Beautiful statuses about children - A gentle face, every line. The snub nose sniffles. Money, career - all this is not important... What is important sleeps nearby.

The kitten will grow up to be a cat, the mouse will turn into a mouse, and only for the mother native child forever baby!!!

Children are flowers of life. I picked a bouquet - give it to grandma!

Thank you, Lord, for every moment in which my children are near, And I ask you to keep them, They are more precious than anyone in the world, Only next to them life is important, Without them it is not worth a penny. Thank you that I am not alone, And my angels are with me.

All the joy of life fits in the smile of a child!

Everyone has their own idea of ​​a “Miracle”. But only one “miracle” can call you dad and mom...

A child is a creature that you carry within you for 9 months,
In hands - 3 years,
And in your heart - until you die.

Our happiness is our children! There are no better ones in the world, They fly like butterflies, They fill our lives with meaning! Without children there is no life, but boredom. There is no warmth and no comfort, No fun, no fire, There is no continuation of you...

Children are the main joy in life!!! Everything else comes and goes

The only thing worth stealing is a kiss from a sleeping child...

The most precious treasure is my beloved child!!! ... Everything else is the little things in life!!

The greatest happiness in life is seeing your child smile!

Don't waste time with your children
Look at the adults in them,
Stop quarreling and getting angry,
Try to make friends with them.

Children are happiness, children are fairy tales
Children are sleepy eyes in the morning
Children are feet on the parquet floor in the morning
And mom has warm palms on her cheeks
Children are a sweet dream, magic is everywhere
Fills the house with happiness - a small miracle!!!

Children's smiles are so sweet!
So enchantingly beautiful!
In this strange and dangerous world
Children are like the salvation of the soul!

The child does not look like his mother, the child does not look like his father - an exact copy of an angel!

Children are happiness! Children are joy!
Children are a breeze in life...
You can't earn them, it's not a reward.
By grace God gives them to adults!

You grow little by little, you are my mother’s happiness,
Palm to palm, five fingers in a hug,
So that's what you are - mom's happiness!!!

What is happiness? Where can I buy it? - Happiness?.. No, you can’t buy it! Happiness can only be born!

Children are the brightest and purest phenomenon... They come into our world to give warmth and tenderness, a sea of ​​smiles, joy and happiness!

There are flowers in the world and these flowers - children cannot be replaced by anyone in the world, they are our joy and happiness always, they work miracles for us adults.

There is no one more confident in the sincerity of his love than a child.

Nowhere, in any city in the world, do the stars shine as brightly as in the city of childhood.

What is the sweetest candy in the world? Sugar - I could once answer. Honey, marmalade, pastille and sherbet. Only now did I understand the answer. The smell of our own baby’s crown that remains on our pillow, tender fingers and nails, butt, knees and elbows.

There is nothing more beautiful in the world than children gobbling up with gusto.

Putting children to bed is very simple: you just need to give them something to drink, eat, pee and read books, sing a lullaby, say “Good night”, kiss, stroke their back, tummy, lie in bed with them... and fall asleep, why the hell, before them !

Happiness is not money or wealth, happiness is small, with short legs, a squeaky voice, a loud funny laugh and familiar eyes.

Every mother has wondered, “How can I love another child as much when the first one already occupies my whole heart?” When the second one is born, you realize that your heart just gets bigger.

Children are an excellent cover for indulging in the simple joys of life: jumping with a ball, splashing in the river, playing in the snow, riding a sled... And when they grow up... all hope is in their grandchildren!

Children have proven that sleep position does not affect its quality.

I will express my opinion regarding the question asked to me: I found out that the child is not mine, what should I do?

Why do I constantly say that feminine quality No. 1 - loyalty? What do you think, huh?

So, I repeat this, just for cases like today, here and now.

Women's quality #1 is fidelity. The most basic, the most important, the very best quality of a woman. If a girl/woman doesn’t have this quality, build with her serious relationship it is forbidden.

In order to avoid situations like this (hard mistakes), you need to know this. And accordingly, you need to very competently (correctly) choose your sexual partner (approach this wisely), so that God forbid there are no such tough, sad situations. Understand?

If you have even the slightest doubt about a woman, you shouldn’t build a serious relationship with her.

Serious relationship = a deal. That's what I call it. I'm used to looking at things practically.

Any transaction = has its own rights and obligations, as well as the subject of the transaction itself.

It's the same in relationships. A man must and gives one thing (his roles, functions), a woman must and gives another (her roles, functions), together (if their obligations are well fulfilled) = they complement each other and become stronger. The subject of the transaction is children (offspring).

On our topic today, a woman should, at a minimum, be faithful to a man. This is the BASIS. This is the base. This is the primary component (role, function) of a woman. Understand?

This is the basis, this is the basis, this quality (fidelity) is needed so that a man is, first of all, confident that the woman is giving birth (or will give birth) from him. That the children will be his. His offspring. The genetic line will be his. That he will invest resources (money, effort, time, energy, etc.) in his own genetic line, and not in the line of his neighbor, lover, classmate, friend, Kolya, Petya, Vasya, etc.

That's why fidelity is a woman's initial responsibilities in a transaction.

Accordingly, if a woman does not have this quality, you cannot build a serious relationship with her. Because you will have no, absolutely no, guarantees and no confidence in anything.

If this has already happened to you, you have found out that the child is not yours. Well, everything is already clear here.

Your woman violated the terms of the deal (and she herself). That is, I changed it. She didn't give birth to you. And she arranged everything so that you would educate, invest, take care, etc. and so on.

It's like a business deal where you were just scammed and that's all. Do you understand, friend?

You were dumped - on the most significant point of your deal in the relationship (that is offspring). You were cheated on the point for which the deal (relationship) is signed and organized, do you understand?

This is the same as what you will pay - 100,000 bucks = for a new building: a house or apartment and not get it.

Tough scam. In business (according to my example, the subject of the transaction is new buildings), in relationships (the subject of the transaction is children, and not love-carrots, sex or something else). Your partner = did not give you what she should have given you in this transaction. That's all. Understand?

Therefore, there is only one way out in this situation - to terminate the deal. Divorced. Leave. In short, cut off all ties with her. There can be no continuation in such situations.

Don’t be fooled by all this women’s cackling, the man is not the one who gave the seed, but the one who raised him, a real man must, everyone is afraid of “RESPONSIBILITY”, all the men have died blah blah blah.

By the way, here’s some advice (to the female population): never even joke with your man about all that “stuff,” cheating, lovers, suitors, and other things like that. Over time, this can develop into something much more serious; a man may become disappointed in his partner, which can subsequently lead to a break in the relationship. A man must be 1000.1% confident in his woman.

There should be no doubts, etc. In general, relationships are built on trust; don’t play with a man’s trust—ever. Believe me. I told you what men should do in such situations.

Congratulations, administrator.

When children annoy us, we often explain this by saying that they are specifically trying to “get” us, want to manipulate us, or are doing it “to spite us.”

Of course, in one case or another, almost any child can be called capricious, demanding and disobedient. And that is great. After all, a child, no matter how small he is, is a living person, and not an elegant doll that can be placed in a place of honor and proudly shown to guests. He has his own desires and needs, and must learn to express them and achieve what he wants.

But a child who does not pay attention to the word “No” at all lives as if only his desires exist in this world. Such children, as a rule, are characterized by impulsiveness, hot temper, aggression, lack of attention to the feelings of others, criticality, insolence and vindictiveness. They have less positive reactions to encouragement and praise.

This behavior of a child can have a variety of roots. For example, it is often occurs as a result of stress and family disagreements. Anxiety for parents finds vent in desperate disobedience, or the child acts exactly according to the parent’s model - if you can do it, then so can I. Sometimes aggression and demandingness can be an attempt to cope with acute grief(death of a family member) or a reaction to unexpected changes for the child (moving to another city, the appearance of a brother or stepfather, changing a favorite school, etc.). It happens that disobedience is an ultimatum for parents, and then you should think about what other, more constructive ways the child can get your attention and time.

But most often, demonstrative disobedience is simply the result of special interactions with parents who allow the child to behave in this way. And this issue is worth understanding in more detail.

What provokes conflict with a child:

A. Perhaps you are starting a power struggle.

When children annoy us, we often explain this by saying that they are specifically trying to “get” us, want to manipulate us, or are doing it “to spite us.” And our anger increases because we easily manage to convince ourselves of this. On the other hand, when we force a child to obey by force, threats or punishment, he develops a feeling of helplessness, A Children cannot stand the feeling of helplessness, so they do their best to provoke other confrontations in order to prove that they still have some power. And here it is very easy to transform the relationship with the child into an ordinary struggle for power.

The words used at the beginning of the sentence: "YOU", "IF" and "WHY" are like red flags hanging before the eyes of a child. They invite you to join the fight. YOU - this word attacks the child himself, and not the problem (“You always...”, “You never...”, “You’d better...”, “You’re like that...”).

IF – threats usually begin with this word, and often empty ones.“If you throw your clothes all over the house, then I won’t buy you anything at all.” You both know that this is not true, so it is not surprising that the child gets angry and ignores your request.

WHY is the usual beginning of an accusation, and the child also reacts to it in a defensive manner. Try replacing these words with “As soon as” and “When”: “As soon as the clothes are put away, we can go to the store together” or “When your homework is done, you can watch TV.” Instead of creating a situation in which the strong threaten the weak, you can establish a partnership (“As soon as you do A, I’ll do B”).

Punishment often leads to children becoming more creative in an area that we don't want them to develop - the ability to take revenge. Punishment can also cause a child to be more careful and secretive.

Children who are frequently punished become more resourceful, less honest, frank and responsible. Punishment often prevents a child from feeling his guilt - after all, he has already atoned for it with the help of punishment. In addition, if a child does not understand why he was punished, or considers such punishment to be unreasonable, this does not help him realize what he has done, but It only makes him afraid of your power and unpredictability.

Why don't explanations work in this case? After all, it would seem that we are trying to communicate with the child on equal terms and explain to him the reasons for our feelings and actions? This happens because we too often resort to explanations in an attempt to change a child's mind and get him to agree with us.

It is very likely that in the child’s hierarchy of values, your love for him comes first - because for young children, parents are literally associated with survival. Therefore, what your child wants most is not toys (which he is currently arguing about), not sweets, and not the right to watch TV from morning to evening. These are all momentary desires.

He really wants you to continue to love and care for him. Many parents use this knowledge for blackmail purposes. They boldly tell the child that if he doesn’t eat the porridge right away, they will stop loving him. A more anxious child will “buy” into this threat and will do everything as you want, ask for forgiveness for everything he didn’t do, and promise everything you want. But he will remain offended - after all, you so rudely tried to take away the most sacred thing from him.

A less anxious child can calmly retort that he doesn’t need your love at all, because he doesn’t love you either (of course, this scenario is more often used by adults, but children are also quite capable of this). Of course, this is bravado on his part. However, this can be a difficult test for your nerves, because it is also very important for you to maintain a good relationship with your child, to feel his affection and gratitude. So, before you bring out the “heavy artillery,” think about what it might lead to, other than perfect obedience.

And remember more often that your strategic goal is to change the child’s behavior, and not to hurt him. After all, most parents, instead of feeling relieved, feel even worse after they caused their child emotional or physical pain.

B. Perhaps you are too dependent on the opinions of others.

If a child behaves badly, his mother is usually told that she should not “allow” him to do so, but that she should “make” him behave well. If she cannot control her child's "bad" behavior, then she must feel like a bad and incompetent mother.

I am sure that“kind” people from your environment - your loved ones or even those you barely know - have more than once launched a chain of similar thoughts in your head. They feel bad looking at your children and are uncomfortable with your child's behavior. However, don't you think it is more important to focus on your child's feelings and your own feelings than worrying about what others think in order to be seen as a "good parent"?

Q. Your requirements may be too strict.

Some parents, in a fit of “hyper responsibility” for the future of their child, constantly strive to strengthen the child’s character, instill in him high moral values ​​and raise him in accordance with the most severe requirements. Sometimes this turns out to be too tiring for both the child and the parent, who considers it obligatory to follow all his strict rules. Each of them is exhausted in an attempt to achieve the ideal, and is angry that this turns out to be unattainable.

So try making a list of all the demands you place on your children throughout the day or week and analyze what is really important to you? What do the children look like? What are they wearing? What are they eating? How are they feeling? What grades do they get? Do they go in for sports? What do others think of them, and how does this affect us?

If you try to make a list of things that irritate you about your children's behavior, it can turn out to be endless: “He constantly daydreams about something, refuses to put on a clean shirt, constantly touches the legs of the table with his feet while eating, never washes himself unless you tell him to.” this 20 times, teasing his sister...”

Try to look at this list and answer the questions: “Will this requirement remain important in a week, in a year, in 10 years?”, “What happens if this requirement is not met?” Think about how important it is whether the child will eat the ice cream directly from the package or put it in the cup you offer? Will he brush his teeth before or after breakfast? Will your self-esteem suffer as a parent if you have to remind your child about something not once, but twice?

D. Perhaps your requirements are too lenient.

If our need to make our children happy and our love for them is too strong, we cannot say no to them. When we set strict disciplinary boundaries, children not only don't like our rules and requests, they don't like us.

For children, it is difficult to separate what we do from why we do it. When we insist that they do something they don’t want to do, or when we refuse to fulfill their demands, we often hear: “I don’t love you anymore... You’re bad... You don’t love me... I hate you...”. The children's reaction is absolutely sincere. At this moment they really don't like us, but their “dislike” is a temporary phenomenon.

Children are very observant, and they will not miss the chance to notice that you, by saying “no,” are very worried that you made them unhappy. It is difficult for children to understand and come to terms with forbidden boundaries if we have difficulty setting them.

There is one more question to think about. When a child knows that he can one way or another achieve anything from you, he feels like the strongest and most important in the family - after all, he decides everything! But, in addition to the heady feeling of omnipotence, there may also be severe anxiety.

The child understands that he does not have enough strength and experience to be the real “head of the family,” and then your helplessness and obedience lead him to think that he cannot rely on you. Paradoxical as it may seem, I have often heard from children (especially from wealthy families) that His parents supposedly don’t like him because they allow him everything. The absence of any rules, boundaries and prohibitions gives the child the feeling that his parents don’t care about him at all.

Therefore, you are faced with a difficult task - to find a middle ground between overwhelming requirements and their complete absence.

Our goal (as parents) is to improve relationships with children, reduce our and their negative reactions, to promote their cooperation with us and the growth of their dignity. If we can enjoy our children just 5 minutes a day more, yell at them a little less, or criticize them a little less, then we are moving in the right direction.

• To understand the motives for a child’s disobedience, look at what the child likes to play, what plots of books and films he prefers, who his favorite characters are, and ask why. Pick it up and read it to him suitable tales about disobedience, selfishness, so that he knows the consequences of such behavior (no friends, no one wants to be around, there is always someone trying to overpower you, and he may actually be stronger, etc.). It is important to make it clear to the child that cooperation is more interesting and safer than struggle and control.
• What should I do to make my child obey?” This is the most common question of all parents. The answer is very short: say less. Children become so accustomed to their parents' lengthy moralizing that they quickly become deaf to them. One word “Boots” and an expressive look directed at the dirty footprints on the carpet left by the child will be more understandable and effective than a long lecture about why he does not regret his mother’s work.
• Giving children the right to choose what they want to wear, what and when they eat, and when and what kind of work they do, gives them a sense of their own competence and self-esteem. Warn them in advance about situations that could get “sticky.” For example, you have important guests and you don’t want to be disturbed, or your child needs to do some exercises regularly, and you don’t want to remind him of this all the time. Ask your child to come up with ideas in advance. effective ways decisions - how he will behave in this situation. This will make the children more manageable and will save you from having to reprimand them. Do not try to tame the child, but give him a niche for leadership, where he will make decisions himself and be sure that everything depends on him. This could be a game, menu selection, or small errands.
• Use the Natural Consequences Method. If Ivan forgets to put his dirty jeans in the laundry basket, they won't be clean by the beginning of next week. If Sasha does not come to the table on time, the pasta on his plate will cool down and stick together. If Alice does not button up her jacket and put on her gloves, the cold wind will remind her more convincingly than all her mother's persuasion. If Katya doesn't learn her homework, she won’t be able to answer and will get a bad mark when the teacher calls her tomorrow. The consequences are more likely to teach children than all the parental instructions combined.
• If your child tries to blackmail you with a strong roar or demonstratively rolls on the floor, remember that The best way calming hysteria - not paying attention to it. An even better idea is to leave your child alone in the room altogether, telling him that you will be ready to talk to him as soon as he calms down. This may seem too “cruel” to some, because we are so accustomed to throwing consolations even to someone else’s crying child. However, it is very important that a tantrum does not become established as an effective means of getting what you want, so your composure will be a good signal to your child that this is not working.
• When a child does something wrong—and it inevitably will—you should point the finger at the situation, not the child. You can talk about what needs to be done rather than about the mistake. If your words are aimed at the result of the action, and not at the “person” himself, then children will not perceive this as an attack on themselves and will be much calmer about your words.
• You can use another way to change a child’s behavior without moralizing and attacking - is writing notes. If you can make them humorous, it will be much better. Here are a couple of examples: “We ask you to pick us up so that you can walk around your room without stepping on us. Socks” or “Help needed: clean the bathroom, close the shampoo bottle, screw on the toothpaste tube, hang up the wet towels. The reward is a very satisfied mother.” This will help you not only express your requirements in the form of funny wishes, but will also strengthen the desire of your little child to learn to read and write as soon as possible.

You can start positive interactions with children at any age. Enjoy your parenting role more. Stop blaming them and pay attention to how you can influence your interactions. And then you will get another additional benefit - you will be able to have closer relationships with your children when they become adults. All parents hope that their adult children will want to spend time with him not out of coercion or a sense of duty, but simply out of pleasure.Good luck and creative solutions. published

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Quotes and Aphorisms 21.04.2018

Dear readers, if you have children, then when asked what is most important to you in life, you know what to answer. And despite the fact that with the appearance of children in our lives, we acquire a lot of new problems and difficulties that we have not encountered before, along with this, children fill our lives with meaning and great love.

Quotes and aphorisms about children succinctly and accurately express feelings and thoughts associated with childhood and children. And, perhaps, the main idea is that, first of all, they give us the opportunity to become better.

We all come from childhood

“All adults were once children. Only few people remember this,” said Antoine de Saint-Exupéry. Quotes about children will help us remember the feeling of lightness and fullness of life that we experienced in childhood.

“Children are younger than us, they still remember how they too were trees and birds and therefore are still able to understand them; We’re too old, we have too many worries, and our heads are full of jurisprudence and bad poetry.”

Heinrich Heine

“It’s only a step from a five-year-old child to me. There is a terrible distance from the newborn to me.”

Lev Tolstoy

“Moving away from the conditions of society and approaching nature, we involuntarily become children: everything acquired falls away from the soul, and it becomes again the same as it once was and, probably, will be someday again.”

Mikhail Lermontov

“Be yourself both man and child, so that you can teach the child.”

Vladimir Odoevsky

“Every child is partly a genius, and every genius is partly a child.”

Arthur Schopenhauer

“In each of us there is still three year old child who is scared, who just wants a little love.”

Louise Hay

“A great man is one who has not lost his childish heart.”

Mencius

Ah, childhood, your days are pure, like frames from an old film...

Quotes and aphorisms about children with meaning indicate that children are not just little people who are just beginning to experience life, but also a chance for our world to become a little brighter and kinder.

“Children are the reason why heaven has not yet destroyed the world.”

Moritz-Gottlieb Safir

“How terrible the world would be if children were not constantly born, bringing with them innocence and the possibility of all perfection!”

John Ruskin

“Your children are not your children. They appear through you, but not from you. You can give them your love, but not your thoughts, because they have their thoughts. You can give a home to their bodies, but not to their souls. You are only bows from which living arrows are sent forward, which you call your children.”

Gibran Kahlil Gibran

“There is no hymn on earth more solemn than the babbling of children’s lips.”

Victor Hugo

“There are no children, there are people. But with a different scale of concepts, a different store of experience, different drives, a different play of feelings.”

Janusz Korczak

“Children’s play often has deep meaning.”

Friedrich Schiller

“Nature wants children to be children before they are adults. If we want to disrupt this order, we will produce early-ripening fruits that will have neither ripeness nor taste and will not slow down in deterioration.”

Jean-Jacques Rousseau

Children are happiness, children are joy...

Very often happiness comes to our home with the birth of a child. And life changes completely along with this, it becomes different, it makes you look at yourself, other people, and the world around you in a new way. And we begin to see what we have not seen before. Quotes and aphorisms about children and happiness so vividly describe the joy that children bring into our lives.

“Children immediately and naturally become accustomed to happiness, because they themselves, by their nature, are joy and happiness.”

Victor Hugo

“Children multiply our everyday worries and anxieties, but at the same time, thanks to them, death does not seem so terrible to us.”

Francis Bacon

“Children are the anchors that hold a mother in life.”

Sophocles

“A child is love made visible.”

Novalis

“Children are happiness that grows over the years.”

“Happiness cannot be bought. But he can be born.”

“I take your hand in my hand and kiss the crown on your wrist. It was not in vain that I suffered to give birth to such happiness.”

“The day begins with happiness, happiness rose before everyone else. Happiness smiles at mom, turning her smile into laughter.”

“When children are born, order, money, peace, relaxation disappear in the house - and happiness comes.”

“Only when you have children do you understand that there is a life that is more valuable than your own.”

Children are the flowers of life

The quote by Antoine de Saint-Exupery that children are flowers of life that are born with their heads down is familiar to everyone. Maxim Gorky called children “the living flowers of the earth.” Because a child is a vessel filled to the brim with trust in this world. Children decorate our lives and give it meaning.

“Children are holy and pure. You can’t make them the plaything of your mood.”

Anton Chekhov

“The child’s state of mind runs through our entire lives - it is this that prompts us to seek the meaning of life, to seek God.”

Vladimir Levi

“In the theater of life, the only real spectators are children.”

Vladislav Grzeszczyk

“Without children it would be impossible to love humanity so much.”

Fedor Dostoevsky

“Children are the living force of society. Without them it seems bloodless and cold.”

Anton Makarenko

“I am sure that if you had to choose to live where the noise of children does not stop for a minute, or where it is never heard, then all normal and healthy people would prefer incessant noise to incessant silence.”

Bernard Show

Only one world is limitless - childhood

There are many beautiful quotes and aphorisms about children. They contain all the wisdom and the very essence of such a magical time. human life like childhood.

“Children have neither a past nor a future, but, unlike us adults, they know how to use the present.”

Jean de La Bruyère

“Children are our judges of tomorrow, they are critics of our views and actions, they are people who go into the world to great work building new forms of life."

Maksim Gorky

“Children teach adults not to become completely immersed in something and to remain free.”

Mikhail Prishvin

“The child has his own special ability to see, think and feel; there is nothing more stupid than trying to replace this skill with ours.”

“You will never be able to create wise men if you kill naughty children.”

Jean-Jacques Rousseau

“We teach our children first. Then we ourselves learn from them.”

Jan Rainis

“Take care of the tears of your children so that they may shed them at your grave.”

Pythagoras

“Children’s charm lies in the fact that with each child everything is renewed and the world appears anew for human judgment.”

Gilbert Keith Chesterton

“Tell something to the children - all the way to the end. But they will certainly ask: “What next? What for?" Children are the only brave philosophers.”

Evgeny Zamyatin

The purpose of education is the development of the child

Quotes about parenting give an idea of ​​what exactly it should involve and when it is most effective. After all, education is not only and not so much moral teaching and reading morals, but the ability to understand what children really need and provide them with the opportunity for further development.

“Preaching from the pulpit, captivating from the platform, teaching from the pulpit is much easier than raising one child.”

Alexander Herzen

“Education means nourishing the child’s abilities, and not creating those new abilities that he does not have.”

Giuseppe Mazzini

“A child needs your love most when he deserves it least.”

Erma Bombeck

“Let the child’s first lesson be obedience, then the second may be what you consider necessary.”

Thomas Fuller

“Children need role models more than criticism.”

Joseph Joubert

“All the difficulties of upbringing arise from the fact that parents, not only not correcting their shortcomings, but also justifying them in themselves, want not to see these shortcomings in their children.”

Lev Tolstoy

“Don’t make an idol out of a child; when he grows up, he will demand sacrifices.”

Pierre Buast

“Do you know what the surest way to make your child unhappy? This is to teach him not to refuse anything.”

Jean-Jacques Rousseau

“Parenting is the most difficult thing. You think – well, it’s all over now! No such luck – it’s just beginning!”

Mikhail Lermontov

“Parents often confuse the concepts of “upbringing” and “education” and think that they have given their child an upbringing when they have forced him to study so many subjects. Hence the frequent disappointment of parents in their children in subsequent years.”

Anton Rubinstein

“Sow an action and you will reap a habit; sow a habit and you will reap a character; sow a character and you will reap a destiny.”

William Thackeray

"If you want to grow good children, spend half the money and twice the time on them.”

Sukhomlinsky about children and their upbringing

The great teacher Vasily Aleksandrovich Sukhomlinsky dedicated his life to children. Tips on how to discern the personality in a child are reflected in Sukhomlinsky’s quotes on raising children. They will never lose their relevance.

"The most important feature pedagogical culture there must be a feeling for the spiritual world of each child, the ability to give each one as much attention and spiritual strength as is necessary for the child to feel that he is not forgotten, that his grief, his grievances and suffering are shared.”

“Only he can become a real teacher who never forgets that he himself was a child.”

“By raising your child, you are raising yourself, asserting your human dignity.”

“Children don’t need to be told a lot, don’t stuff them with stories; words are not fun, but verbal satiety is one of the most harmful satiations. The child needs not only to listen to the teacher’s word, but also to remain silent; in these moments he thinks, comprehends what he heard and saw. We must not turn children into passive objects of perception of words.”

“Let your pupil be rebellious, self-willed - this is incomparably better than silent obedience and lack of will.”

“Where everything is based on punishment, there is no self-education, and without self-education, education in general cannot be normal. It cannot, because punishment already frees the pupil from remorse, and conscience is the main engine of self-education; where conscience sleeps, there can be no question of self-education. The one who has received punishment thinks: I have nothing more to think about my action, I got what was due.”

“A child is a mirror of the family; Just as the sun is reflected in a drop of water, so the moral purity of the mother and father is reflected in the children.”

Personality education according to Makarenko

The brilliant teacher Anton Semenovich Makarenko had his own view on raising children. His methodology was criticized and persecuted, however, according to UNESCO, he is one of the four people who had the most strong influence to modern pedagogical science. Makarenko’s quotes about raising children show his vision of how to raise a full-fledged personality.

“Your own behavior is the most decisive thing. Do not think that you are raising a child only when you talk to him, or teach him, or order him. You raise him at every moment of your life, even when you are not at home.”

“The educational process is a constantly ongoing process, and its individual details are resolved in the general tone of the family, and the general tone cannot be invented and artificially maintained. General tone Dear Parents, is created by your own life and your own behavior."

“Do you want to corrupt the soul of your child? Then don’t refuse him anything. And over time you will understand that you are not raising a person, but a crooked tree.”

“Concentrating love on one child is a terrible delusion.”

“If at home you are rude, or boastful, or drunk, and even worse, if you insult your mother, you no longer need to think about education: you are already raising your children, and raising them badly, and no best tips and methods will not help you.”

“So we all invent educational systems: this is how we should educate, this way... But in fact, parents and educators have one task: to keep the child’s nervous system safe and sound by the age of 18. Life will put such a burden on his shoulders that his nerves will need to be intact, and we tear them to shreds from an early age...”

Quotes about children and parents

The relationship between parents and children is not always cloudless. And if you are faced with the problem of fathers and children, let's remember that it is we, parents, who contributed to their emergence to a large extent. Children are our reflection, and this idea is clearly visible in quotes about children and parents.

“Children and parents are birds of a feather, but grown at different times.”

Natalya Rozbitskaya

“How often do children hear that they should be grateful to their parents. Because they spent their entire lives on them, didn’t sleep at night, and simply because they gave birth to them... Have you ever wondered how much children give to their parents? Real love, joy, hope... How often, next to a child, we feel smart and omnipotent. A child gives us a sense of self-worth. So maybe we shouldn’t expect gratitude from children, because they gave us no less?”

“Children rarely misinterpret our words. They repeat, amazingly accurately, everything we shouldn’t have said.”

“It’s curious: with each generation, children are getting worse, and parents are getting better; It follows from this that increasingly good parents grow up from worse children.”

Wieslaw Brudzinski

“Parents least of all forgive their children those vices that they themselves instilled in them.”

Johann Friedrich Schiller

“When children baffle their father, he sends them to the corner.”

Valery Mironov

“Children never obeyed adults, but they always imitated them.”

James Baldwin

“When you finally realize that your father was usually right, you yourself have a son growing up convinced that his father is usually wrong.”

Peter Lawrence

“He who has no children sacrifices death.”

Francis Bacon

Children is our future

We all want our children to grow up better, smarter, happier than us. Quotes on the topic that children are our future reveal to us the full meaning of this famous phrase.

“You will live in the world ten times, repeated ten times in children. And in your last hour you will have the right to triumph over conquered death.”

“Look at my children. My former freshness is alive in them. They are the justification for my old age.”

William Shakespeare

“Life is short, but a person lives it again in his children.”

Anatole France

“Children are one third of our country’s population and our entire future. Children make me want to live.”

Muhammad Ali

“When raising children, today's parents are raising future history our country, and therefore the history of the world."

“Our children are our old age. Proper education- this is our happy old age, bad Education“This is our future grief, these are our tears, this is our guilt before other people.”

Anton Makarenko

“Children are living messages that we send to a future that we will not see.”

Alfred Whitehead

“Fear for a child is more than fear for one’s own life. This is fear for one’s immortality.”

Victoria Tokareva

The magical world of childhood

You don't always need a lot of words to express the essence of things. Short Quotes meaningfully about children only confirms this.

“The child is the future.”

Victor Marie Hugo

"A child gives birth to parents."

Stanislav Jerzy Lec

“All the children in the world cry in the same language.”

Leonid Leonov

“Most of us become parents before we stop being children.”

Minion McLaughlin

“Children listen most attentively when people are not talking to them.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

“We always make up our children.”

Voldemar Lysyak

“Every person is always someone’s child.”

Pierre-Augustin Caron de Beaumarchais

“Women make us poets, children make us philosophers.”

Malcolm de Chazal

“The efforts of adults are aimed, in essence, at making the child comfortable for themselves.”

“The loneliness of a child gives the doll a soul.”

Janusz Korczak

“Abandoned children often live with their parents.”

“Children are a strict assessment given by life itself.”

About children with a smile

Where there are children, there is fun and laughter. And it is right. After all, childhood is the most carefree time of life. Let this selection funny quotes about children will remind us of this once again.

The child does not tell the parent “what happened” because he may be thinking:

I can handle it myself

- perhaps the child is used to being told - you are an adult, you should...
- perhaps there is a need to prove that he is an “adult” - does not feel his authority
- perhaps there is a feeling that an adult will do harm with his intervention
- perhaps there is no experience and awareness of the seriousness of what is happening

I don't think it's important

- perhaps this topic is not in the focus of the child’s attention

Parents will be angry

- perhaps the parent’s habitual reaction to difficult situations and themes - aggression. It is easier for a child to experience what is happening on his own than to experience additional pressure and trauma from the parent’s emotions

Parents will be upset

- perhaps the child is faced with the fact that the parent’s emotional state is unstable. And the child has to take responsibility for the emotions and feelings of the adult. This is a huge burden. The child, in this case, cannot lean on the parent because the parent is perceived as a “smaller figure”

Parents won't do anything anyway

- perhaps if a parent in difficult situations for a child does not take his side, does not provide a feeling of support and protection (for example, when a child is offended or devalued by teachers, coaches and other adults)

Parents will be disappointed

- perhaps the child is ashamed and he is not sure that he and the parent will “digest” his “badness”
— Perhaps, in families in which they strive for “ideality,” in which the parents do not allow themselves to make mistakes, in which the child is accustomed, in a roundabout way, through success, to deserve attention and love, in which the child feels the burden of responsibility for the “success of the parents,” if devaluing and sarcastic humor in the family if the self-esteem of the child and parents is not strong

Parents torment you with control, questions, anxiety or advice

- perhaps if there is no experience, when a parent can simply be a listener without giving advice or commenting. If the parent does not trust the child and himself

The story will harm the parents

- perhaps the child is frightened by manipulators. And he is afraid for his parents or friends. It is important to monitor changes in the child’s condition (sleep disturbances, eating disorders, manifestations of anxiety)

Parents still don't care

- perhaps if the child does not receive support, if trust is lost, if topics interesting to the parent, are limited to the questions - what are the grades at school? Did you do your homework?

What can we do preventively?

• Try, if the child wants to talk, to listen without interrupting or giving advice until he asks.
  Remember that life is not only about school.
• To realize that a child relies on our maturity, strength and stability - if he feels that we are adults and are greater than any of his pain, hysteria, fear - it is easier for him to trust us.
• Remember and remind your child that mistakes are part of success.
• And the child is important to us, regardless of his success, which may be unpleasant for us, but the child will not become less dear to us if he farts in the “wrong place”, if we find out that the teenager is swearing or did not pass the test.
• Despite all the fatigue and workload, try to create home rituals - moments of intimacy.
• Pursue your potential so as not to depend on your child’s success.
• Talk and say that the safety and condition of the child is incredibly important to us.
• Remember that our Love is often not obvious to a child - try to show it.