43-50 years is a critical moment in a woman's life. After all, by this age, she had already completed most of the "tasks" of her life: she started a family, gave birth to and raised a child (maybe more than one), built a career, arranged a house - in fact, crossed the middle of her path. And the question involuntarily arises before her: why, for what and how to live on? The habitual points of application of energy have disappeared, and with them sometimes the meaning of life ... The psychological state of a woman at this moment can be described in two words: "hidden pain", pain about which there is nothing to say aloud. External signs of well-being - marriage, children, favorite work - are no longer satisfying, but what exactly hurts inside and interferes with life is difficult to understand.
Oddly enough, most men of a similar age do not experience similar problems: they have hobbies, friends, in general, there are ways of self-realization. A woman, on the other hand, is often too "busy" with other important things to maintain close relationships with her friends or to be creative, she had too much trouble with growing children, household chores. But now the time has come when the children have achieved independence, the relationship with the husband is on the set track, the way of life is adjusted. The woman does not see prospects for herself. It is at this age that the number of breaks in relations with the former partner, with whom one has lived life, grows. And it also happens that alcohol becomes the way to cope with the situation.
Crisis 50 years in women: psychology
The cause of the crisis is a deep desire to be needed, loved, in demand: a psychologist can help to realize these needs. A woman needs vivid emotions that cause love, motherhood, and the novelty of relationships. These desires can be realized in different ways: someone, for example, is purposefully looking for new acquaintances and connections. But these attempts to reshape life are doomed to failure in advance, because in this way you can only get a surrogate. A woman after 40 is too wise not to notice the shortcomings of a new partner. It is illogical for her to immerse herself in the life of the body, when the perception of the world and herself mainly goes "through the head": through understanding, awareness, comparison with past experience. A deeper understanding of the problem lies in the fact that a woman is terrified that life has not yet been lived, there is still unspent energy, and the body is already aging, and the usual points of application of power (children, husband, career) no longer need hourly attention.
Be yourselfIt is possible that the process of overcoming the crisis of 50 years for women will not be too fast: according to experts, this is due to age characteristics, the coincidence of the psychological crisis with age-related, physiological changes in the body. But psychologists agree that the most effective solution to the problem will be to reformulate your desires and needs in such a way as to aim not at getting emotions, but at maximizing your investment. Paradoxical as it may sound, it is by giving and investing that you can get much more positive warm feelings than demanding attention. The feeling that you yourself are creating something interesting, beautiful, or simply doing a good and useful deed, you are busy, you are creating - this is exactly what women so often lack.
The next stage in overcoming the crisis of the age of 50 for women will be taking responsibility for what happens to your life: independently filling it with the necessary deeds, events, people, feelings - and, therefore, turning the tide! Yes, it can be very difficult to break the pattern and go to learn to play the piano at 45, pick up a brush and paints for the first time after school, go to Pilates - do something that is not accepted, but very necessary for your own peace of mind and well-being.
Age 49 is marked by unexpected sadness, which manifests itself as a result of understanding the approaching old age. Children do not visit often, difficulties can arise at work, and diseases often manifest themselves. It is already difficult to keep up with the modern rhythm of life, which makes you doubt your own strengths and knowledge. Even artificially created joy can help. If you cheer yourself up with small pleasures (a favorite book, a long-awaited trip, a massage or a few boxes of chocolates), gradually life will really sparkle with new colors.
Physiology of age
The body's skin and bones are exuded. The age-related wrinkles are getting bigger. They concentrate mainly on the neck. Eyesight deteriorates.
The uterus in women decreases, but conception at 49 years old is feasible, although its probability decreases to 15%, and the probability premature birth and complications during pregnancy increase up to 80%. Weakened vaginal muscles cause prolapse of the uterus. Hot flashes become less frequent and less intense. Bones become brittle due to the accelerated depletion of calcium. Because of this, a curvature of the spine can occur.
Age statistics
The population of the Russian Federation in this age period (45-49 years) is 12,067 thousand people. Of these, 5688 thousand are men, 6379 thousand are women. Of the population of this age group employed in the Russian economy only 14.7%
Were you born in 1970 or 1971
1970 - February. In England, they thought about the introduction of compulsory secondary education.
In trade, barcodes that were created in England and the USA began to be used.
1971 - January 31st. Telephone communication between East and West Berlin was restored after a 19-year break.
December 1. United United Arab Emirates which included Abu Dhabi, Dubai, Sharjah, Ajman, Umm al-Qaiwain and Fujairah.
1972 - 22nd of May. For the first time, the USSR is visited by an American president, who at that time was Richard Nixon.
21 December. A treaty on good neighborly relations has been signed between East and West Germany.
1973 - 4 January. Removed race-based restrictions on migrants to Australia.
MITS, led by Edward Roberts, designed and marketed the Altair personal computer, which consists of a power supply, i8080 microprocessor, motherboard, 256MB of memory and a front panel.
1975 - May 8. The USSR completed the construction of the first section of the BAM (Baikal-Amur Mainline) - one of the largest railways in the world.
December. Stephen Sasson created a digital camera, which as a result simplified the process of creating and processing images, improving their quality.
August 22. The automatic station "Luna-24" has returned from the Moon. It was launched by the USSR with the aim of delivering lunar soil.
1977 - January 1st. For the first time in the US Episcopal Church, a woman was ordained.
May. The consumer video cassette recorder was created by the Japanese company SONY.
1978 - January 23. For the first time in Sweden, the use of aerosols was banned, as they are harmful to nature.
22 of October. In the Vatican, the Pope was elected Karol Voytyl - John Paul II - a man who played a significant role not only in the spiritual, but also in the socio-political life of Europe.
1979 - May 4th. Margaret Thatcher became the first female prime minister in the British government.
For the first time, elections to the European Parliament took place. The process of political consolidation of European states began.
November 12. The Voyager 1 spacecraft flew 185 thousand kilometers from Saturn. Thus was obtained detailed information about the planet, its rings and satellites, and the discovery of 13, 14 and 15 satellites took place.
Implementation the latest technology which made it possible to print newspapers without human touch. The first newspaper published using this technology was the leading Japanese newspaper Asahi Shimbun.
1981 - October 23. Registration begins in South Africa mixed marriages as a challenge to the policy of apartheid.
1982 - September 14. The first commercial hearing aid ("artificial ear") produced by the Australian company Nakleus was implanted in a patient.
Scientist Robert Jarvik created an artificial heart. He developed and implanted a practical modification of the Jarvic-7 on December 2, building on the prototype base. Physicians have a new opportunity to save thousands of lives.
1983 - In Japan, an artificial human bone was created.
American geneticists Andrew W. Murray and Jack W. Shostak created the first artificial chromosome, which, due to the content of the yeast genome, could exist outside the set of chromosomes. This chromosome is used to clone large DNA fragments.
1984 - The American surgeon W. G. Clewall of the University of Colorado underwent surgery on a child in the womb.
1985 - 16th of May. The beginning of the anti-alcohol campaign in the USSR by decree of the Presidium of the Supreme Council "on strengthening the fight against drunkenness."
November 19th. The first meeting between Gorbachev and Reagan took place in Geneva. After that (two years later) “perestroika” began in the USSR - a complex of reforms in the social and economic spheres.
1986 - February 20th. The first manned research orbital station Mir-1, launched by the USSR, began to operate. She worked until March 23, 2001, after which it was incapacitated and flooded in the Pacific Ocean.
26 April. An explosion occurred at the Chernobyl nuclear power plant located near Kiev. The Soviet authorities spread the message about this only after Finland, Denmark and Sweden reported an increased background of radiation in their territories. To eliminate the consequences of the accident, about 600,000 people were involved, many of whom died from radiation sickness and other diseases associated with the results of radiation.
1987 - May 29. A small plane piloted by Matthias Rust, a 19-year-old citizen of West Germany, has landed on Red Square in Moscow.
The first experimental operation of laser vision correction was performed. It was carried out by Columbia University doctor Stephen Trockel, who, in collaboration with other scientists, published several papers describing the benefits of an experimental laser for corneal tissue in surgery to correct myopia, hyperopia and astigmatism.
Yasser Arafat - PLO leader recognized the existence of the State of Israel.
1989 - January 11. The declaration on the prohibition of the use of poisonous gases, chemical and bacteriological weapons was signed by representatives of 149 countries.
March 27. A state of emergency has been declared in the United States after damage to the Exxon Valdez tanker in Prince William Sound. As a result of this damage, on March 24, about 64 million liters of oil spilled into the sea.
November 9. The East German government announced the opening of the border with West Germany. On November 10, East Germany set about destroying the Berlin Wall.
1990 - August 6. The UN Security Council approved a resolution on the introduction of a military and trade embargo against Iraq. A protracted oil and military conflict with Iraq began.
November 22. The "iron lady" of world politics, Margaret Thatcher, the Prime Minister of Great Britain, has publicly announced her resignation.
December. In Croatia, a referendum was held on the withdrawal from Yugoslavia. The overwhelming majority of citizens voted for the exit. The formal disintegration of Yugoslavia began.
1991 - The 25th of January. Iraq is dumping oil reserves into the Persian Gulf. This threatens an ecological disaster.
December 8. Representatives of Russia, Belarus and Ukraine sign an agreement on the Creation of the Commonwealth of Independent States, to which 5 more countries of the former Soviet Union will join on December 21.
December 25. Soviet President Mikhail Gorbachev resigns. The USSR officially ceases to exist.
1992 - February 2. In many CIS countries, economic reform began, which consisted of price liberalization - the abolition of centralized price controls.
The beginning of the era of GSM communication. This year, Germany launched a GSM communication system, which was later used as a prototype for many operators around the world.
The 4th of October. Government tanks are shooting The White house in Moscow. The incident killed 150 people. The system of power in Russia has changed dramatically. This was the beginning of the creation of a presidential-parliamentary republic.
12 December. Referendum on the adoption of the Constitution Russian Federation... 58.4% of citizens supported the adoption.
1994 - January 31st. The first images were demonstrated from the Hubble Space Telescope, which photographs galaxies at early stage their development.
the 6th of May. A tunnel under the English Channel was opened, connecting England and France. The total length of the tunnel is 50 kilometers, 38 kilometers under the sea itself.
December 11th. The fighting began in Chechen Republic... The fighting begins by the troops of the Russian Federation. Fighting did not stop until an agreement was signed to end the war in Khasavyurt (until 30.08.1996).
The first book on CD appeared in the USA. By the end of the year, most of the encyclopedias had been created or translated into this format.
1995 - 20th of March. In the Tokyo subway in Japan, nerve gas was used, the victims of which were 5 thousand people, 12 people died. On May 16, Soko Asahara, the leader of the religious sect Aum Shinrikyo, was arrested.
The first artificial liver was tested by German surgeon Peter Neu Hauz.
1996 - 4th of July. B.N. Yeltsin becomes president of the Russian Federation for the second time. This is the first time that the same person has been re-elected to the post of President of Russia.
A test for the detection of AIDS has begun to be used. The proteins produced by the virus were detected in the blood, which made it possible to diagnose the disease at an early stage.
1997 - February 22. Scottish scientists announced the birth of the only surviving embryo, a clone of an adult sheep. Dolly was born on July 5, 1996 without abnormalities and lived until February 14, 2003 as an ordinary sheep.
4th of July. A rover designed to collect and analyze Martian soils has landed on the surface of Mars.
1998 - August 17th. In Russia, the ruble depreciated, which led to an exacerbation of the economic crisis. The country's government has resigned.
September 24. The first transplantation of a deceased patient's limb to a living one took place. In the city of Lyon, France, a hand and forearm were transplanted.
12 December. In the United States, the first child organ transplant operation was performed. A three-year-old boy from Florida at a Pennsylvania hospital received a heart, lung and liver transplant.
1999 - January 1st. Most of the countries of the European Union have switched to settlements in the new European currency - the euro.
March 24. The first NATO air raid was carried out on Yugoslavia. The US invaded a sovereign state that was not threatened by a third party.
2000 - 26 March. The election of V.V. Putin to the post of President of the Russian Federation. Official inauguration took place on May 7.
A robotic developmental doll was created in the USA. She knew how to talk, laugh, cry, blink, make grimaces. In the process of communicating with people, she increased her vocabulary and reached the developmental level of a two-year-old child.
The first medicinal products were created in Novosibirsk, to the usual name of which the prefix "Bifido" was added. They contain a liquid concentrate of bifidobacteria, which have a positive effect on the intestinal microflora, prevent the development of pathogenic microbes and nourish the body with B vitamins and vitamin K. Such products quickly gained popularity among customers.
2001 - January 15. There was an official launch of the English site Wikipedia - a resource that today has become an assistant in the rapid acquisition of encyclopedic data in all areas of life.
11 September. The largest terrorist act in the history of the world has been committed in the United States. As a result, the Pentagon was damaged, destroyed Shopping Center, and human losses amounted to about three thousand people.
2002 - January 1st. The European Union introduced euro coins and banknotes, which became the single currency for most EU countries and played an important role in stabilizing the global European economy.
October. Recovery began 50 years later railroad between North and South Korea.
October 23. In Moscow, Russia, Chechen terrorists took hostages at the Nord-Ost theater center on Dubrovka. 3 days later, on October 26, during the assault by special forces, all the terrorists were killed. One of the hostages died from a bullet wound, the remaining 116 people died from the effects of the gas used during the assault.
2004 - Bloodless revolutions took place in Georgia, Ukraine, Kyrgyzstan, as a result of which more democratic leaders came to power.
1st of May. The European Union expanded its scope by adding ten new countries.
2005 - 5 January. Discovered Eris - the largest of the dwarf planets in our solar system.
2006 - March 29. On the territory of Russia, the first total eclipse of the sun could be observed in the 21st.
24 August. Scientists have stripped Pluto of planetary status. This decision was made at the congress of the International Union of Astronomers in Prague, Czech Republic.
2007 - Geneticists have discovered modifications in the human body that are responsible for the development of certain diseases. It became possible, after DNA analysis, to identify a predisposition to certain diseases.
November 4th. Presidential elections were held in the United States. The head of state was the first black president in the history of the state - Barack Obama.
2009 - August 17th. There was a disaster at the Sayano-Shushenskaya hydroelectric power station. Hundreds of people became victims. The cause of the malfunction was a series of defects and a failure in the redistribution of electricity in the power system.
2010 - 18th of March. Russian mathematician Grigory Perelman proved Poincaré's conjecture, which was considered one of the unsolvable Problems of the Millennium. For this, the Clay Mathematical Institute awarded him a prize of $ 1 million, which he refused.
April 10th. A plane crash occurred over Smolensk, in which Lech Kaczynski, the President of Poland, his wife Maria Kaczynska, the high military command, Polish politicians, as well as religious and public figures (97 people in total), died.
The first living cell was created, in which its own DNA was replaced with artificially created DNA. Humanity has received new tools for the development of technologies for the artificial cultivation of organs.
2011 - 11th of March. In Japan, off the northeast coast, there was an earthquake, which reached 8.9 in magnitude. As a result of the earthquake, a devastating tsunami occurred, as a result of which over 15 thousand people died, several thousand are considered missing.
May 2. Was killed Osama bin Laden - terrorist "number 1" in the world, the leader of al-Qaeda, who, in particular, is considered responsible for the terrorist attack "September 11".
September 7. A plane crash of an international charter flight took place near Yaroslavl. On board the plane was the team of the hockey club "Lokomotiv", which flew to Minsk. 44 people died, only one survived.
2012 - February 21. In Moscow, in the Cathedral of Christ the Savior, a scandalous punk prayer service by the PussyRiot group took place, three members of which were detained by the police.
December 1. Russia topped the Big Twenty (G20) - a forum of representatives of countries with the most developed economies: Australia, Japan, Argentina, South Africa, Brazil, South Korea, Great Britain, France, Germany, Turkey, India, USA, Indonesia, Saudi Arabia, Italy, Mexico, Canada, China.
2013 - February, 15. In the Urals, a meteorite fell - the largest celestial body that collided with the Earth's surface after the Tunguska meteorite. Because of the "Chelyabinsk" meteorite (it exploded in the vicinity of Chelyabinsk), 1,613 people were injured.
February, 15. Asteroid 2012 DA14 flew by at a minimum distance from planet Earth (27,000 km). In the entire history of astronomy, this was the closest distance.
18th of March. Vladimir V. Putin signed an agreement on the admission of the Crimean Peninsula and Sevastopol to Russia. This agreement begins to operate from the moment of ratification by the Federal Assembly - March 21.
2015 - Jan. 7. A terrorist attack took place in the office of the satirical magazine "Charlie Hebdo" in Paris, based on a cartoon of the Prophet Mohammed previously published in the magazine. 12 people were killed, 11 people were wounded.
Every seven years, counting from the moment of birth, our life changes dramatically. Astrologers attribute these changes to the fatal influence of the mysterious planet Saturn. Psychologists are the natural development of personality. Choose which theory you like best. All seven-year cycles end with “fateful years”: 7, 14, 21, 28, 35, 42, 49, and so on. At the age of seven and fourteen, your parents help you overcome difficulties. And from the age of twenty-one you take your destiny under personal control and it depends only on you how you will spend the next life cycle. Very few people manage to slip from one cycle to another unnoticed and painlessly, but it can be mitigated, but you need to lay a solid foundation for a successful next period.21-27 years old: "It's time to live your life and do your job"
At 21, you are no longer a teenager, but grown woman... Stop rushing, choosing, protesting and demonstrating. The time for trial and error is over. At twenty-one, many girls get married, or decide to live with a friend separately from the family, or realize that they do not want to think about the family yet.
If you still haven't found your way in life, Saturn will mercilessly push you out onto it. My friend's daughter, while studying at the university, recklessly walked with the boys and did nothing, in the last year she got into a car accident, broke her leg, underwent two operations, took up books in the hospital, brilliantly defended her diploma and now works for an insurance company and is going to leave marry a colleague. Australian singer Kylie Minogue at the age of twenty-one experienced a whirlwind romance with handsome and drug addict Michael Hutchins, lead singer of the rock band INXS. Passion turned an ordinary pretty star of soap television operas into a sexual siren, she sang out of stormy experiences and very well. But then Michael became interested in the model Helena Christensen. Kylie could continue to live one love, try to keep him, but made her choice in favor of a career. After a few years, her ex-lover committed suicide by pumping himself up with a mixture of antidepressants and sedatives and leaving behind another girlfriend with their one and a half year old child. And Kylie by the age of thirty turned into world famous.
On your 21st birthday, think about what you really want and do it. All the next seven years of your life will depend on whether you decide to do your own thing or again obey someone. Do not be afraid of the wrong choice, well, you will commit some stupidity, life will not end there, you will gain experience that will still serve you well. And if you don’t do anything, then everything in your life will come seven years later.
28 -34 years old: "Take what you want and pay for it"
At the age of 28, you must understand: you must answer for all the consequences of your own actions. For those who are hard of thinking, Saturn teaches very cruel lessons. A young woman with two children leaves a good complaisant husband for the sake of another man, because she is sure she needs love, and she never experienced it in marriage. Six months later, she loses her job, and two weeks later her father dies of a stroke. A few months later, she breaks up with a friend, and then takes care of her seriously ill daughter. We can say that all this is a chain of tragic coincidences. But as the saying goes Eastern wisdom, "Any chance has its cause." You cannot leave your husband without upsetting your parents with a divorce; you can not do what you love, being in constant stress; frivolous lovers are usually bad husbands and bad fathers, and our children depend on our mood like flowers from the sun. If you do not learn the first cruel lesson, it will be followed by the second, the third, and you will enter a “crazy” or, as psychologists say, “turbulent” seven years devoted to correcting mistakes.
Make time work for you
At the age of 28, sometimes it seems that life is somehow going wrong and it is necessary to change it: get pregnant without the consent of her husband, change jobs, tell a faithful and beloved friend that she is a bore. So don't do it. At the age of 28, you need to create and gain, not lose, and it does not matter what it is about: friends or marriage. Find someone with whom you could talk about everything, read a mountain of books on psychology and think more about what you have heard and read. Otherwise, some rash act will pull a whole chain of misfortunes.
35 years-41 years: "Time for perfection, harmony and balance"
But the beginning can be difficult. Tom Cruise announced to his wife Nicole Kidman that he intends to divorce her on the day of her 35th birthday. A month later, she had a miscarriage and she locked herself in her house for a long time in order to figure out how to live on. And although Nicole was left alone in the end, she became marvelously prettier and received an Oscar.
And my friend Marina was woken up by her husband early Saturday morning and said that he had met his first youthful love, everything was shaken in his soul and now he wants to live alone and understand what to do next. Marina was concerned only with her daughter and the house, and with the departure of her husband she was left without any means of subsistence. The husband promised to give money for the household. But if they get divorced? What, then, to live on? And what did she achieve by the middle of her life? A cruel blow showed her: honey, it's boring to talk to you, you don't have a profession, but you've gained 20 kilograms excess weight, you closed your eyes to the changes in your husband's behavior and lived in a world of illusions. Marina got a job as a saleswoman in a store and entered accounting courses. Her husband returned to her six months later, she lost weight and began to be interested in something else besides raising children.
Make time work for you
If you don't have children at the age of 35, it's time to give birth. If there is no profession, it's time to learn. If you've never been able to drive a car, get your license. The one who despised the kitchen must learn cooking. A housewife should consider working a few hours a week. It is necessary to restore the balance of life, otherwise you will spend all subsequent years on the scale that has sunk down.
42 -48 years: "It's time for big changes"
So they have appeared those wrinkles that cannot be overlooked, and no one will call you "girl" even looking from the back. You came to the gynecologist to complain about the irregularities in the cycle, and she, rolling her eyes to the ceiling, says in a boring voice: "Have you thought about the approach of menopause?" If you did not manage to take care of life balance seven years ago, you are afraid of the coming old age. You put on a mini-skirt that literally screams, “Look, I'm not old yet! I still have where! " A woman wants to change her former partner to young lover... Sometimes self-interest falls, the world dims and depression begins. Astrologers say: Saturn at the end of the sixth seven-year period does not push us on the true path and does not punish us for rashness, he asks us the question: "Are you ready to put up with old age?"
Make time work for you
You are going through a second adolescent crisis, only parting is not from childhood, but from youth and there are no caring parents nearby to support you. Now is the time to act and change yourself and your life. Learn to play the piano, buy yourself a good camera and shoot sunsets, get promoted. You can give birth to a child. Should you divorce your husband? Show wisdom and tolerance, it is not easy for him either. And if both of you successfully overcome the barrier of the fortieth birthday, a new surge of feelings awaits you. No husband, find a lover. You must open the door to a new living space, where you will live for all subsequent years, not only a mother and not just a pretty woman, but also a wise mature person.
49 years old: "I'm different now"
If you have not had time to change, then a difficult and painful menopause awaits you, with depression, outbursts of uncontrolled aggressiveness and hot flashes. The lessons of fate in the transition to the 50th anniversary are harsh adult children live their own lives, they do not ask to look after their grandchildren and do not need advice, they are young and active everywhere at work, illnesses have crippled, and it seems that only suffering and loneliness lie ahead.
Make time work for you
Regret for the past is a completely natural feeling for a 50-year-old; one should not be afraid of it. Your sadness will not be dispelled by vigorous activity, but by the enjoyment of life. Pamper yourself with all the pleasures available to your budget: let it be French perfume, Italian shoes, the last detective by Marinina, a trip to Tallinn, Prague or Cesis. Get rid of those friends who say that only crazy people at your age go to Thai massage and throw away money on travel. Communicate with those who are able to understand and approve of new facets of your nature. And you will see that life is still excitingly interesting and will always be so.
Every seven years, counting from the moment of birth, our life changes dramatically. Astrologers attribute these changes to the fatal influence of the mysterious planet Saturn. Psychologists are the natural development of personality. Choose which theory you like best. All seven-year cycles end with “fateful years”: 7, 14, 21, 28, 35, 42, 49 etc. At the age of seven and fourteen, your parents help you overcome difficulties. And from the age of twenty-one you take your destiny under personal control and it depends only on you how you will spend the next life cycle. Very few people manage to slip from one cycle to another unnoticed and painlessly, but it can be mitigated, but you need to lay a solid foundation for a successful next period.
21-27 years old: "It's time to live your life and do your job"
At 21, you are no longer a teenager, but a grown woman. Stop rushing, choosing, protesting and demonstrating. The time for trial and error is over. At twenty-one, many girls get married, or decide to live with a friend separately from the family, or realize that they do not want to think about the family yet.
If you still haven't found your way in life, Saturn will mercilessly push you out onto it. My friend's daughter, while studying at the university, recklessly walked with the boys and did nothing, in the last year she got into a car accident, broke her leg, underwent two operations, took up books in the hospital, brilliantly defended her diploma and now works for an insurance company and is going to leave marry a colleague. Australian singer Kylie Minogue at the age of twenty-one experienced a whirlwind romance with handsome and drug addict Michael Hutchins, lead singer of the rock band INXS. Passion turned an ordinary pretty star of soap television operas into a sexual siren, she sang out of stormy experiences and very well. But then Michael became interested in the model Helena Christensen. Kylie could continue to live one love, try to keep him, but made her choice in favor of a career. A few years later, her former lover committed suicide, pumping himself up with a mixture of antidepressants and sedatives and leaving behind another girlfriend with their one and a half year old child. And Kylie by the age of thirty has become a world celebrity.
On your 21st birthday, think about what you really want and do it. All the next seven years of your life will depend on whether you decide to do your own thing or again obey someone. Do not be afraid of the wrong choice, well, you will commit some stupidity, life will not end there, you will gain experience that will still serve you well. And if you don’t do anything, then everything in your life will come seven years later.
28 -34 years old: "Take what you want and pay for it"
At the age of 28, you must understand: you must answer for all the consequences of your own actions. For those who are hard of thinking, Saturn teaches very cruel lessons. A young woman with two children leaves a good complaisant husband for the sake of another man, because she is sure she needs love, and she never experienced it in marriage. Six months later, she loses her job, and two weeks later her father dies of a stroke. A few months later, she breaks up with a friend, and then takes care of her seriously ill daughter. We can say that all this is a chain of tragic coincidences. But as the Eastern wisdom says, "any accident has its cause." You cannot leave your husband without upsetting your parents with a divorce; you can not do what you love, being in constant stress; frivolous lovers are usually bad husbands and bad fathers, and our children depend on our mood like flowers from the sun. If you do not learn the first cruel lesson, it will be followed by the second, the third, and you will enter a “crazy” or, as psychologists say, “turbulent” seven years devoted to correcting mistakes.
Make time work for you
At the age of 28, sometimes it seems that life is somehow going wrong and it is necessary to change it: get pregnant without the consent of her husband, change jobs, tell a faithful and beloved friend that she is a bore. So don't do it. At the age of 28, you need to create and gain, not lose, and it does not matter what it is about: friends or marriage. Find someone with whom you could talk about everything, read a mountain of books on psychology and think more about what you have heard and read. Otherwise, some rash act will pull a whole chain of misfortunes.
35 years-41 years: "Time for perfection, harmony and balance"
But the beginning can be difficult. Tom Cruise announced to his wife Nicole Kidman that he intends to divorce her on the day of her 35th birthday. A month later, she had a miscarriage and she locked herself in her house for a long time in order to figure out how to live on. And although Nicole was left alone in the end, she became marvelously prettier and received an Oscar.
And my friend Marina was woken up by her husband early Saturday morning and said that he had met his first youthful love, everything was shaken in his soul and now he wants to live alone and understand what to do next. Marina was concerned only with her daughter and the house, and with the departure of her husband she was left without any means of subsistence. The husband promised to give money for the household. But if they get divorced? What, then, to live on? And what did she achieve by the middle of her life? A cruel blow showed her: honey, it's boring to talk to you, you don't have a profession, but you gained 20 kilograms of excess weight, you turned a blind eye to the changes in your husband's behavior and lived in a world of illusions. Marina got a job as a saleswoman in a store and entered accounting courses. Her husband returned to her six months later, she lost weight and began to be interested in something else besides raising children.
Make time work for you
If you don't have children at the age of 35, it's time to give birth. If there is no profession, it's time to learn. If you've never been able to drive a car, get your license. The one who despised the kitchen must learn cooking. A housewife should consider working a few hours a week. It is necessary to restore the balance of life, otherwise you will spend all subsequent years on the scale that has sunk down.
42 -48 years: "It's time for big changes"
So they have appeared those wrinkles that cannot be overlooked, and no one will call you "girl" even looking from the back. You came to the gynecologist to complain about the irregularities in the cycle, and she, rolling her eyes to the ceiling, says in a boring voice: "Have you thought about the approach of menopause?" If you did not manage to take care of life balance seven years ago, you are afraid of the coming old age. You put on a mini-skirt that literally screams, “Look, I'm not old yet! I still have where! " A woman wants to change her former partner for a young lover. Sometimes self-interest falls, the world dims and depression begins. Astrologers say: Saturn at the end of the sixth seven-year period does not push us on the true path and does not punish us for rashness, he asks us the question: "Are you ready to put up with old age?"
Make time work for you
You are going through a second adolescent crisis, only parting is not from childhood, but from youth and there are no caring parents nearby to support you. Now is the time to act and change yourself and your life. Learn to play the piano, buy yourself a good camera and shoot sunsets, get promoted. You can give birth to a child. Should you divorce your husband? Show wisdom and tolerance, it is not easy for him either. And if both of you successfully overcome the barrier of the fortieth birthday, a new surge of feelings awaits you. No husband, find a lover. You must open the door to a new living space, where you will live for all subsequent years, not only a mother and not just a pretty woman, but also a wise mature person.
49 years old: "I'm different now"
If you have not had time to change, then a difficult and painful menopause awaits you, with depression, outbursts of uncontrolled aggressiveness and hot flashes. The lessons of fate in the transition to the 50th anniversary are harsh adult children live their own lives, they do not ask to look after their grandchildren and do not need advice, they are young and active everywhere at work, illnesses have crippled, and it seems that only suffering and loneliness lie ahead.
Make time work for you
Regret for the past is a completely natural feeling for a 50-year-old; one should not be afraid of it. Your sadness will not be dispelled by vigorous activity, but by the enjoyment of life. Pamper yourself with all the pleasures available to your budget: let it be French perfume, Italian shoes, the last detective by Marinina, a trip to Tallinn, Prague or Cesis. Get rid of those friends who say that only crazy people at your age go to Thai massage and throw away money on travel. Communicate with those who are able to understand and approve of new facets of your nature. And you will see that life is still excitingly interesting and will always be so.
On my birthday, at forty-nine, I really want to wish
So that all the problems could be removed at once.
To wake up in the morning with a pure, bright soul,
So that all people smile and nod their heads to all.
At work, so that colleagues are respected more than anyone else.
Well, and most importantly - health and family, happy laughter.
Here are the sprouts of that
What I managed to sow.
There is something to talk about
Glorious 49.
I want to wish fortune
Family joy.
To happiness and prosperity
There were certainly.
Congratulations, and at your 49 years old I sincerely wish you not to think about sad things and remember that years are just statistics, the main thing is to feel happiness in your soul and not to forget to smile. I wish you health and joy, wonderful mood and well-being. Let every day give you the opportunity to do what you like, see dear people, feel great and look great!
We wish you a lot of happiness
So that there is no bad weather in life,
Fate saved from troubles
At the perfect forty-nine years old.
Let it bloom like a flower
In my heart, our humble congratulations
They put a soul, joy in him,
And the light has not gone out.
Years, years ... Yes, God is with them. Live without looking back at the past, perhaps with gratitude for the experience. May you always be accompanied by faith in the Almighty, hope for a better future and love for family and friends. I wish you a clear conscience, a clear mind, a sincere heart, and a calm soul.
Forty-nine to you - until the golden mean is still a year old. I wish that during this year you have time to become the most happy man so that there are no disappointments. Let everything be, and you get nothing for it. And great happiness to your family! Happy Birthday!
Almost an anniversary, and almost fifty,
"Almost" - forty-nine today.
Congratulations from loved ones fly to you,
There are many of them, so diverse.
And my congratulations go there
To call your joy again
On your holiday, get ready to take at the table
All those who come so quickly.
We sincerely wish you inspiration, harmony, smiles and flowers!
May every moment in life give luck, pleasure, love!
The mood will be wonderful and we are giving this congratulation,
So that the magic light burns without fading in the soul!
Today is a fun day! Say yes to luck!
May everything be fine at forty-nine, and always.
Woman
Let all the flowers be at your feet
From guys, friends, your family.
I wish you happiness to be married to you,
Stay the best woman!
Forty nine years came so soon
Stay healthy forever.
May the stars all in the sky shine for you
You start every day with a smile.
Man
Forty nine barely audible crept up
And they knock on your door with a bouquet.
All relatives have gathered today
Happy Birthday to congratulate now.
Everyone wishes you to live without sorrow,
Without despondency, without hassle-worries,
A year later, the holiday will come again,
The fiftieth anniversary will come.
Be a brave man, brave
And the fun will burst through the doors!
Girlfriend
Oh, would you know, my dear,
That I can't imagine life without you.
Your advice, all your worries
We share together until they end!
Friend, we will share everything for two with you,
Well, in the meantime, happiness to the top!
At your charming forty-nine
I wish you to be loved always!