Put part of your soul into your work and you will achieve success.

Don't waste time; do something useful; discard everything unnecessary.

What is hard work

1. Hard work is when, when performing absolutely any work, you do it with maximum efficiency.
2. Hard work is the key to success in life.
3. Hard work is the ability to devote a long time to work; If the work is loved, a hardworking person does not want to be distracted from it even by everyday chores.
4. Hard work is the willingness to provide physical assistance (assistance in business) to a person who needs it, without gaining any advantages or benefits.
5. Hard work is not only a respectful attitude towards your own work, but also a respectful attitude towards the work and fruits of the labors of other people.

Context: Very often, hard work is the basis of success and well-being. Cultivating hard work and knowing how to overcome laziness allows you to gain confidence in your abilities and train such a necessary quality as patience.

Hard work allows you to receive satisfaction from your own activities, gives strength, and energizes you.

Problem: Stop being lazy, don’t have a negative attitude towards work, but always have a positive attitude. Instill a love of work. Try to work with pleasure, completely devoting yourself to the task.

Solution: Attitude to work, like nothing else, characterizes a person. You can learn to enjoy work and force yourself to overcome laziness if you set yourself such a goal. Working on yourself and cultivating the need for work, it is important to acquire a number of necessary skills:

1. Striving for results. Perceiving it as a step forward, as a change for the better.
2. Strive for continuous improvement and enjoy learning.
3. Complete the tasks set for yourself.
4. Be inspired by thinking about the results of your work, set yourself up in an optimistic mood.

How to achieve hard work

1. Training. Often, visible changes for the better in the quality of work a person does stimulate him, helping to develop his industriousness.
2. Education. The learning process contributes to the development of hard work.
3. "Assignments for yourself." A psychological exercise for developing diligence is to set specific tasks for yourself in writing (read two books, weed five cucumber beds, purchase equipment for a minimum amount, etc.) and then diligently complete them.
4. Optimistic attitude towards work. Spiritualization of work, passion for oneself in the process or the results that work will bring, helps to develop diligence.

Hard work is the most important personality quality. A love of work instilled in a child from an early age will help him in the future cope with life’s problems more quickly and easily. The basis for the development of hard work, of course, is the family. Watching the work of adults, the child feels the desire to imitate them and perform the same actions. And here the main task is not to extinguish this desire, but to support and strengthen it. The most favorable time for developing positive motivation for work in a child is preschool and primary school age.

We teach children to work from childhood

Practice helps to form necessary and correct habits. Labor education of a child can begin from a very early age. The attitude of some parents that “he’s still little, let him frolic for now and always have time to work” is incorrect. You should not be afraid that by teaching a child to work, you are committing violence against him. Preschoolers are very active people, restless, inquisitive, and lively. And nature healthy child feasible work does not contradict in any way - on the contrary, it corresponds to the baby’s natural need for movement and action, it’s just that the preschooler’s energy should be carefully directed in the right direction. Simple work, however, teaches a child to overcome certain difficulties, to be resilient, persistent, and to complete what he has started. But remember that you cannot expect stable responsibility from a child even when he turns 15. Just remember how irresponsible many adults can be. Be patient, gently remind your child about his activities, and speak as if you were addressing an adult. Don't grumble or get irritated - this will kill any desire in your baby to help you.

We teach you to work correctly

Gradually start giving your baby simple tasks. By the age of two, children try to dress themselves. Perhaps only a year later the child will master this science, and after another year he will finally be able to cope with buttons and laces on shoes. Five or six year old children can already help you clean the apartment, work in the garden, prepare dinner (for example, you can entrust your child with peeling boiled vegetables). It is very important to motivate all actions. Also remember the need to help your child on your part. A complete lack of help will discourage the child from making new attempts. For example, remove your baby's sock halfway, this will make it easier for him to remove it completely, etc.

Sometimes adults notice that they constantly have to hurry the child - so that he gets out of bed, washes himself, gets dressed, has breakfast, but he keeps digging and digging. But a child is not born a “hoarder.” What makes him this way is the comments of adults, aimed at making him act faster - finish the soup or go to bed sooner. For adults, this gradually becomes a habit, and children, for their part, turn into little stubborn people. All day long you scold and nag your child, but you still have difficulty getting him to do something. This is a vicious circle, and there is only one way out - patience and trust.

Consider the physical capabilities of the baby, do not overload him. Unfortunately, this trend is also not uncommon, especially in families with 2-3 children. Often older children, six or seven years old, are assigned to babysit younger brothers or sisters, they have to carry them in their arms. But the child’s spine is not yet sufficiently formed, the muscles do not have the necessary endurance, physical overload can result in curvature of the spine and general exhaustion. Be careful.

Some of your demands may be difficult for your child to fulfill. But the main thing is that the child enjoys his work, as well as joy from the results of the work performed. According to psychological and pedagogical research, children perform many actions in accordance with their emotions and momentary desires. The main way to encourage a child to take one action or another is to evoke a positive emotional response and make work an attractive activity for the child.

We teach you to work with pleasure

IN preschool age the child works, imitating adults. Try to turn work into a kind of game. For example, to put away toys, you can make a garage out of construction sets or cubes, and put the doll to sleep, and now cleaning up toys has turned into an exciting game. You will see with what pleasure the child will be involved in it. In the children's room or children's corner you can build a real toy city! Let the child retain more of the initiative; he will be pleased to feel like the “master” of the situation, which will satisfy the baby’s self-esteem.

Remember the need to instill in a child the so-called work attitude. The child should know that this or that work has a specific purpose and brings certain benefits. All this should be explained to the child by an adult. For example, your baby will be happy to wash doll clothes in a small basin with soap and warm water. Our task is to ensure that things are washed well and become clean. If everything didn’t work out the first time, encourage him and treat the child’s efforts with due attention and respect. The baby only receives satisfaction and joy when doing the work requires effort from him. “Toy” work in this matter is the worst assistant. And don’t think that the baby is not able to distinguish useless work from useful work. Invite your child to wash a clean cup when there is a dirty one nearby. The kid will certainly either refuse this work or ask for a dirty cup.

Getting used to regular work

The biggest mistake parents make is not regularly introducing their child to work, from time to time. But a 5-7 year old preschooler should have very specific and permanent responsibilities around the house. For example, you can instruct him to feed your pet, water the flowers, wash your dishes after meals, make the bed. Such duties instill in the child conscientiousness, responsibility, discipline, and also teach them to perform work that is not only pleasant, but also necessary. IN modern life this is important.

Excuse for absence labor education The family cannot be affected by the parents' lack of free time. Of course, waiting for the child to get dressed or wash the dishes is a long time. It’s easier and faster for us to do everything ourselves. And we will get better results. All this is true, but by doing this, we miss invaluable time - that golden period of childhood, when the baby strives to do everything on his own, imitating adults, when he is so interested in putting on tights or a T-shirt himself, and with enviable stubbornness and zeal he tries to cope with this task. If you are late for kindergarten or to work, just put your baby to bed early and wake him up early. If you follow the path of least resistance, by the age of 3-4 these wonderful impulses to work in the child will fade away, he will get used to adults doing everything for him. And if you ask your baby to dress on his own, he will also become indignant and capricious. By the age of 7-9, he will already be quite skillfully and purposefully shirking any responsibilities.

We teach you to work consciously

Young children do not yet realize the significance of the everyday actions of adults. They are also not yet able to understand that parents who work also do household chores - cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. - may become tired and tired. For a child, everything that happens around him is taken for granted, and the child himself cannot appreciate the need to help his parents. Your task is to explain to your child that it will be very good if he helps you do some chores around the house, that you need it, that his help will make it possible to finish the work faster and spend more time interesting activities, joint games, etc. How earlier child begins to master the science of hard work, the easier it will be for him, and he will never become acquainted with the feeling of laziness. Missing this point in early age will require further long-term and serious work to correct the error, which, by the way, in most cases remains ineffective. After all, the roots of inaction and an idle lifestyle go back to the child’s awareness that all things can be done by someone else. In the future, this approach develops inability to cope with life in general and creates an irresponsible and helpless personality.

For children the best remedy The remedy for laziness is play and encouragement. Remember, what matters to a child is not what he does, but how he does it. Using the game, you can give your child almost any task. Just when addressing him, start the phrase with two magic words: “Let’s play!” At an early age, children are also interested in various competitive moments - who can fold their clothes more neatly, wash the dishes better, etc. The winner gets a prize! Choose the method that most successfully reunites your interests with the child’s desires. Work should be easy for a child, it should bring joy, and not be a burden. Books and cartoons about hardworking and lazy children (for example, “Vovka in the Far Far Away Kingdom”) will be a good help. Believe me, a child will not want to be like a lazy character!

We take into account the individual characteristics of the child

Shy children often lack self-confidence, and therefore even the slightest defeat is perceived by them as a huge shame. Such children react painfully to adults’ comments; it constantly seems to them that they are doing everything badly. Such a child’s self-esteem can also be easily vulnerable, and therefore he would rather be known as a lazy person than once again become an object of ridicule from peers or reproaches from adults. It often happens that children do chores with great eagerness, but do not make progress at school; the reason may be the fact that the teacher once expressed dissatisfaction with their knowledge in front of everyone in the lesson.

Sometimes children with this type of character are slow by nature, and this slowness should not be confused with laziness. Low activity may also be due to a feeling of danger. Again, I'd rather be known as a lazy person than a coward. It is important to remember that neurotic children are prone to nervous exhaustion. If such a child has been walking outside for a long time or watching TV, then on the same day he may refuse not only to do some housework, but even to brush his teeth before bed. Be forgiving and patient. Consider individual characteristics your child.

• When a child tries to help you, do not interfere with this; on the contrary, support the child’s initiative. Show how to use a rag, dustpan, etc.
• Allow your child to wash dishes. To avoid broken plates or injuries, you may want to trust your child with plastic utensils first.
• To develop responsibility and a sense of duty, entrust your baby with caring for a living being, even if it’s just one thing at first. indoor plant. Explain that the flower needs regular watering and care, otherwise it will die.
• Older children can be taught to use household appliances. Show how to turn on a microwave oven or an electric kettle. Remember that a child can only interact with electrical appliances under adult supervision!
• Teach older children how to wash their underwear, socks, and handkerchiefs.
• It is very important for girls to help their mother in the kitchen. Try to interest them and involve them in the exciting and, in fact, creative process of cooking. Bake pies and cookies with your daughter, let her chop boiled vegetables or peel a boiled egg, buy a bright apron for the girl.
• A boy can be involved in men's housework - for starters, he can simply hand tools to dad and learn to distinguish between them.
• Always praise your child for his help, even when he doesn’t succeed. This will create a positive emotional response, and in the future, housework will bring only joy. Imagine how much easier this will make your child’s life in the future when he becomes an adult!

From childhood, a child needs to be instilled with a love of work. The child must understand that every family member needs to work.

To develop a sense of hard work, you need to approach this process very carefully. Parents initially need to establish rules in the family and clearly monitor the implementation of these rules, both by the baby and the parents.

When assigning responsibilities, try to adequately assess the child’s strengths and assign tasks to the best of his ability. Do not overload your child with performance. Your child should see that everyone in the family clearly and unconditionally carries out certain instructions.

When completing tasks, the child should experience only positive emotions; you should not give tasks that the child does not like. Mental harmony and good mood will speed up the process of completing orders.

Remember that your example is the main indicator. If any disturbances arise on the part of the child, try to talk and talk about the need and usefulness of each family member fulfilling responsibilities. Good example on your part will only improve the quality of performance.

After each completed task, it is recommended to praise your child. It is very important for a child to know that his efforts were not in vain and are appreciated by his parents. You can please him with a small gift, but the main thing here is not to overdo it. However, if conflict situations arise, you should not fulfill the child’s responsibilities. Even if not now, but in half an hour, he will complete his assignment on his own. Here you need to feel the line between weakness in terms of task complexity and whims. Please note that the child may have his own important things to do, so you need to delimit and leave time for personal matters. This will help you learn proper self-organization.

Often children do not understand how to complete a task correctly and therefore there is a possibility of apathy. During the first few days, you should run errands together. You will be able to give the necessary advice and recommendations regarding the quality of the work.

One of the important nuances is respect for other people's work. Don't ignore disorder in your home. The child should know that everyone gets tired, but completing the assignment on time will help develop a habit and every time he works, it will be easier and more enjoyable. The general atmosphere in the house should be positive and cozy.

Any conflict situation can be resolved peacefully. Listen carefully to your children, pay attention to their requests and problems, be sensitive and understanding parents.

There are no ideal children; they are all a little capricious, a little lazy, and noisy. And if they didn’t put away the toys one day, then this is not a tragedy. They are still small and so malleable that in the hands of a good teacher, like clay in the hands of a talented sculptor, they will take any “shape”. To instill in children a hard work ethic, parents, first of all, will need self-control and patience. Where parents are calm and balanced, children grow up flexible and accommodating.

Techniques to help instill hard work in your child

Educate children independence and hard work It’s worth it as early as possible, and the parents themselves should take this seriously, and not do it in fits and starts, under the influence of a surging desire to “finally get down to parenting.”

Do not do work for your children that they can and must do themselves - this can lead to disastrous results. It also happens that a child has already entered the second grade, and his mother still feeds him with a spoon. It will be difficult to re-educate a child and instill hard work at this age.

Children are most willing to work together with their parents. In any work, you can take advantage of their feasible help, and not interrupt them with shouts: “Don’t interfere!”, “Go away!”, “Don’t get dirty!” - this way you will only kill their burning desire to help mom or dad. Don't refuse your children's help. In early childhood this will captivate them, and later it will become a habit, an obligation.

Enter a duty schedule for the apartment, for which you assign points, and at the end of the week, give everyone a total score and for the highest one, give an appropriate reward, although without leaving others offended. Over time, the need for the schedule will go away, and duty will continue without any remuneration.

Of course, children should not be given overwork. They get tired, and they lose all desire to work. For example, do this: give a task, and when the children complete it, allow them to play.

There is no need to force them to do anything with threats. This is one of the worst methods of instilling hard work, although some parents consider it reliable and fast-acting. It is a pity that they do not notice the fear in the eyes of their child, the animal fear of physical force.

There is no point in stubbornly insisting on doing something if the child does not want it, because your insistence “infects” the child and he becomes just as stubborn. In such cases, it is necessary to “change tactics” and distract the child from the acute conflict.

Looking at the endless scattered toys, dirty cups and shoes lying around in the hallway, almost all parents in the world are asking the same question: how to instill hard work in their child? How to make sure that your dear and beloved child begins to respect the work of others and finally becomes a child himself?

When to start

Hard work is the desire and desire to work; it is not an innate character trait of a person; it needs to be nurtured, and from early childhood. At two or three years old, children develop a desire to do everything themselves, including dressing, and self-care is the main type of work of a small child. It is important not to miss this period, because putting toys away, washing, and combing your hair builds confidence and the desire to overcome obstacles.

What if later?

Quite often, parents, for one reason or another, miss this moment, and then they need to make much more effort, show imagination, resourcefulness and, most importantly, angelic patience. Then the child will be able to catch up.

Where to begin?

At preschool age, children are keenly interested in the activities of adults that they observe. They will be very willing to help you iron, sweep, fix your phone, and vacuum. In order not to discourage your child from working, allow him to help. Let him set the table and wash a couple of plates or spoons. It is very important for a child to do any task in the best possible way.

A method that is ideal for kids is to help in the form of a game. For example, when collecting toys, you can compete to see who can assemble cubes or cars the fastest.

Let the baby save the entire galaxy from the invasion of dust or stop the torment of the dishes by washing them. It doesn’t matter what the child’s heroism will be; the main thing is that he himself believes that he a real hero, protector and helper.

Another method is to show a clear example. This could be a cartoon character or a historical figure. Having told your child about it, you need to try to interest him and make him want to imitate.

We set tasks correctly

Whatever you ask your child to do, never use a commanding tone. Any person, no matter what age he is - 3 years, 15 or 45 years old, responds much better to a request than to an order. Therefore, instead of: “How much can you say...”, try to use softer forms.

Often children refuse to do something because they do not understand well what is required of them. When formulating the tasks you give your child, try to be as specific as possible. “Clean up your room” sounds too abstract. This may imply general cleaning. “Hang up your clothes and put away your books” - this form is clearer, clearer and more accessible.

Own example

One of the most the best teachers- this is my own example. For a child, parents are a kind of standard of behavior. By showing your child how to easily and simply carry out certain tasks, you will prove to him that there is nothing scary in this work. The main thing to remember is that the child should not think that housework is hard work or punishment.

Try to do everything in a good mood, show your child that even doing fairly simple things, you can get pleasure: not from the process, but from the result. Then, helping dad hammer nails, little man will feel like a truly grown-up, because he has completed a very difficult task. The young housewife, having prepared the first salad in her life, will experience one of the best feelings in the world when she sees her family happily devouring her cooking.

Commensurability

Do not entrust your child with something he cannot handle. You should not ask him to arrange expensive, breakable dishes: if he is not yet dexterous enough, then a broken salad bowl will upset him and discourage him from doing such work. Ensure that children do not lift heavy objects or take dangerous items when you don't control them. Remember: if the task is feasible, then it is completed with interest and pleasure.

Responsibilities

It is important that the child understands that not only the parents, but also him, have regular ones in the family, and not from time to time. Instruct them to feed the fish, make the bed, arrange books on shelves, and water the flowers. Interest in work increases if the child sees the benefits of what he has done.

Parental care

Often, considering that the children are still small or sick, or citing a lack of time and patience, parents perform their responsibilities for their children. The lack of need to make efforts fosters laziness, indifference, and selfishness in children.

Don't do for your child what he can do on his own!

Try to help your child only when he asks for it.

Joint work

Including a child in feasible work in the family makes his life more interesting. In addition, joint work brings the family together, the child feels important. “We baked pies with mom,” “We repaired the car with dad,” the children say with pride.

Ask for help more often: put groceries in the refrigerator, wipe up a puddle in the bathroom, throw an empty bag from the table into the trash, give them slippers, etc. Over time, the child himself will notice what needs to be done.

Don't redo their work in front of them! And be sure to praise your children for what they do!

Behavior is formed from habits, and character is formed from behavior. All in our hands

Angela Voropai