaking it off in pieces,

• chicken, goose and other poultry can be eaten by taking it by the bone,

• roast is eaten by cutting it off from a whole piece, without first cutting the whole piece into pieces; while holding the fork in the left hand, and the knife in the right,

• children eat fruit compotes with teaspoons, silently spit a bone from their mouth into a spoon, bringing it to their lips,

• fresh fruits are taken from the vase by hand,

• tea is poured into a glass or a cup incompletely, sugar is stirred with a spoon quietly and slowly, before drinking the spoon is taken out and put on a saucer. If a glass of tea is in the cup holder, then the spoon cannot be removed while drinking and sticks with your finger.

It should be remembered that the whole environment in which the child has to eat should be calm, create a good mood.

All parents want to raise not only healthy, but also well-mannered children who can behave with dignity and decent in any situation, in any society. Good well-bred child knows how to observe etiquette at the table, and parents should teach him these rules.

The rules of etiquette are understood as the norms of behavior in society based on respect for others. Teaching children how to behave at the table is necessary not only so that parents do not blush in front of guests or relatives. Knowing the rules of behavior during a meal can help a child as he grows up.

In some cases, during a joint dinner, friendships may arise, contracts may be concluded, etc. Table behavior characterizes social status person, his level of education and culture. The skills learned in childhood will be useful for a lifetime.

Some parents believe that shouting, constant remarks, and sometimes punishment for pranks at the table - this is education. But such methods are ineffective, they do not contribute to the development of good manners. And in a situation where a child is left without parental control ("Sit up straight!", "Don't chomp!", "Say thanks"), he cannot prove himself in the best light.

Caring parents, realizing their responsibility for raising a child, would like to know at what age to start teaching the child the rules of behavior, how it is easier to teach a child to use a cutlery, and if it is not dangerous to give it to a little fidget.

Basic rules of conduct at the table

It should be a rule for a child to wash his hands with soap and water before eating.

All the rules governing the norms of behavior for children at the table can be divided into two categories: how should and how not to behave during meals.

What can and should be done

1. Before you sit down at the table, you should. This must be done even one year old child... Of course, at first, the mother washes the baby's hands, but already from 2-3 years old, the baby can successfully do this on his own. At first, mom will have to be reminded to wash her hands, but then this healthy habit will develop.
2. Take food at the dinner table. Even babies need to be fed in the dining room or in the kitchen. It is recommended to buy a special highchair that will allow the child to participate in the family meal at a common table.
3. An obligatory rule should be the wish of a pleasant appetite before starting a meal.
4. Be neat while eating, do not stain yourself or your neighbors. Little child until he has developed precise coordination of movements, a special apron (bib) should be used or a cloth napkin should be tucked behind the collar. At an older age, you need to teach the child to use paper napkins... Before taking a glass with a drink, he must carefully wipe his lips so as not to leave greasy marks on the glass (this can be unpleasant for neighbors at the table).
5. You should eat and drink slowly, chew food without chomping, with your mouth closed. If you suddenly wanted to sneeze or cough, then you need to turn away from the table, cover your nose or mouth with a napkin and then apologize.
6. Sitting at the table should be straight, leaning on the back of a chair.
7. Only after chewing and swallowing food can you say something at the table.
8. If the desired dish or drink is far away, then you should not reach for it across the entire table. You need to ask to pass it with the word "please" and do not forget to thank.
9. If the pitcher with the drink or juice is heavy, you should ask the adults for help and say “thank you” for the service.
10. After finishing a meal, be sure to thank your mother or the hostess of the house, even if you didn't really like the dish.

What should be banned

For educated child with good manners, there are actions with the word "no":

1. It is unacceptable to swing in a chair while eating.
2. Do not put your elbows on the table.
3. You cannot start eating until all guests have been served.
4. During a meal, you cannot talk loudly, gesticulate, waving your arms, interrupt others. A rude tone at the table, harsh statements are unacceptable.
5. You can't play with food, throw it around, smear it on a plate, crush bread.
6. You should not fill your mouth with food, bite off very large pieces.
7. You cannot use someone else's cutlery, take food from someone else's plate.
8. You can not read while eating, eat while sitting at the computer, in front of the TV.
9. It is unacceptable to wipe your mouth with your sleeve, hand, tablecloth.
10. It is indecent to get up from the table if all the participants have not finished the meal. But you can leave after asking permission. If you need to visit the toilet or bathroom, you should apologize and go out (at a party or at home in the presence of strangers) without explaining your behavior.
11. Do not lick your fingers, cutlery.

When to start teaching a child?

It is advisable to start training from the first year of life. It's just that the level of etiquette rules should be different. After starting to inject, you need to wash the baby's hands before feeding. Already from a year to give the baby a spoon in hand. Of course, his mother will have to feed him with another spoon.

But the child, copying the actions of his mother, will also try to eat on his own with a spoon, and not with his hands. Let not everything work out for him, let his face be smeared, but these will be the first steps in learning how to use cutlery.

The process of mastering the basic rules of behavior at the table and good manners lasts from 2 to 5 years. Explanations of the parents will lay the foundation for the culture of the child's behavior. Even at 2-3 years old, a child should not indulge at the table.

How to teach etiquette to a child?

Adults should teach a child etiquette at the table, first of all, by personal example.

Learning the world, the baby absorbs new information like a sponge. Explanations, visualization of the necessary skills, and personal example, and games should be used.

The principles of training should be:

1. Consistency: Repeating from day to day, for example, washing your hands before eating, can create a healthy habit. It is important that the requirements are the same for all family members. What cannot be done today should be prohibited both tomorrow and the day after.

1. Visualization of the learned rules and games. Poems and pictures will help you quickly remember the right rule. For example, washing your hands with soap and water takes time. If this procedure is accompanied by a specially selected rhyme or rhyme, then the problem will be easily solved. There are a number of cartoons that can help teach your toddler the rules of table behavior. After watching it, it is important to discuss with the child the behavior of the cartoon characters, to consolidate the necessary rules.

It is helpful to have a toy and doll lunch with your child from time to time. Of course, for this you should use toy furniture, dishes, cutlery. Passion for the game allows you to repeat the table setting, and the subtleties of using cutlery, and the rules of cultural absorption of food. In the game it is easy to remember, the child will also get used to cleaning the table, learn to meet and see off guests. In the course of the game, parents have the opportunity to correct the behavior of the child and the participants in the puppet dinner.

1. Sequence of learning: mastering the rules should be age appropriate. If it is important to teach a child to wash his hands before eating, at 2 years old - to skillfully use a spoon, then from 3 years old it is already possible to teach the use of a fork and knife, good behavior. Moreover, it is important to use cutlery on a daily basis, and not only on holidays. Then the child will feel confident using them. Small children can be given special silicone or plastic forks and knives with which the baby cannot get hurt.

1. Personal example: the behavior of parents and other adult family members is of great importance. Trying to imitate adults in everything, the kid will easily remember many details of their behavior, because children are very observant. No matter how much one would like to instill elements of politeness in the child, if it is not customary in the family to wish for a pleasant appetite and to thank for dinner, getting up from the table, then the child will not do this either. Your explanations will remain words. And if dad eats while watching football on TV, then it will be difficult to answer the question of why others should not do it.

1. Kindness in teaching is a must. You should not allow rude shouts, humiliating remarks to the little man. As a test session, you can use a festive dinner at a party or in a cafe. Even if the child made any mistakes, then they should be discussed later, at home, in a calm atmosphere.

1. Parents must be patient. It is also important to remember about safety in order to prevent injury to the child. You cannot hope that everything will turn out suddenly and immediately. But as a result of constant classes, a 5-year-old child should already master the basic rules of etiquette and good manners of behavior in society. He must know that the knife must be held in the right hand, and the fork in the left, to be able to use them. Talking about anything while eating should not be encouraged by explaining to your child the dangers of choking on food. Everything he wants can be told after eating, he must be listened to carefully. It is important to teach children not to draw everyone's attention at the table. This is especially true for too active guys who are accustomed to being "the center of the universe."

Resume for parents

The rules laid down in childhood good taste will help to raise a person from a child with whom it will be pleasant to communicate to people. To teach your beloved child the rules of etiquette, you have to work hard.

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Rules of conduct for children at the table

As a parent, you know very well that the most unpleasant things children do at the wrong times. We are especially annoyed by various pranks at the dinner table. As a rule, such actions are most often suppressed by parental shouting or punishment, but few adults bother to explain to children the rules of behavior at the table or teach them good manners.

Start learning at an early age

Discipline, good manners and basic eating etiquette can be taught at a very early age. The dining table will witness many important events in your child's life. Sometime for the first time, your baby will meet at lunch with the parents of his chosen one, go to a business dinner with a potential employer or at a corporate party will sit at the table next to the leaders of the company. Although, in fact, the reason is not important. Good manners, in any case, will only benefit the baby.

The rules of behavior at the table for children are slightly different from adult etiquette, because many hyperactive children become pranksters when they eat. Most toddlers learn good manners by age 5. But you need to start teaching a child as early as 2 years old. Of course, there may be exceptions to the rule, but know that the later you start learning, the more difficult your lessons will be for your child.

Rules of conduct at the table or what the child should not do at the table:

1. Start eating until everyone at the table has been served and get up from the table before everyone has eaten.
2. Lick the knife! Sharp objects should never be kept in the mouth.
3. Balance on the back legs of the chair.
4. Talk with a full mouth.
5. Chew with your mouth open and chomp loudly.
6. Put your elbows on the table.
7. Interrupt others while talking at the table, talk rudely or gossip, watch TV.
8. Direct cutlery at people sitting next to you.
9. Take the last piece without offering it to others.
10. Bite off food that is impossible to chew.

Table rules that you must explain to your child:

1. Sitting at the table, you need to spread a napkin on your knees. If someone accidentally took your napkin, you do not need to shout at the top of your throat: "Who took my napkin?" Ask those around you quietly. Many parents do not know how best to dispose of a napkin: tuck it behind the collar to protect the outer part of the baby's clothes, or spread it on their knees and secure the bottom. Etiquette experts advise tucking the napkin behind the collar of a child if he is less than 5 years old.
2. The seating position at the table should be flat: a straight back, resting on the back of a chair, soles parallel to the floor.
3. If necessary, glass glasses and beverage containers can be held with both hands. Small handles are hard to grip wide dishes, so it is worth using two hands to prevent them from tipping over.
4. If a basket of bread or other products is passed in a circle at the table, then this is done from left to right. If you are asked to pass some dish that is closest to you, take it with your left hand and first offer it to the person sitting on your left, and only then, transferring it to your right hand, pass it to the right.
5. When you feel like sneezing or coughing, you need to turn your face away from the table to the side to your shoulder and cover your mouth with your hand or a tissue (preferably a tissue).
6. Always wipe your mouth dry with a tissue before taking a sip from your glass or glass. Oily lips leave an unpleasant and unappetizing mark on the glass.
7. If you need to use the toilet or sink, simply excuse yourself and leave the table. When you have guests in your house, you do not need to notify everyone about where you are going and for what purpose.
8. You need to leave the table on the right side of the chair.

Rules of conduct at the table. Beverages

Toddlers love to defend their independence and are big supporters of independence, copying the behavior of adults. But when it comes to drinks, there are new table rules for kids to follow:

1. First, the child should not reach across the table for a drink. He should politely ask someone else about this, while remembering to say the words "please" and "thank you."
2. If the jug, cup or other container is too heavy or uncomfortable for the baby, you need to use two hands to move it or take a sip. One hand should hold the handle by the container, and the other should support the opposite side of the container.
3. Remind your child that they can ask an adult for help in order to pour a drink, and this will not be considered shameful.
4. Smacking and swallowing loudly is unpleasant and unappetizing for others. Explain to your baby to drink calmly and slowly. And before taking a sip of liquid, you should chew, swallow all food and wipe your mouth with a napkin. Exceptions can be in cases where children unknowingly put something sharp or hot in their mouths.
5. As the child grows older and already masterfully owns the art of pouring, he can offer his help to the people sitting to his left and right. Drinking can even be incorporated into toddler's drinking chores.

We hope these tips will help your little one learn good eating manners and etiquette.

All parents go out with their children "into the light", be it a children's cafe, a visit to a visit or other entertainment, they are all accompanied by a meal. Children already from the very early age you should know how to behave correctly while eating. Moreover, the rules and norms of behavior should be instilled in the child, not only when you visit or receive guests, but also in Everyday life…

Table etiquette for children is not particularly different from etiquette for adults. The question is how to properly explain to the kid the concept of etiquette and teach him all the aspects and nuances of table behavior.

In fact, everything is very simple: you can explain to the child the rules of etiquette at the table, starting with a personal example. Moreover, you can teach a child's etiquette in the form of a game in which there are no strict rules and requirements.

For example, teaching a child to use a knife and fork, you can tell a story about how a fictional hero of a fairy tale, not knowing the rules of etiquette, behaved at the table. Next, you can talk about how other fictional characters helped him cope with the problem. Your kid will really like this training, believe me.

In order for the child to learn the correct use of cutlery, parents should often set the table according to etiquette. Thus, the child is at the most as soon as possible will remember the purpose of each device and learn how to properly wield a knife and fork. In addition, this knowledge will remain in memory for life and as an adult, he will not have a feeling of insecurity at the table.

Also, it is very important to explain to the child that table etiquette includes the following rules:

Rule one
Sit straight at the table. And not like some guys sometimes sit. They lean on the table, swing on chairs, play with the tablecloth. And this is what happens: the chair falls, the tablecloth is pulled off the table, dishes are flying to the floor, soup is pouring from the plates.

Second rule
Never put a knife in your mouth. You can easily cut your tongue and lips. do not eat off the knife. They only cut with a knife!

Rule three.
It is very ugly to pick in your teeth with a fork, if the food is stuck in your teeth, it is best to rinse your mouth with water after dinner.

Rule four.
Cutlets, meatballs, fish, boiled vegetables are never cut with a knife. eat them, separating small pieces with a fork, while holding the fork in the right hand.

The fifth rule.
If you need to cut some food, then the fork should be in the left hand, and the knife should be in the right. After all, it is more convenient to cut with the right hand.

Rule six.
When you have finished eating, put the fork, knife, spoon not on the table, but on your plate.

The seventh rule.
Remember firmly: you cannot take food from common plates with your fork, spoon, knife, and even more so with your hands.
For a common dish, you need a special fork, spoon or knife.

Rule Eight.
When you eat, do not chomp, do not spank your lips, do not sprinkle with a spoon, do not sip your soup so that everyone at the table can hear.

You need to eat calmly, slowly chewing food, silently swallowing soup. And if there is not much soup left, do not tilt the plate either towards you or away from you, so as not to spill it either on the tablecloth or on your lap.

Note that you should not judge a child too harshly if he has not yet fully mastered table etiquette. Show patience, affection and attention and everything will definitely work out!

But there are also some mistakes that parents make when teaching their child etiquette.

To feed a child, he must be entertained.

Feeding a baby to music, reading, etc. is a gross violation of culture healthy eating... This prevents the reflex phase of the gastrointestinal tract from starting to work, because the child is distracted and does not look at the food, does not feel the aroma, does not enjoy the taste, and is simply distracted from the process of eating.

It is better to show imagination, and make funny figures from a simple dish, cook from bright products - this will attract the attention of the crumbs and allow you to fully enjoy your meal.

Conversations do not get in the way at the table.

No wonder there is a saying: "When I eat, I am deaf and dumb." This Golden Rule etiquette, thanks to which the child learns to chew well. The calmer and slower the child chews, the better the food will be digested.

But words like "THANKS", "PLEASE", "BOND APPETIT", on the contrary, are welcome.

The digger needs to be hurried.

There is no need to rush while eating - teach your baby to this. In a hurry, the child does not have time to chew well and swallows, which is ugly, not aesthetically pleasing and even dangerous. Large pieces of food injure the gastrointestinal tract, are poorly absorbed and digested.

Give a spoon to a one-year-old child early.

On the contrary than earlier child will master the use of cutlery, the faster will master the culture of behavior at the table and the ability to eat with a spoon.

This not only teaches the child to etiquette, but also develops fine motor skills... The main thing is to let the child understand that eating with a spoon is more convenient, more pleasant, faster than with the hands.

Do not use a plug for up to three years.

Once the child has mastered the spoon well, the fork can be offered. First, buy a baby fork for your child, it is more convenient for the baby and without sharp teeth. Explain how to use a fork and show it clearly (hard food - teeth down, soft - teeth up, prying food).

If the child spits, then punish!

Don't overreact emotionally. Explain that spitting is not good, and even more so at the table. It is not worth punishing, it is better to persuade or distract. But if this does not help, you need to look for the reason. Probably not tasty.

You need to set your dining table beautifully.

Until the child is 2 years old, he does not need and should not do it. A child can perceive cutlery and tablecloths as a toy, and they begin to appreciate them much later.

But such items as napkins, an oilcloth napkin or a bib must be on the table, in order to wipe your mouth and pens, do not drip, do not stain the table. Teach your child to take care of the cleanliness of hands and face on their own.