On June 27, 2018, Evgeny Lvov buried two beloved girls at once. Wife Natalya and daughter Diana. Two coffins, two contracts with a ritual agent, a double portion of tears. But Mikhail Isakhanov, presumably responsible for their deaths, will be tried for the death of only one of them. Illogical, but quite legal. No lawyer can change the course of things. The Russian Constitution is on the side of the accused.

According to investigators, in mid-June, Mikhail Isakhanov hit two women in his BMW car in Moscow on Verkhnyaya Maslovka Street. One of them, Natalya Lvova, was nine months pregnant. The woman was taken to the hospital and underwent emergency C-section. The child was taken out already dead, and the doctors made unsuccessful attempts for half an hour to restart the girl’s heart. A couple of hours later, her mother also died.

The doctors wrote two certificates: about the birth and about the death of the baby. In the second, doctors indicated that the child died in the womb from hypoxia resulting from the woman’s injuries.

According to Article 17 of the Civil Code of the Russian Federation, the legal capacity of a citizen arises at the moment of his birth and ends with death. Under Article 53 Federal Law“On the basics of protecting the health of citizens in Russian Federation“,” “the moment of birth of a child is the moment of separation of the fetus from the mother’s body through childbirth.”

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In this tragedy, the birth did not take place. In criminal law, “the rights of the embryo” are protected only indirectly and are not a separate legal entity,” criminal lawyer Narek Kostanyan told the site.

Reckless driver Mikhail Isakhanov was charged under Part 3 of Article 264 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation “Violation of rules traffic and operation of vehicles”, resulting in the death of a person through negligence.” He faces up to five years in prison. If Russian legislation had recognized the daughter of Yevgeny Lvov as a person, the punishment for Isakhanov would have been toughened - imprisonment for up to nine years.

After a man who technically did not exist, her father was left with a whole arsenal of things. All this remains untouched to this day; Evgeniy cannot raise his hand to give it away.

Our crib is cream. Changing table, mattress, onesies, caps, pacifiers, combs, socks and gloves, sheets, diapers. The creams arrived from the USA for babies in early July, my wife ordered them,” the inconsolable father said with a lump in his throat.

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Lawyers are sure: the lack of rights for a child in the womb is a serious gap in Russian legislation. It needs to be fixed - the sooner the better.

Criminal legal protection of the life of a child during pregnancy - this issue must be radically reconsidered. My colleagues and I send various petitions, appeals, statements to organizations with legislative initiatives in order to draw attention to the existing problem,” said lawyer Andrei Mishonov.

Director of the Institute of Human Rights Valentin Gefter promised to initiate changes in legislation aimed at protecting the rights of unborn babies. The expert suggests starting from the stages of the child’s intrauterine development. Biologists believe that a human embryo becomes a fetus from the 12th week of pregnancy. From this date, it is expected that a person will be given civil rights.

This needs to be done. I will see Tatyana Moskalkova (ombudsman for human rights in the Russian Federation... It is necessary for some regulatory developments to appear, and we will need to think about how to introduce this to the Duma, Gefter assured the site.

The main thing is that experts move from words to action. And the good idea in the air resulted in a well-designed bill. There, real changes in legislation are not far away.

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It is no secret that abortion is considered murder in almost all religious denominations of the world, and many spiritual practices open the veil on what happens to the mother-child bond and what happens if parents decide to get rid of the one who gave life

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It is no secret that abortion is considered murder in almost all religious denominations of the world, and many spiritual practices open the veil on what happens to the mother-child bond and what happens if parents decide to get rid of the one they gave life to.

Many of us are children Soviet Union, and I, as a paramedic-obstetrician by first education, know firsthand that many women previously considered abortion as a means of contraception. Accordingly, there are few people who are over twenty years old and who do not have unborn brothers and sisters. And if the church claims that an aborted child is a sin that is borne by the parents, then I want to direct your attention to how unborn children affect those born.

From a systemic point of view, a family is a system consisting of interconnected representatives who influence each other, regardless of whether they are alive or not. So, we can have a good, strong connection with our deceased grandmother, repay our great-grandfather’s debts, repeat our mother’s fate older sister, which everyone forgot about and did not allow themselves development and well-being in memory of their repressed relatives. Everything that is not put to rest, mourned and forgotten affects our lives in one way or another.

The strongest and most stable bond is the bond between parent and child. Every child carries his family in his heart. And often he doesn't know where his feelings are coming from - we call these "entanglements." The child is, as it were, woven into events and the destinies of people that he may not even know about. Basic Rule family relations states: all relatives have the right to belong. If one of them is excluded, then the fate of the excluded person may affect another family member in the next generation, and this can manifest itself in depression, unmotivated attacks of aggression, unwillingness to live, phobias, irrational behavior patterns and diseases. And until the right of the excluded is restored, until he is given his due, the living are connected by invisible threads with those who have long been gone.

Unfortunately, I will not be able to offer you a clear structure of who and for what reasons falls into this or that interweaving, because each fate is unique, since each system is unique, and nevertheless, we can see certain patterns, but not probabilities.

Let's try to make some kind of classification of the problems faced by a person who has unborn children and one who has unborn brothers and sisters.

By “unborn” I mean: aborted, stillborn, miscarriage, fertilized eggs during artificial insemination, as well as embryos that are “frozen”, and children who were not born if the mother used the contraceptive device “coil” (then the woman as a rule, she does not know how many times she became pregnant, and this needs to be clarified through constellation or other types of work with the unconscious).

IMPACT OF UNBORN CHILDREN ON PARTNERSHIP

Abortion has a profound effect on the soul. Parenthood begins at the moment of conception and cannot be abolished by abortion.
The consequences of an abortion for parents are usually much worse than if they gave birth to a child.
The blame for what happened cannot be shared - everyone has their own.
If a woman, having become pregnant, did not tell her partner about it, her responsibility and guilt are aggravated.
With every abortion, part of the relationship is aborted. Physically, this may be the cessation or disruption of a sexual relationship, but this rupture truly occurs at the level of souls. The situation remains this way until each of the parents admits their guilt, until they mentally look at the child and give him a place in their heart. Then both can be together.
A couple's relationship cannot be completed if there are unaccepted unborn children. On a subtle level, this connection remains as long as they are alive.

PARENTS AND UNBORN CHILDREN

The mother's soul experiences the abortion as if she had lost a part of herself. She is drawn to the dead child, she is drawn to death. The pain from this is so great that in most cases this movement passes into the sphere of the unconscious and the woman may feel a loss of strength, a lack of energy, as if her life was leaking somewhere.
The mother's heart remains with the first unborn child until he is mourned for her; she is “closed” to other children. A child who is born later may unconsciously experience fear towards the mother.
A man who has aborted children has some financial problems.
Living children may be restless, ill, have trouble studying, and accidents may occur to them. The parent may feel that they do not have a truly good connection with the child.

CHILDREN WHO HAVE UNBORN BROTHERS AND SISTERS

If you have an unborn brother or sister before you, then this child “gave up” his place in the system to you, because, most likely, you would not have existed. Then often such people do not have a good life: they may feel that they do not have the right to live, feel that they are living several lives at the same time, and have financial difficulties. It's as if they can't afford a full-fledged happy life. Typically, such people have difficulty choosing a profession and complain about their inability to find their way. They have several educations in their arsenal, they often change jobs, their personal relationships are complex and varied, and among their friends there are many different and radically different people.

There are two scenarios in their interaction with their mother: detachment, sometimes aggressive agitation in cases when the mother demands or teaches something, “getting stuck” in relationships - such a child feels that he is given too much (for two, or even for three). And the second option: within him there is not a need, but a sense of duty - he must be successful, famous, leave his mark in this life. It’s as if a person in his heart looks at his unborn brothers and sisters and says to them: “I will live my life for us all!” - and this is precisely what causes many of his failures.
If there are unborn children after you, then the dynamics are less varied, but, as a rule, the sphere of family relationships suffers. Even having created our own family, we feel that we are in the service not only of her, but also of our friends, and at work - for the reason that our soul becomes a “mother” for our brothers and sisters, because our mother doesn't look at them.
If you have unborn brothers and sisters before and after you, then it is often difficult for such a person to do anything with their life. In describing their life, they can use the phrases “I don’t feel support under my feet”, “the ground is disappearing from under my feet”, “I don’t know who I am and what I want from this life”, “I have no taste for life”, “I feel like I’m living, but I’m not here”, “I have a feeling that I’m not living my life”...
If there are unborn children between living brothers and sisters, then they feel alienated from each other, sometimes this alienation turns into an abyss.

There are many other nuances, each of which has its own patterns and patterns in different cases. For example, men who have children conceived artificially almost always face serious financial problems. And the point is not only that several embryos are used in this procedure, and success is not always achieved the first time, which means that all these children were not only brothers and sisters, but often twins, and such a connection is even stronger than the bond between mother and child. IN in this case such a system can be influenced by great forces, I would say, the forces of nature. We have a saying: “God gave a child, he will also give for a child,” but if you “bought” him, she stops cooperating, and here it’s practically impossible to do without serious work to correct this situation.

You may ask: what do miscarriages and stillborn children have to do with it, no one killed them? This is true, but often the pain of the loss is so great that the couple is unable to truly mourn and let go of such a child. At first, they look for someone to blame, explicitly or implicitly trying to shift the blame onto each other, onto the doctors, or even onto God himself. But if such a child is not talked about, if he has been forgotten or there is pain when remembering him, it means that he is still not mourned, he is excluded, which means there will be someone who will partially or completely take his place.

Let me give you a few examples of client work.
A young woman complained that no one wanted to be friends with her five-year-old son in kindergarten. The parents have already changed their third kindergarten, they are trying their best, buying toys and sweets for the baby, teaching him to share them with other children, but everything is in vain. According to the mother, her child is a kind, nice boy who is suffering greatly due to the current situation.

In the arrangement, she was asked to choose substitutes for her son and for other children and arrange them the way she felt. Right away everything looked normal, except that the boy's deputy had discomfort in the body, unclear perception of reality, sore throat. The mother recognized all these symptoms. But when the baby’s substitute began to approach other children, they felt fear and looked not at the child, but at the seats next to him. We introduced additional deputies into the arrangement and placed them to the right and left of the boy, and from feedback we found out that these were also children, this is how they perceived themselves and the boy’s deputy. The client said she had two abortions before her son, a miscarriage, and two more abortions after his birth. When the missing number of children was introduced, everyone felt better. The child's substitute looked at them with love, he was very happy and felt absolutely happy. The mother remembered how her son repeatedly communicated with invisible friends in his games, and she was sure that they were figments of his imagination due to the lack of real friends, and now she was able to see how things really were.

She was asked to enter the arrangement herself, to look at her children, and it was clear how difficult each step was for her, but when she was able to say: “You are my children, and I am your mother,” the “children” rushed to her, and she I was able to fully surrender to my feelings. While she cried and hugged her unborn children, her son became wary of approaching the other children, and this time they allowed him to do so.

Another client asked that her partnership was not working out at all, and her relationship with her children was not the best. As she, with the help of deputies, arranged her family, it became obvious that the woman's focus was in a completely different place - she was looking at a place on the floor; when a deputy was placed in this place, the client’s deputy came up to him, lay down next to him, hugged him and closed her eyes. She hugged him the way a mother hugs a child, and the deputy lay down in the fetal position. The eldest daughter quietly approached them and lay down next to them. When the son also wanted to follow them, his father stopped him.
It turned out that this was a stillborn child of this woman from her first marriage. She only knows that it was a girl, and the doctors didn’t even show her to her mother. When the woman was able to look at her child and admit that she had not cried wholeheartedly for her, the atmosphere of tension and pain that all the deputies felt began to change. The client gave her daughter a name and promised that she would give her one day of her life: she said that she would take her hand and show her Kyiv, that they would go to children's store, and she will be able to choose a toy for herself, and then they will go to the circus (that’s where the unborn girl wanted to go). And only after this the woman was able to truly see her daughter, son and husband; before that she felt as if in a veil. The client’s first husband was included in the arrangement; the son from his second marriage felt a connection with him. The woman said that he really behaves as if he were her partner and not her son. He tried to look after her, always paid attention to how she was dressed, and once even declared that when he grew up, he would marry her. The first husband in this system was also expelled, and the client's son took his place. The children did not know about the client’s first marriage, or about their stillborn sister.

The woman was able to look into her eyes ex-husband and say that now their daughter has a name, thank him for everything and turn to his family.

The husband stood with their two children and was glad that now she would be with them. In life, he actually told his wife that he didn’t feel her, that she was somewhere not here, which caused her irritation and misunderstanding. In this arrangement, we saw that part of the client’s heart remained in her past, which was closed and forgotten along with the pain that remained unlived. The eldest daughter followed her and for this reason she had poor health and a weakened immune system. The son took the place of the first husband, so the entire previous family was “assembled.” And only the current husband was left alone - there was no place for him, which affected the partnership.

In fact, the topic of unborn children is much deeper - it is endless, like life itself in all its manifestations. And each story requires its own approach and its own unique solution. One thing is important: everyone in the system has their own place and we must live our lives, being in it - this guarantees us support and the ability to cope with everything that our fate has in store for us. To do this, you need to open your heart to everyone who has ever belonged to our system and give them space. Then the dead will remain in the world of the dead, and we will not have the need to live someone else's life.

Incredible facts

Abortion is perhaps the most controversial and sensitive topic in our society.

Its supporters and opponents put forward many arguments Pros and cons.

The reasons that push women to have an abortion are different: from economic instability to unwillingness to become a mother due to young or specific circumstances.

Psychological consequences of abortion

When talking about abortion, first of all, it is worth taking into account the psychological moment that a woman who decides to terminate her pregnancy will have to endure.

And no matter how bitter it may sound, it is much easier to remove a baby from the mother’s womb than to erase the memory of him from her soul.

As surveys have shown, women who decide to terminate a pregnancy say that if at first they feel some relief, then it later gave way to a feeling of acute guilt, pain and disappointment.

Experts say what a woman experiences after an abortion is actually very different from what she says. The psychological consequences of abortion are much more serious than it might seem at first glance.

Even when a woman regards termination of pregnancy as “the only way out of the current situation” and rationalizes abortion, on a subconscious level she denies it and experiences what happened very hard.

No matter how much she convinces herself that “it is necessary” and that “there was no other way out”, termination of pregnancy always leads to a deep psychological crisis. A woman begins to experience many different feelings: from pain and shame, to a feeling of emptiness and hopelessness.

And even if at first she felt a sense of relief that she was free from obligations and unwanted burdens, she soon begins to feel regret, fear, melancholy and, of course, she is tormented by guilt.

Often psychological problems may cause physiological problems. The result is insomnia, bad dreams, depressed mood; Some women who decide to have an abortion develop sexual disorders. She ceases to perceive the child's father as a sexual partner.

In medical slang, such phenomena are called “post-abortion syndrome” (PAS).

A woman is, by nature, first of all, a mother and a giver of new life. When pregnancy occurs, a new life begins to develop inside her. And no matter what they say about “a cluster of cells” or that “this is not a child yet,” on a subconscious level, every woman understands that she is responsible for the child living inside her body.

According to psychologists, understanding this and awareness of motherhood are imprinted on a subconscious level.

When a woman makes the difficult decision to terminate her pregnancy, it seems to change her calling to give. new life, she seems to be betraying her calling to be a mother.

It's no surprise that she feminine and nature resist such a development of events. Ultimately, such a change in one’s natural essence does not pass without a trace for a woman.

The Church's attitude towards abortion

Let's start with the fact that on the issue of abortion, all religious confessions agree on one thing - it is a sin.

The church’s attitude to this is clear: abortion is the murder of an unborn child. Almost every world religion thinks so. And it’s difficult to argue here.

It’s no secret that the connection between mother and child is the strongest spiritual connection that can exist in this world. Some spiritual practices reveal the mystery of what happens if parents decide to terminate a pregnancy and get rid of the one they simply must give life to.

Unfortunately, some women consider abortion as a means of contraception. Many of us have heard that abortion is a sin for which both parents of the unborn baby are responsible.

But few people have heard about how an unborn child influences children born later, that is, their born brothers and sisters, as well as the fate of their parents, or rather, the fate of the woman and man who were to become them.

Unborn children

We all know that a family is a single chain consisting of interconnected links, that is, family members who influence each other regardless of whether they are alive or have already died.

So, some of us maintain a strong connection with our great-grandmother, who has long since passed away, others must pay the debts of their grandfather or even great-grandfather, and there are those who, unfortunately, repeat the fate of their aunt or grandmother.

According to psychotherapists and esotericists, everything that is not forgotten, not mourned, not forgiven in one way or another affects our destinies and our lives.

So, as stated above, the strongest connection is the blood connection between a father and mother and their child.

Let's find out what the impact of an unborn child is on his parents, brothers and sisters.

Woman after abortion

Abortion changes everything. After the woman decides to do this, one dies and the other (the mother of the unborn child) remains wounded for life.

In addition, the full brunt of the woman’s emotional, spiritual and psychological state is also transferred to other family members. Therefore, many women prefer not to inform their family and friends.

Abortion scars may not be immediately obvious. Many wounds begin to bleed much later: for example, when someone close to you dies or during subsequent pregnancy and childbirth.

From the memoirs of a girl who decided to have an abortion at a very early age:

“After leaving the clinic after the abortion, I remember the physical pain and the understanding that I had done something that I might later regret. However, at that moment I did not even imagine that my decision to have an abortion would somehow affect my future children. As a teenager, I didn't think that far ahead."

Everyone has their own reasons that pushed a woman to make such a difficult decision. As a rule, if a woman already has a child and decides to have an abortion, she motivates her action as follows:

“I can’t afford another child, because then I’ll have to somehow disadvantage the children I already have.”

To save their living children from poverty, lack of money or other difficulties, women decide to terminate their pregnancy. However, they do not even suspect that abortion will not improve the lives of other children or those babies who will be born later.

Many people tend to underestimate the impact that abortion leaves on the siblings of unborn children.

Because abortion is usually kept secret, it is very difficult for children to understand what happened and where this source of pain suddenly came from within the family.

But even when children know the truth, as a rule, they consider asking a question about abortion incorrect and unacceptable. Many are more concerned with their parents' suffering than with their own emotional distress, as well as spiritual and psychological pain.

Here are the 5 main consequences experienced by siblings of unborn children, in other words, children whose mothers decide to terminate the pregnancy:

1. Guilt

When children discover that they are the reason their brother's life was cut short, some begin to feel guilty.

They may think that something is their fault, and that somehow they are responsible for the fact that their brother or sister was not destined to be born. This feeling of guilt can accompany a person throughout his life.

2. Parenting that leads to trauma

Abortion changes people. It often happens that after an abortion, couples break up without even realizing why this happened.

The healing process sometimes takes months and even years. And psychological pain can interfere with the process of bonding relationships with children who already exist, or those who will be born in the future.

All this can lead to improper upbringing and even psychological childhood trauma, which can create serious difficulties in the future.

3. Repeated sins of generations

Unexpected pregnancy and the decision to have an abortion for various reasons often become some kind of sad family tradition. Sometimes a girl may not even know that she is deciding to repeat the sin that her mother or grandmother committed.

Whether they know their sibling's life was interrupted or not, many women unknowingly repeat the sin of their parents by ending an unplanned pregnancy.

4. The souls of dead children visit the living

In one private therapy session with a woman who had undergone an abortion, her 5-year-old daughter introduced her imaginary friend.

The family was encouraged to welcome an "imaginary" friend. The mother listened to her daughter talk to this friend, talking about her family. When the child described his imaginary interlocutor, the woman was shocked: the invisible friend was the same age as the child whose life she interrupted.

Feeling that this was no coincidence, the mother heard the name of her imaginary friend. She was shocked again when she realized that this name coincided with the name that she was preparing for her failed baby.

After the session was over, the mysterious friend disappeared. When the girl asked where, the little girl simply replied: “She’s back to heaven, mommy.”

And such cases are far from uncommon; it is worth noting that each of these stories has its own nuances and details.

5. Pain and sorrow

Here is one very interesting story:

“Even before I was born, two of my sisters died of birth defects. I knew about their deaths. And although my parents rarely talked about it, sometimes their presence was felt very strongly.

A little later I visited their graves, and at that moment the grief overwhelmed me so much that I felt an unbearable pain of loss, despite the fact that I had never known them. It was so strange and incomprehensible."

Unborn children

Psychologists say that abortion significantly affects many areas of a person’s life.

The influence of unborn children on parents:

As a rule, a woman experiences an abortion very hard. She often feels as if she has lost a part of herself. The psychological pain after this act is so strong that the woman often begins to experience severe physical consequences: she feels a loss of strength and energy.

She feels as if she is in another reality. This happens because the mother’s soul yearns for the unborn child. Subsequently, feelings of guilt and regret are also added to this melancholy.

The mother's heart and soul remain with the unborn child. As mentioned above, as long as this child remains unmourned, the woman’s heart is closed to other children.

For this reason, a baby born after, on a subconscious level, may unconsciously experience fear towards his own mother.

Abortion not only affects the mother, but also the father's life.

A man who has aborted children begins to experience serious financial problems over time.

The impact of abortion on the relationship between partners in a couple:

Abortion has a profound impact on a couple's life.

We need to understand a very important truth: parenthood occurs at the moment a child is conceived, and it is not at all abolished by abortion.

The consequences of an abortion for both partners are often more severe than if they had decided to give birth to this child.

The guilt for making the decision to have an abortion cannot be shared - both have their own guilt. To what extent the blame is shared can be shown by a detailed study of the cause of the abortion.

If, for example, a woman finds out that she is pregnant, but chooses not to inform her partner, and she herself decides to have an abortion, her responsibility and guilt are aggravated and become greater.

You should also be aware that with each abortion performed, the relationship is gradually destroyed. From a physiological point of view, sexual attraction between partners is often disrupted.

Ultimately, this can lead to the cessation or disruption of intimacy and separation of partners.

However, if the love is strong enough in the relationship, this can be avoided. When each parent admits their guilt and forgives each other for decision, only in this case the emotional, physical and psychological connection in a couple can improve.

Partners who have unaccepted unborn children very often separate.

Abortion is a very difficult test for partners, which not everyone can pass.

The impact of abortion on children who have unborn siblings:

If your parents decided to have an abortion before your birth, this unborn brother or sister seemed to “give up” their place to you in a certain system in which, most likely, you would not have taken place. In other words, you simply wouldn't exist.

Therefore, very often something starts to go wrong in such people’s lives. For example, they have serious difficulties in their work; it often happens that sometimes they get the feeling that they are living not one, but two or even three lives.

They experience suffering, and it often begins to seem as if they are denying themselves a full, happy life.

Often such people experience difficulties in determining their place in the sun, first of all, in choosing a profession. It can be difficult for them to determine their path in life. They may have several educations and professions, and they constantly jump from one job to another.

In addition, they are also surrounded by many friends and acquaintances who are not similar to each other, and their personal life It's quite difficult.

It is also worth noting the special relationship of such people with their mothers; there are two possible scenarios for the development of events: coldness, detachment, and sometimes some aggressiveness. Or, on the contrary, the child feels too much attention and love (the mother, as if feeling guilty, also gives this love for her unborn child).

Another option: this person experiences conflicting feelings within himself. It’s as if a certain sense of responsibility hangs over him not to let his parents down: he must certainly become successful and succeed in this life.

It seems that somewhere on a subconscious level he harbors the idea that he is obligated to live a successful life for his unborn brother or sister. However, it is precisely this thought that leads to numerous failures and falls.

If your unborn brother or sister happened after your birth, then you should also understand some nuances. First of all, your family relationships will also suffer.

If your parents decided to have an abortion both before and after your birth, then you will have a very difficult time in life.

As a rule, it will seem to you that you do not feel solid support under your feet, you will not understand what you want from life, and sometimes it will even seem to you that the earth is simply floating away from under your feet.

Such people are more likely than others to experience depression, they seem to lose their taste for life, it seems to them that they are not living their lives, or they feel like they are in the wrong place at the wrong time.

If there are unborn children between living brothers and sisters, then a difficult situation is also observed here: they feel coldness and alienation in their relationships with each other. Often this coldness and detachment become a real abyss and lead to a complete break in the relationship.

In addition, there are some nuances regarding unborn children. So, for example, if a man becomes the father of a child who was conceived artificially, as a rule, he will face serious financial difficulties and obstacles in the field of career growth.

Perhaps the main reason for this is that doctors take several embryos for the artificial insemination procedure. Everyone knows that very often a woman does not manage to get pregnant this way the first time.

This means that all these failed children were originally twins or fraternal twins. This connection is considered the strongest, both at the genetic and psychological levels. Even the bond between mother and child is not as strong as that between brothers and sisters.

Prologue

From January 6 to 7 - on the most festive night for the entire Orthodox world, Katya held her newborn daughter Mashenka in her arms. In the ward, where all the women in labor were already asleep, and their babies were snoring peacefully - having made the first and most important journey in life - from their mother’s bellies into the world, Ekaterina spent the first hours with her long-awaited, so suffered, so desired baby.

She sat without letting go of her hands, as if afraid that Mashenka (as she called her pride) would suddenly disappear. In the light of the lantern shining through the hospital window, Katya looked with emotion at her tiny face, small nose, cheeks, closed eyes with beautiful long eyelashes, lips, everything seemed so perfect. "I was waiting for you for so long!",— the happy mother whispered, holding back tears. And raising her eyes upward, she mentally said, "Thank you!!!" to the one whom she accused, and cursed, and begged, and thanked all these years. Pictures of the years she had lived, the trials she had passed, stories of despair and humility flashed before her eyes. All this, now that the most important gift presented by fate was snoring in her arms, seemed not an accident. Now everything she had experienced was revealed in a different light, like a road along which she had been led to make her stronger, wiser and more tolerant. But most main gift, which she received along with her baby, is the ability to appreciate such a gift from heaven as the birth of a Child.

Svetochka

Katyusha grew up as an obedient and sweet girl, making her mom and dad happy. After graduating from school, she left for another city, entered college, and after graduating, she returned to her parents. I met my one and only, Slava, and got married.

Everything was going great - she and her husband bought an apartment, Katya had an interesting and well-paid job, with prospects for career growth. The young couple’s relationship was going well; it seemed they were simply made for each other. They always had a lot of friends in their house; in the summer they preferred outdoor activities - rafting down rivers, climbing mountains. Life was interesting, but at the same time without presenting any unpleasant surprises.

Having lived together for 3 years, the young couple began to think, as they should, about children. Katerina would have made an excellent mother, she was calm and very kind, and no one ever saw her irritated or angry. It seemed that such a woman was simply destined to become a wonderful mother.

When the test showed the coveted two stripes, everything in the lives of Slava and Katya changed. They read books about pregnancy, ate only healthy foods, did exercises, and walked a lot. Every evening, going to bed, they talked about Svetochka (Katya, for some reason, was sure that she was waiting for Svetochka). They imagined what she would be like, how they would walk with her, bathe her, and feed her.

Katya talked for hours with the baby, repeating how much she was waiting for her and loving her. Together they went swimming in the pool, listened to classics and children's fairy tales. Watching her friends who had children, she noted that since Lena, she would not talk to her baby, would not punish like Tanya, and was not going to celebrate birthdays like Oksana. Even on the street, watching mothers with children, she always knew what she would not be like - especially if a scene with roaring or punishment unfolded before her eyes. Although the belly was not yet noticeable, all the acquaintances immediately understood, although they did not show it, that Catherine was pregnant. She radiated such light and calmness, her face was so spiritual and happy that there was no doubt.

At 12 weeks, Katyusha and her husband went for their first ultrasound. It’s one thing to imagine that a little person is growing in your stomach, it’s another to see it with your own eyes. It was so surprising that the “button” the size of a strawberry already had legs, arms and even fingers, and a beating heart. Katya even burst into tears, it was so exciting to see her little MIRACLE floating inside her. The doctor assured that everything was normal, the fetus was developing, according to the development schedule and there were no pathologies. The word is a fruit, somehow it even hurt Katya’s ear - for her it was not a fruit, it was her little princess, her Svetochka.On the way home, the happy parents bought a cake and in the evening over tea they only discussed what kind of legs and hands their baby had, and how nimble their little Svetochka was.

***

At night, Katya woke up from a dull aching pain in her lower abdomen and woke up her husband. Slava called an ambulance and tried to calm his wife down. Katya found no place for herself, such fear rolled over her in waves that her heart began to beat quickly, quickly. She grabbed printed prayers for pregnant women from the table and began to read them non-stop. Arrived ambulance, Katya was taken to the hospital, and Slava, unable to find a place for himself, followed.

Already in the hospital, Katerina had a miscarriage, they cleaned her up and left her until the morning. Either recovering from anesthesia, or in a dream, Katya saw a little girl walking up the road somewhere, who turned around and waved her hand, smiling. The next morning, Katya woke up in a ward where three women were being kept, they all looked at her sympathetically and said some words to her. But she, turning to the wall, cried, mourning her unborn girl, whom she would never braid, would never wear. Nice dress, to which he will never sing a lullaby. Katya felt such pain and emptiness that it seemed to her that the women who sympathized with her were rejoicing in their souls, each thinking at the same time - “Thank God it didn’t happen to me.”

Katya lay there and dreamed of only one thing: that Slava would take her home as soon as possible. After the examination, the doctor discharged Katya, and she returned home. The first thing that caught my eye were books and magazines about pregnancy and motherhood, little booties that I bought on a whim from some grandmother at the market and an ultrasound photo of their little Svetochka. Slava brought a box from the balcony, put everything there, seeing his wife’s condition, he decided to remove things reminiscent of this tragedy.

Katya went to doctors, trying to find out the reasons for the miscarriage, took tests - there was only one answer - “You’re fine, we can’t determine the reason...”

After talking with her husband, they decided to undergo examination at a clinic in the capital. Before leaving, Katya, while cleaning the apartment, went to her neighbor, Grandma Raya, to give her some groceries.

Grandmother Raya had 5 children and 7 grandchildren, who often came to visit the old woman. She was a very kind and very religious woman. After drinking tea, Grandma Raya blessed Katya, sympathizing and greatly liking this young, cheerful woman. As she was leaving, Katya stopped on the threshold and asked: “Grandmother Raya, where do unborn children go?” And I told her the dream I saw in the hospital. “Oh, baby, I don’t even know, but the priest in our church probably knows.”- she answered and began, as always, to talk about the new priest, in whom, judging by the stories, the entire flock dotes. Katya politely interrupted the conversation, citing getting ready.

In an expensive clinic in Moscow, after a full examination and all kinds of tests, the verdict was the same as at home - "Are you OK. But we recommend more careful monitoring during the next pregnancy.”

Katya and Slava returned, gradually the pain from the loss subsided, life went on as usual. At work, Katya was promoted, everything was going well.

Anechka

A year passed, Katya and Slava decided to try again. As soon as his wife had a delay, Slava rushed to the pharmacy for tests. Coming out of the toilet, Katya said with tears in her eyes - "Happened!".

Now Katya took care of herself like a porcelain vase. Slava even bought her a dishwasher in order to somehow protect the woman he loved from worries. They waited very excitedly for 12 weeks, with bated breath, fearing a repetition. This time Katya did not name her baby, fearing to get ahead of herself.

At the second ultrasound, she was told that she was expecting a girl. The fears were left behind, and Katyusha began to call her girl Anechka. She looked at the women with children and repeated to herself: “Anya, I’ll be the one for you best mom in the world".

The baby had already begun to move inside, for Katya it was simply a miracle, she always froze at these moments, afraid to miss even the slightest push. She learned Anechka’s daily routine, tried to go to bed herself when her daughter was sleeping or at rest, so as not to suddenly wake up the baby.

***

Everything happened unexpectedly: contractions started at 22 weeks, Katya was admitted to the hospital. With eyes full of horror, she grabbed the doctors by the hands and shouted: “Save my child!!! Save Anya!!! Help my baby!!!" Unfortunately, they were unable to stop the sudden onset of labor. Anya was born a stillborn child.

Katya begged to show her her daughter, but they wrapped her up and took her away, explaining that she was not supposed to. She was left alone, lying on the delivery table in the delivery room, having not given birth to a child. The nurse who was washing the floor for some reason opened the window and left; it became very cold, and Katerina felt how this cold penetrated every part of her soul and heart, freezing her feelings.

The chilling truth that she had lost her second child slowly dawned on her. Suddenly, unable to hold back any longer, she began to sob and wail, out of pain, resentment, pity for herself, for Anya, for Slava. She so wanted to become little, to climb into her mother’s arms and hug her, forget about everything.

Katya was injected with a strong sedative and at night she saw the same dream again, her girl, her little Anechka was leaving her forever. Only instead of waving her hand, the girl said: “Please understand!”

Returning from the hospital, Katya, not wanting to stay at home even a day, went to work. Tactful colleagues tried not to touch upon the topic of children at all in front of her. No matter how hard Katya tried, she could not cope with her pain. She stopped communicating with friends who had children, switched the TV if suddenly they showed a nice little one. Slava saw how his wife was suffering, more than once offered to discuss everything, advised her to talk it out, cry, but she only answered him: "You can not understand!" Thus erecting a huge wall between them.

***

3 months have passed. One Sunday morning Grandma Raya rang the doorbell and said to Katerina: “Get dressed, let's go!” Katya got dressed without asking and left.

Her grandmother took her to church for service. Father Mikhail, the same one that the neighbor constantly talked about, met them at the entrance. He greeted Katya and smiled, and her eyes even stung from the tears that had welled up - there was so much warmth and so much love and kindness in the priest’s gaze that Katyusha’s frozen heart responded. She had read stories about saints, but here she saw with her own eyes how a person seemed to glow from within.

Throughout the service, Katya had involuntary tears flowing, cleansing her soul, washing away despair and pain. Afterwards, approaching Father Mikhail, she asked:

- Father, answer me, where do unborn children go?

— Sinless souls go to Paradise. “They become angels,” he answered and smiled.

The first night after the tragedy, Katya slept soundly, without nightmares. She began to come to church often - sometimes just to sit, sometimes to light a candle, sometimes to listen to the priest. My soul became calmer. She went through all the examinations again and this time the doctors suggested that it was possible premature birth caused by weakness of the uterine muscles that cannot support the growing child.

Tanyusha

Another year has passed. Slava and Katya bought a new 3-room apartment and a car. Slava defended his dissertation, Katya was made head of the department. They went to church together every Sunday. Only sometimes, when meeting couples with strollers, Katya’s heart ached. And yet Katerina decided to take a risk.

She often went to church and talked with Father Mikhail.

Everything was going great, no pathologies, the baby was moving, hour X was approaching (the period at which she lost Anechka). Father Mikhail said that you have to believe - and Katya believed. She was registered at the best clinic, and the entire pregnancy was under the constant supervision of doctors. Katya believed when contractions started ahead of time again, she believed that they would certainly help her, she believed until the last.

***

The baby was born alive, but prematurely at such a stage that no one bothered to resuscitate her. Katya saw how her blond girl died on the next table within 3 minutes. She screamed, rushed towards her, bit the doctors, she fought, scratched like an animal - but realizing that it was all over, she fell into unconsciousness.

And again the vision repeated itself, for the third time her girl left her, now the baby cried herself, repeating: "You will understand!"

This was the last, and it seemed the most cruel blow, Katya withdrew into herself. When her husband came to pick her up, holding back tears with difficulty, she asked to be taken to church right away. Slava was even happy, thinking that this was good - maybe faith would help her.

Katya, getting out of the car, ran to the church door, running inside, not seeing anything around, she, pushing aside the parishioners, rushed to the altar. She ran up, looking at the icon of the Savior, and screamed at the top of her lungs so that He could hear:

- WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO ME?! WHAT HAVE I DONE SO TERRIBLE THAT YOU PUNISH ME SO MUCH? WHY ARE YOU KILLING MY GIRLS? YOU, WHO, WITHOUT A THINKING, GIVE CHILDREN TO DRUG ADDICATORS, WHO THROW THEM IMMEDIATELY IN THE TRASH TRASH!!!

Her husband and father Mikhail ran up to her, they tried to pull her away by force, but Katya struggled without hearing anything. She turned to the numb people who had come to the service and shouted to them:

-Who do you pray to? Who are you asking? He plays with us like with dolls, tearing off our legs, tearing out our hearts!!!

She was nevertheless taken to the priest’s room at the church. Katya continued to cry for a long time, whispering: "For what? For what? For what?"

Father Mikhail stroked her head, knowing that any words were useless now. How much grief he saw every day, how much pain people bring to the temple... After all, when everything is good, they don’t often come with it, but when it’s bad, the soul seeks answers and leads a person to God. Once upon a time, he too, having lost his family, came for answers. Then his future mentor said:

— DON’T LOOK FOR ANSWERS FROM GOD, SEEK THEM IN YOURSELF. SEEK THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IN YOURSELF. AND PAIN - IT ALWAYS CLEANS, IT TEARS UNNECESSARY GROWTH FROM OUR SOUL. SOMETIMES THE ONLY POINT IS TO CARRY YOUR BURDEN. AND REMEMBER, THE LORD ALWAYS GIVES A PERSON EXACTLY AS MUCH AS HE IS CAPABLE OF BEARING - BOTH GOOD AND BAD.

The first thing Katya saw when she woke up was the priest’s eyes glowing from within. She vaguely remembered what she had done in the church, but it was enough to make her blush with shame. “Yes, that’s enough for you, the Lord has never seen anything like this,”- said Father Mikhail, smiling, - “People will forget, don’t worry.” Here he repeated to Katya word for word what his mentor had once told him.

Epilogue

Katya searched for an answer for a long time, knowing that she was not destined to give birth to a child until she found it. She got up with this question and went to bed with it, sometimes it seemed to her that she would understand why this happened. And somehow, while watching some kind of program, I briefly heard the phrase: “Don’t think that you are better than others...” it suddenly dawned on her: PRIDE! and CONDEMNATION!!! This is what they punished her for, this is what they wanted to show - she remembered how she condemned all her friends for mistreating their children, she remembered her conviction that only she would be the best mother, that God, supposedly, gives children to women unworthy of this gift.

Katya rushed to confession and told Father Mikhail everything, she was so happy that she had found the answer, that she finally understood what the soul of the little girl, who had chosen Katya as her mother, was asking for (for some reason she really wanted to believe that the 3 her unborn babies were one soul).

Father, after Katya left, he sat and smiled for a long time, he blessed Katyusha and knew that now everything would be fine. "God works in mysterious ways!" - he thought, as always, he admired the deeds of the One in whom he trusted so much.

Seeing Katya’s husband from afar, the priest understood everything and once again thanked the Creator.

After 5 days the most happy mom and her little Mashenka was discharged home, the proud dad, without holding back his tears, with his hands trembling with excitement, took his long-awaited daughter for the first time in his life.

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Unborn children are a very delicate and painful topic for many women. There is a lot of silence, shame, pain, guilt and fear around her... We want to help you free yourself from these experiences and heal your relationship with your unborn children.

“Regardless of how a woman consciously feels about the termination of pregnancy - she regrets it or considers it an ordinary matter, at the subconscious level negative changes occur in her psyche: a deep feeling of pain, sorrow and guilt settles there, because by nature a woman is called to be mother. Even if she consciously says that it is okay to terminate the pregnancy, on a subconscious level she still feels pain and loss.”

Bert Hellinger

Who needs it

The webinar will help you if:

• a pregnancy has been terminated in your life;
• you feel guilt towards unborn children and the pain of loss;
• after termination of pregnancy you have problems with women's health, the relationship with the spouse deteriorated and problems began in life;
• you want to restore relationships with the souls of unborn children;
• there are difficulties with childbearing in your family;
• in your family the “victim-aggressor” program is clearly expressed in relationships;
• you have unborn brothers or sisters and you feel that they influence your life;
• you often feel guilty “for no reason” - or for not being born;
• you have a difficult and painful relationship with your parents;
• you want to help the souls of your unborn brothers and sisters;
• you know that there are unborn children in your family;
• there are ancestors in your family who performed abortions (doctors, healers);
• you want to help the souls of your unborn ancestors and heal your family.

The connection of the unborn child with the clan, with future generations, manifests itself even several centuries later, this is confirmed by constellations according to the method of Bert Hellinger.

In this kind:

• extinction programs appear (children stop being born, miscarriages, missed pregnancies, ectopic pregnancies, stillborn children, early deaths of children occur);
• infertility and serious diseases of the reproductive system of women appear that prevent conception;
• the unfortunate fate of the members of the clan;
• a feeling of a “vicious circle” in the family - an interrupted pregnancy often connects people from incarnation to incarnation, not allowing them to separate so that they can correct what they have done;
• weakening of the energy of the family, poverty, illness;
• hereditary program “victim-aggressor”;
• suicide in the family;
• unhappy marital relationships;
• “wrong” love of parents for children - there is either too little or too much of it;
• complex and painful relationships between parents and children.

“The constellations show that aborted children, as a rule, agree with their fate; they are more concerned about the attitude of the living towards them. A child remains a child, no matter what his fate may be. And a mother remains a mother, even if she did not have time to bestow her love on the child. After a woman recognizes an aborted child, she has a desire to look at her partner. This gives strength to continue the relationship, but now in a slightly different way. Living children are freed from the unbearable burden of caring for or replacing aborted children. And they can take it again mother's love. And this means that life can go on.”

Marta Lukovnikova, child and family psychologist

Webinar topics

• What is an interrupted pregnancy from an energy point of view?
• How does it affect the fate of the parents of the unborn child and the entire family?
• How to heal the uterus after abortion
• How to free yourself from the pain, guilt, fear and shame of a miscarriage
• How to restore a loving relationship with the soul of an unborn baby
• How to restore a relationship with your child's father
• How does an interrupted pregnancy affect children already born?
• What happens to children born after it?
• What to do if you have unborn siblings
• How to heal your family from the consequences of abortion

Experience and competence

The topic of unborn children is very important for my family. I have unborn siblings and my grandmothers had aborted pregnancies. Therefore, I was looking for ways for myself to heal relationships with the souls of unborn children, how to help them and my ancestors.

Often children, after whose birth the mother had terminated pregnancies, live with a constant feeling of guilt, which seems to be causeless on the surface, and do not allow themselves to live to their full potential. This is how it was in my life. After the practices, my inner state has changed a lot: now I feel calm, I am no longer tormented by attacks of constant feelings of guilt, I have allowed myself to rejoice and enjoy life.

As a psychologist and energy therapist, working with clients with similar requests, I became convinced of the effectiveness and necessity of such work.

I will share the knowledge that has opened up to me and proven techniques:

• to restore the flow of love energy in the family, including the practice of accepting those excluded;
• to heal relationships with the souls of unborn children (brothers, sisters and other ancestors), including the practices of repentance and reconciliation, the practice of meeting the first woman in the family who terminated her pregnancy;
• to heal the family from negative programs and scenarios associated with childbirth and marital relations, including the practice of forgiving yourself.

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