A new one has begun academic year, troubles and worries lie ahead. First-graders are getting used to a completely new life for them, and this is sometimes quite difficult. They have to learn all the new rules and one of them is the rules of etiquette for schoolchildren at the table.

Studying etiquette

Good manners must be instilled from childhood, then it will be much easier for the child to behave correctly at school.
Even before school, a child must learn a minimum of table etiquette rules:

• do not indulge while eating;
• eat carefully without stuffing your mouth;
• wipe your mouth with a napkin, not your sleeve;
• do not put your elbows on the table.

Ways to teach etiquette

There are many ways to teach your child etiquette, both at school and in preschool age. Many of them can be easily used by parents.

Remember: The child must be interested in learning, otherwise you will lose his attention and there will be no benefit from the lesson.

Book source of knowledge

You can buy a book on etiquette for children in a bookstore, but you need to choose it correctly:

• It’s better to take a book that’s not too big;
• illustrations contribute to better assimilation of the information in it;
• a book on only one type of etiquette is easier to study;
• simple and understandable text is a guarantee that the child will approve of the book.

Cartoons

Cartoons are an important part of a child's life. So why not take advantage of this? You can watch educational cartoons together. This way you can not only speak important points, but also just to spend time with the baby.

Conversation with children

Conversation is purposeful communication, a method of educating preschool or school age, but not before.

Conversation rules:

• should be short;
• meaningful;
• presence of illustrations (cards, drawings, etc.).

Typically, such conversations are conducted by teachers at school or kindergarten.

Poems and games

IN game form Almost everything can be explained to a child. And it’s quite possible to beat the rules of table etiquette. Game scripts are available on the Internet, in books, or you can come up with your own.
Rhythmic rhymes make it easier to learn the rules and how they apply in life.

In addition, studying poetry trains the child’s memory and speech, and also helps expand his vocabulary.

Rules of behavior in the school canteen

During breaks, all the school students come running to the cafeteria and, of course, a lot of people gather. It is necessary to have time to eat, but it is also important not to forget to follow the general rules of etiquette:

• do not run ahead of the class;
• do not rush to sit down at the table;
• don't push;
• be sure to wash your hands;
• keep the queue;
• walk carefully in the dining room between tables;
• After the meal, put away the dishes after yourself.

At the table

Lunch will be more enjoyable if you follow simple rules of etiquette at the table:

From early childhood, it is necessary to teach a child to eat neatly, quietly, to use the dinner cutlery and napkin correctly, and not to talk at the table. It is time to teach a child from the age of five to six months, that is, when he begins to be spoon-fed.

Before feeding, be sure to wash your hands, lay a tablecloth or oilcloth on the table, tie a clean napkin around the child, and place a bowl of boiled water and cotton wool nearby. The spoon should be comfortable, small, with smooth edges. You should feed your child carefully; after eating, wipe his lips with damp cotton wool, then with a clean napkin.

As soon as a child begins to eat on his own (approximately between one and two years), it is necessary to teach him to thoroughly wash his hands before each meal and tie a clean napkin. The napkin should be changed frequently (at least twice a week). The spoon should be light and comfortable. From the very beginning, be sure to ensure that the child holds the spoon between the index, thumb and middle fingers of his right hand. Under no circumstances should he be allowed to hold the spoon clenched in his fist. Before eating, check that your child's nose is clean so that he does not develop the habit of sniffling or slurping.

From the age of four to five, when the child is already accustomed to eating on his own with a spoon, it is time to teach him to use a fork, not too large, comfortable and not sharp. Immediately pay close attention to how your baby takes the fork and how he holds it. After all, it is much easier to teach a child how to use a dining utensil correctly at the very beginning than to re-teach him at an older age.

As soon as the child learns to eat on his own, he should be seated at the table with adults. At the same time, mother, father, older sisters and brothers should always remember that the child takes an example from them, watching how they use the dinner set, how they take bread, how they sit at the table.

Between six and seven years of age, a child should be able to use a knife, cut meat, holding the knife in the right hand and the fork in the left, and know that it is forbidden to eat from a knife. He is already able to master more complex things, namely:

• that fish, cutlets, cabbage rolls, scrambled eggs (without ham) are eaten with a fork, without the help of a knife,

• they take the bread from the common dish with their hands onto their plate and eat it, breaking it off into pieces,

• You can eat chicken, goose and other poultry by picking it up by the bone,

• The roast is eaten by cutting off a whole piece, without first cutting the entire piece into pieces; the fork is held in the left hand and the knife in the right,

• Children eat fruit compotes with teaspoons, spit the bone from their mouth silently into a spoon, bringing it to their lips,

• fresh fruits are taken from the vase by hand,

• tea is poured into a glass or cup incompletely, sugar is stirred with a spoon quietly and slowly, before drinking, the spoon is removed and placed on a saucer. If a glass of tea is in a glass holder, then the spoon is not removed when drinking and is held in place with your finger.

It should be remembered that the entire environment in which the child has to eat must be calm and create a good mood.

All parents want to raise not only healthy, but also well-mannered children who can behave with dignity and decentness in any situation, in any society. Fine well-mannered child knows how to observe etiquette at the table, and his parents should teach him these rules.

The rules of etiquette mean norms of behavior in society based on respect for others. Teaching children how to behave at the table is necessary not only so that parents do not blush in front of guests or relatives. Knowing the rules of behavior during meals can help your child as he grows up.

In some cases, during a joint lunch, friendships may arise, contracts may be concluded, etc. Behavior at the table characterizes social status person, his level of education and culture. The skills acquired in childhood will be useful throughout your life.

Some parents believe that shouting, constant comments, and sometimes punishment for pranks at the table are education. But such methods are ineffective; they do not contribute to the development of good manners. And in a situation where a child is left without parental control (“Sit up straight!”, “Don’t slurp!”, “Say thank you”), he cannot show himself in the best light.

Caring parents, understanding their responsibility for raising a child, would like to know at what age they should start teaching their child the rules of behavior, how easier it is to teach a child to use cutlery, and whether it is dangerous to give it to a little fidget.

Basic table manners

It should be a rule for children to wash their hands with soap before eating.

All the rules governing the norms of children’s behavior at the table can be divided into two categories: how to behave and how not to behave during meals.

What can and should be done

1. Before sitting down at the table, you should... This must be done even one year old child. Of course, the mother washes the baby’s hands first, but from the age of 2-3 years the baby can successfully do this on his own. At first, mom will have to be reminded about the need to wash her hands, but then this healthy habit will develop.
2. Eat food at the dinner table. Even babies need to be fed in the dining room or kitchen. It is recommended to buy a special high chair that will allow the child to participate in a family meal at a common table.
3. A mandatory rule should be to wish you a pleasant appetite before starting a meal.
4. Be careful while eating so as not to stain yourself or your neighbors. To a small child Until he develops precise coordination of movements, you should use a special apron (bib) or tuck a cloth napkin into the collar. At an older age, you need to teach your child to use paper napkins. Before taking a glass of drink, he should carefully wipe his lips so as not to leave greasy marks on the glass (this can be unpleasant for his neighbors at the table).
5. You should eat and drink slowly, chew food without slurping, with your mouth closed. If you suddenly want to sneeze or cough, you need to turn away from the table, cover your nose or mouth with a napkin and then apologize.
6. You should sit upright at the table, leaning on the back of the chair.
7. Only after chewing and swallowing food can you say anything at the table.
8. If the desired dish or drink is far away, then you should not reach across the table for it. You need to ask to pass it on with the word “please” and don’t forget to thank you.
9. If the jug of drink or juice is heavy, you should ask an adult for help and say “thank you” for the service.
10. After finishing the meal, be sure to thank your mother or the hostess of the house, even if you didn’t really like the dish.

What should be banned

For well-mannered child With good manners there are actions with the word “impossible”:

1. It is unacceptable to rock in a chair while eating.
2. You can't put your elbows on the table.
3. You cannot start eating until all guests have been served.
4. During a meal, you should not talk loudly, gesticulate, wave your arms, or interrupt others. A rude tone at the table and harsh statements are unacceptable.
5. You cannot play with food, throw it, smear it on the plate, or crumble the bread.
6. You should not stuff your mouth full of food or bite off very large pieces.
7. You cannot use someone else’s cutlery or take food from someone else’s plate.
8. You cannot read while eating, eat while sitting at the computer, or in front of the TV.
9. It is unacceptable to wipe your mouth with your sleeve, hand, or tablecloth.
10. It is indecent to get up from the table if all participants have not finished the meal. But you can leave by asking permission first. If you need to visit the toilet or bathroom, you should apologize and leave (at a party or at home in the presence of strangers) without explaining your behavior.
11. You cannot lick your fingers or cutlery.

When should you start teaching your child?

It is advisable to start training from the first year of life. It’s just that the level of etiquette rules should be different. Once you start introducing it, you need to wash the baby’s hands before feeding. From the age of one year on, give the baby a spoon in his hands. Of course, his mother will have to feed him with a different spoon.

But the child, copying the actions of the mother, will also try to eat on his own with a spoon, and not with his hands. Even if he doesn’t succeed, even if his face is smeared, these will be the first steps in learning to use cutlery.

From 2 to 5 years of age, the process of mastering basic table manners and good manners lasts. Parents’ explanations will lay the foundation for the child’s behavior culture. Even at 2-3 years old, a child should not play around at the table.

How to teach etiquette to a child?

Adults should teach children etiquette at the table, first of all, by personal example.

Exploring the world, the baby absorbs new information like a sponge. You should use explanations, visualization of the necessary skills, personal example, and games.

The principles of training should be:

1. Consistency: Repeating things like washing your hands before eating every day, for example, can help you develop a healthy habit. It is important that the requirements are the same for all family members. What cannot be done today should be prohibited tomorrow and the day after tomorrow.

1. Visualization of the rules and the game being studied. Poems and pictures will help you remember faster the right rule. For example, washing your hands with soap takes a certain amount of time. If this procedure is accompanied by a specially selected rhyme or counting rhyme, then the problem will be easily solved. There are a number of cartoons that can help teach your child table manners. After watching, it is important to discuss with your child the behavior of the cartoon characters and reinforce the necessary rules.

It is useful to periodically organize a lunch with your child for toys and dolls. Of course, for this you should use toy furniture, dishes, and cutlery. Passion for the game allows you to repeat the table setting, the subtleties of using cutlery, and the rules of cultural food consumption. This is easy to remember in the game; the child will also get used to clearing the table and learn to greet and see off guests. As the game progresses, parents have the opportunity to correct the behavior of the child and the participants in the puppet dinner.

1. Sequence of training: mastering the rules must be age appropriate. If it is important to teach a child at one year old to wash his hands before eating, at 2 years old to skillfully use a spoon, then from 3 years old it is already possible to teach him to use a fork and knife and good manners. Moreover, it is important to use cutlery every day, and not just on holidays. Then the child will feel confident when using them. Small children can be given special silicone or plastic forks and knives that will not hurt the baby.

1. Personal example: the behavior of parents and other adult family members is of great importance. Trying to imitate adults in everything, the baby will easily remember many details of their behavior, because children are very observant. No matter how much one would like to instill elements of politeness in a child, if it is not customary in the family to wish a bon appetit and say thank you for dinner when getting up from the table, then the child will not do this either. Your explanations will remain words. And if dad eats while watching football on TV, then it will be difficult to answer the question why others cannot do this.

1. Kindness in teaching is a must. Rude shouts and humiliating remarks about the little man should not be allowed. You can use a festive lunch at a party or in a cafe as test activities. Even if the child made any mistakes, they should be discussed later, at home, in a calm environment.

1. Parents must be patient. It is also important to remember about safety in order to prevent injury to the child. You can’t hope that everything will work out suddenly and at once. But as a result of constant training, a child of 5 years old should already have mastered the basic rules of etiquette and good manners in society. He must know that the knife must be held in the right hand and the fork in the left, and be able to use them. Talking about something while eating should not be encouraged by explaining to the child the dangers of choking on food. Everything he wants can be told after eating; you need to listen to him carefully. It is important to teach children not to attract everyone's attention at the table. This is especially true for overly active guys who are accustomed to being the “center of the universe.”

Summary for parents

Rules laid down in childhood good manners They will help raise a child into a person with whom people will enjoy communicating. To teach your beloved child the rules of etiquette, you will have to work hard.

10/14/15

Rules for children's behavior at the table

As parents, you know very well that children do the most unpleasant things at the inopportune moments. We are especially irritated by various pranks at the dinner table. As a rule, such actions are most often stopped by parental shouting or punishment, but few adults bother to explain table manners to children or teach them good manners.

Start learning at an early age

Teaching discipline, good manners, and basic mealtime etiquette can begin at a very early age. The dinner table will witness many important events in your child's life. Someday, for the first time, your baby will meet the parents of his chosen one for lunch, go to a business dinner with a potential employer, or to corporate party will sit at the table next to the leaders of the company. Although, in fact, the reason is not important. Good manners, in any case, will only benefit the child.

Table etiquette for children differs slightly from adult etiquette, because... Many hyperactive children become little pranksters while eating. Most children learn good manners by the age of 5. But a child’s education should begin at the age of 2 years. Of course, there may be exceptions to the rules, but know that the later you start training, the more difficult your lessons will be for your child.

Rules of behavior at the table or what a child should not do at the table:

1. Start eating until everyone at the table has been served, and get up from the table before everyone has eaten.
2. Lick the knife! Sharp objects should never be kept in the mouth.
3. Balance on the back legs of the chair.
4. Talk with your mouth full.
5. Chew with your mouth open and slurp loudly.
6. Place your elbows on the table.
7. Interrupting others during a conversation at the table, talking rudely or gossiping, watching TV.
8. Point cutlery at people sitting next to you.
9. Taking the last piece without offering it to others.
10. Bite off pieces of food that are impossible to chew.

Table manners that you should explain to your child:

1. Sitting down at the table, you need to lay a napkin on your knees. If someone accidentally takes your napkin, don't shout at the top of your lungs, “Who took my napkin?” Quietly ask others about it. Many parents don’t know how best to use a napkin: tuck it into the collar to protect the top of the baby’s clothes, or lay it on their laps and protect the bottom. Etiquette experts advise tucking a napkin into a child’s collar if he is under 5 years old.
2. The seat at the table should be level: the back is straight, supported by the back of the chair, the soles are parallel to the floor.
3. If necessary, glass glasses and containers with drinks can be held with both hands. It is difficult for small hands to grasp wide dishes, so it is worth using two hands to prevent them from tipping over.
4. If a basket of bread or other products is passed around the table, this is done from left to right. If you are asked to pass some dish that is closest to you, take it with your left hand and first offer it to the person sitting to your left, and only then, transferring it to your right hand, pass it to the right.
5. When you want to sneeze or cough, you need to turn your face away from the table towards your shoulder and cover your mouth with your hand or a napkin (preferably a napkin).
6. Always wipe your mouth with a tissue before taking a sip from a glass or glass. Oily lips leave an unpleasant and unappetizing mark on the glass.
7. If you need to use the toilet or sink, simply excuse yourself and leave the table. When you have guests in your house, you don’t need to notify everyone about where you are going and for what purpose.
8. You need to leave the table to the right side of the chair.

Rules of behavior at the table. Beverages

Kids love to assert their independence and are big supporters of independence, copying the behavior of adults. But when it comes to drinks, there are new table manners for kids to follow:

1. Firstly, the child should not reach across the table for a drink. He should politely ask someone else for this, while not forgetting to say the words “please” and “thank you.”
2. If a jug, cup or other container is too heavy or uncomfortable for your baby, you need to use two hands to carry it or take a sip. One hand should hold the container by the handle, and the other should support the opposite side of the container.
3. Remind your child that in order to pour a drink, he can ask an adult for help, and such a request will not be considered shameful.
4. Smacking and loud swallowing are unpleasant and unappetizing to others. Explain to your baby that you need to drink calmly and slowly. And before you take a sip of liquid, you should chew, swallow all the food and wipe your mouth with a napkin. Exceptions may occur in cases where children unknowingly put something spicy or hot in their mouths.
5. When a child gets older and already masters the art of pouring, he can offer his help to the people sitting to his left and right. Pouring drinks can even be included in your child's table duties.

We hope our tips will help your child learn good manners and basic mealtime etiquette.

All parents go out with their children “out into the world”, be it a children’s cafe, a visit or other entertainment, all of which are accompanied by a meal. Children already from the very early age you should know how to behave properly while eating. Moreover, the rules and norms of behavior should be instilled in the child, not only when you visit or receive guests, but also in Everyday life…

Table etiquette for children is no different from etiquette for adults. The question is how to correctly explain the concept of etiquette to a child and teach him all the aspects and nuances of behavior at the table.

In fact, everything is very simple: to explain to your child the rules of etiquette at the table, you can start with personal example. Moreover, etiquette can be taught to a child in the form of a game in which there are no strict rules and requirements.

For example, when teaching a child to use a knife and fork, you can tell a story about how a fictional fairy tale hero, not knowing the rules of etiquette, behaved at the table. Next, you can talk about how other fictional characters helped him cope with the problem. Your baby will really like this kind of training, believe me.

In order for the child to master learning the correct use of cutlery, parents should often set the table according to etiquette. Thus, the child is in the most as soon as possible will remember the purpose of each device and learn how to properly use a knife and fork. In addition, this knowledge will remain in memory for a lifetime and as an adult, he will not have a feeling of insecurity at the table.

It is also very important to explain to your child that table etiquette includes the following rules:

Rule one
You need to sit upright at the table. And not the way some guys sit sometimes. They lean their elbows on the table, swing on chairs, play with the tablecloth. And this is what happens from this: a chair falls, the tablecloth is pulled off the table, dishes fly to the floor, soup pours out of the plates.

Rule two
Never put a knife in your mouth. You can easily cut your tongue and lips. don't eat from a knife. They only cut with a knife!

Rule three.
It is very unsightly to pick your teeth with a fork; if food gets stuck in your teeth, it is best to rinse your mouth with water after lunch.

Rule four.
Cutlets, meatballs, fish, boiled vegetables never cut with a knife. They eat them, separating small pieces with a fork, and be sure to hold the fork in the right hand.

Rule five.
If you need to cut some food, then the fork should be in your left hand and the knife in your right. After all, it is more convenient to cut with your right hand.

Rule six.
When you have finished eating, put your fork, knife, and spoon not on the table, but on your plate.

Rule seven.
Remember firmly: you cannot take food from shared plates with your fork, spoon, knife, and especially with your hands.
For a shared dish you need a special fork, spoon or knife.

Rule eight.
When you eat, do not slurp, do not slap your lips, do not splash with a spoon, do not slurp the soup so that everyone sitting at the table can hear.

You need to eat calmly, slowly chewing your food, silently swallowing the soup. And if there is not much soup left, do not tilt the plate towards or away from you, so as not to spill it either on the tablecloth or on your lap.

Let us note that you should not judge a child too harshly if he has not yet fully mastered table etiquette. Show patience, affection and attention and everything will definitely work out!

But there are also some mistakes that parents make when teaching their child etiquette.

To feed a child, he needs to be entertained.

Feeding a baby while listening to music, reading, etc. is a gross violation of culture healthy eating. This prevents the reflex phase of the gastrointestinal tract from starting work, because the child is distracted and does not look at the food, does not feel the aroma, does not enjoy the taste and is simply distracted from the process of eating.

It’s better to show your imagination and make funny figures out of a simple dish, cook with colorful ingredients - this will attract the attention of the baby and allow you to fully enjoy the meal.

Conversations do not interfere at the table.

No wonder there is a saying: “When I eat, I am deaf and dumb.” This Golden Rule etiquette, thanks to which the child learns to chew well. The calmer and slower the child chews, the better the food is digested.

But words such as “THANK YOU”, “PLEASE”, “BON APPETITE”, on the contrary, are welcome.

The copush needs to be hurried.

There is no need to rush while eating - teach your baby to do this. When in a hurry, the child does not have time to chew well and swallows, which is unsightly, not aesthetically pleasing, and even dangerous. Large pieces of food injure the gastrointestinal tract and are poorly absorbed and digested.

It is too early to give a spoon to a one-year-old child.

On the contrary, than earlier child master the use of cutlery, the faster he will master table manners and the ability to eat with a spoon.

This not only accustoms the child to etiquette, but also develops fine motor skills. The main thing is to let the child understand that eating with a spoon is more convenient, more enjoyable, and faster than with your hands.

Do not use the plug until three years of age.

Once the child has mastered the spoon well, you can offer the fork. First, buy your child a baby fork; it is more comfortable for the baby and does not have sharp teeth. Explain how to use a fork and show it clearly (hard food - tines down, soft food - tines up, prying the food).

If a child spits, then punish him!

Don't react overly emotionally. Explain that spitting is not good, especially at the table. You should not punish, it is better to persuade or distract. But if this doesn’t help, you need to look for the reason. Perhaps not tasty.

You need to set the dining table beautifully.

Until the child turns 2 years old, he does not need this and should not do it. A child may perceive cutlery and tablecloths as a toy, and begin to appreciate them much later.

But items such as napkins, an oilcloth napkin or a bib must be on the table in order to wipe your mouth and hands, without getting any spills or staining the table. Teach your child to keep their hands and face clean on their own.