The desire of foreigners to marry a Russian woman still does not fade away. In Italy, a book “How to Marry a Russian Woman” was even published, which gives detailed advice on how to ask a Russian woman to marry and live with her after the wedding. So why are foreigners so interested in Russian women?
There are several reasons for this:
- immersion in relationships. Men from foreign countries claim that Russian women do not play with feelings. If they love, then with all their soul they give themselves to the family. Even if the marriage is carried out with calculation, a Russian woman treats her husband as if she were her own, trying to surround him with affection and care, delving into problems and helping along the path of life;
- ready for troubles, risks and problems. Wives from Russia are not afraid of temporary difficulties that arise during the moving process. They persistently endure troubles in the form of lack of funds or lack of stable work. This is most often due to the fact that Russian girls expect more from a future with a foreigner than they could achieve at home;
- take care of themselves. For foreign grooms, it remains important that Russian women try to look good. The beauty of Russian women is recognized all over the world, but for foreigners to win such a woman is a separate reason for pride;
- low demands. Russian wives do not create scandals if the man does not devote a lot of time to them. The very fact that they were chosen by a foreigner already increases their importance in their own eyes. Therefore, the absence of complaints is another plus for choosing a Russian bride;
- liberated. Unlike European women, Russian women are more inclined to experiment with their husbands, including in bed;
- submissive. A Russian woman does not try to shift responsibility for the family onto her shoulders; she will gladly give this function to a man and allow him to feel like the head. Turkish men value this most of all, since matriarchy is rare in their country;
- smart. Girls from Russia have wisdom, so with such a wife, conflicts and misunderstandings in the family are easier. A Russian woman will listen to her husband and give good advice and will remain silent in tense situations, thereby smoothing out rough edges.
Let's consider in which countries and why Russian wives are preferred.
Why do foreigners love Russian women?
If we look deeper into the issue, we can note that foreigners do not give preference to brides based on their nationality. They are interested in the girl's personal qualities. To be honest, all the qualities that interest foreign suitors are present in Russian women.
What do non-Russian men want from a woman:
- all foreigners are looking for beautiful, pleasant brides. Only in Russia do girls spend a lot of time on their appearance, even if they are going to throw out the trash. This is a great virtue in the eyes of foreigners;
- grooms are looking for loyal brides. In Russia, girls are pre-conceived that a foreigner has a higher status than a Russian man, so they treat foreigners with such affection;
- Foreign grooms are trying to find a bride of childbearing age. They are interested in women from 20 to 40, although 50-year-old ladies are also often popular.
Foreign men, especially Italians, Serbs, French, and Turks, strive to find a bride who will quickly agree to get married and have children.
IN European countries Difficulties arise with this - women there are more career-oriented, postponing family ties and having children until a later age. Men don't tend to wait. Russian women happily get married and have children, but the duration of the affair before registration at the registry office can be only a few months.
Why do Turkish men love Russian women?
Russian women seem special and unusual to Turks, since in Turkey it is difficult to find a suitable bride. The main thing that Turks pay attention to is appearance, beauty and sexuality. They often choose women older than themselves, because even in this situation, a Russian woman looks impeccable.
Due to traditions in Turkey, compatriots practically do not pay attention to platonic, sensual relationships. In this regard, men have an excess of sexual interest, which cannot be realized within their own country. Russian women pay great attention to appearance, are ready for experiments and to the center family life sexual relations are the focus.
Important! Russian women also single out Turkish men, which is why holiday romances are so common in popular destinations.
So why do Russian brides attract Turkish grooms:
- beauty and sexuality. No one except Russian women will put on full makeup and do their hair on vacation in order to go down to the sea. Bright outfits, exciting images, sexy presentation, sparkling eyes - Russian women stand out from other visitors to Turkey, which attracts attention to them;
- education and entrepreneurship. There are few women in Turkey who have higher education, work and bring income to the house. Against this background, Russian girls win. Knowledge, high positions, a combination of skills for family and professional life make Russian women attractive to Turks;
- social fitness. Russian women pay great attention to the development of their inner world - they travel, attend events, and gain new knowledge. Unlike their compatriots, they are progressive and Turkish men like this.
Important! There is another side to such popularity. Turks see interest in themselves from Russian girls, so many of them are not afraid to offend Russian women. The Turks are confident that instead of one bride, he will easily get another.
Why do Eastern men love Russian girls?
Eastern mentality is radically different from the European idea of life and family. A slight division can be made here.
Tajiks, Arabs and Uzbeks adore Russian brides. First of all, this is due to the features of appearance. Since in eastern countries women are mostly dark brunettes, white-skinned Russian women with blond hair cause real delight among local men.
Love for Russian women is also determined by the general approach to family life. Eastern women more capricious and demanding. They need to give a lot of gold, fulfill their whims, take care of children and pay all expenses. Against this background, a Russian bride who earns her own money and is ready to sacrifice her interests for the sake of her family and children clearly wins.
Why do Indians love Russian women?
In India, the bride and groom often meet only at the wedding. At the same time, compatriots often do not take care of themselves after marriage, devoting time only to their children. That is why Indians are so interested in Russian brides.
Why do Asians love Russian women?
Asians show interest in the character of Russian wives. The patriarchal system of Asian countries has led to the fact that women there are submissive and fulfill all the wishes of their husbands, which is a disadvantage for the latter.
According to Asian men themselves, Russian girls combine submissiveness to a man, but also independence and emotionality. She will not blindly follow directions, but will try to solve the problem together.
Why do Caucasian men like Russian women?
Russia is a multinational country, and more and more often you can find marriages in which Russian girls are combined with Caucasian men. Why does this happen, for what reason do Azerbaijanis, Armenians, Abkhazians, Lezgins and other representatives of the Caucasus choose women not of their own nation, but Russians?
Several reasons contribute to this situation:
- It's easier with Russian wives. They don’t pretend to be someone they don’t know, they are open to new acquaintances and relationships, which is what makes marriage with a Russian woman so desirable for Caucasians;
- girls from Russia do not try to appear better than they are. They speak honestly about their lives, status and work;
- It’s more fun with Russian women - they know how to relax and feel great in company. At the same time, most Russian girls know their limits and do not cross the line when it comes to drinking and communicating with the opposite sex;
- Russian women try to emphasize and improve the status of their husband. You can rely on them in any situation;
- for Caucasian men it is important that the Russian wife perceives him as a person, and not as a way to get expensive gifts. Even if a man does not have a lot of money, a Russian woman will gladly meet him and give him her love;
- For Georgians, a great advantage is that Russian women have a bright appearance, rounded shapes and a soft character. In addition, they are captivated by the emotionality of Russian girls; this is impossible to get from Georgians.
About Arabs and Russian girls:
I would like to say a few words in defense of our girls... You never know how anyone dresses if a girl has Beautiful legs why doesn't she wear a miniskirt, this is not at all a reason to think that she is a prostitute or some kind of frivolous person.
Yes, in our country this is perceived as normal, but in Arab or Turkey you are a prostitute only because you were born in Ukraine or Russia and they treat you like that. I was in Turkey and noticed that these Turks had no basic respect for our girls.
Insolent, persistent, lustful animals, what more can be said about them. I was at a disco in Kemer and watched a picture of two Turks sitting and our girls with them, so they did such things there... they brazenly climbed under the girls’ dresses without any embarrassment, in general they staged some kind of orgies in front of everyone. No matter how many nights I’ve visited here, I’ve never seen anything like this. I would drive them all away, these Turks behave like wild animals!
Once, during one of my visits to a nightclub in my native Kharkov, I met a foreign friend, from which region I still didn’t understand, I had a birthday at that time, he took the initiative and paid the bill (I was alone with my girlfriend), and then he persistently began to invite me to visit him.
And then... they found out that he was a Turk, although he didn’t look much like him in appearance. Well, of course, we politely sent him to hell, then after a while we saw him in the same establishment a couple of times, all with new ladies.
Yes, these Turks will simply not do anything selflessly.
And our girls are advised not to fall for their fairy tales!!!
Mila, letter to the editor of the site.
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Comment from the site administration. Alexandra, the editor-in-chief, answers.
Mila, thank you very much for your letter! However, it is very difficult to agree with you.
The difference in mentality (Slavs and Turks) is huge. Things that are absolutely normal and ordinary for us are completely unacceptable in Muslim countries. And guests, including vacationers, should have at least basic respect for their culture.
No one talks about the need to wear a burqa, hijab, abaya and other things that I have learned over the years of working on this site, but you should not show off in front of Muslim (!) men in short shorts and tank tops. It’s like you’re waving a red rag in front of a bull; men’s subconscious reflex is triggered that the girl is looking for adventure. For a trip to Arab countries it is better to buy light long a skirt, which, by the way, will end up being more comfortable in 50-degree heat.
As for marriages with Turks and Arabs, I can say from experience that this is possible!
If a woman learns to behave in an Islamic society, proves herself to be a hospitable hostess, a wise wife and a loving mother, and her husband becomes a reliable support and protection for the whole family (even in front of relatives), then the result will be a strong, happy marriage (many such examples on our website).
And, believe me, it will not matter who is of what nationality and religion.
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23 comments to “ Arabs and Russian women are incompatible (letter from Mila)”
- Olga :
Girls, never trust Arabs!
I dated for six months with an Arab from Iraq, at first there was also love, he swore to me that he loved only me and no one else. We also met on the Internet, we saw each other several times.
He said that his parents were not against our marriage, and then it turned out that his parents had already wooed him to an Arab woman from Iraq and they would soon have a wedding! How can all this be understood?! Only after that did I open my eyes to all these “Arabs” and it’s good that I found out everything about his deception in time.
Don’t believe them, they are only having fun with us and rightly many girls here write how cunning these Arabs are. Now I believe how many girls they have ruined the lives of!!!
- Lada:
Excellent letter, to the point, that's all it is. Girls, stand tall, you are princesses and don’t fall for these assholes 😉
- Olga:
Dear Mila! Has it ever occurred to you that there is a difference in mentality? What is considered normal in our country is completely unacceptable in their country and vice versa. And please, there is no need to tell here that ALL Russians and Ukrainians are treated poorly in Turkey and Arab countries. How you behave is how you will be treated. I have vacationed in Turkey many times, and believe me, there has never been a disrespectful attitude towards my person. Respect yourself first of all. And don’t forget that you are going on vacation to a country with a completely different mentality.
- ALEX:
Is it possible to dissuade a wolf from eating sheep? No, this is his nature. Is it possible to dissuade some Slavic women from sleeping with Arabs, blacks, Turks? No, this is their nature. Is it possible to destroy the great dream of a black man to sleep with a white woman? After all, this feeds his ego as an irresistible handsome man and an unsurpassed lover (with Arab women it won’t work) And the point is not so much that they buy into this completely false, annoying, cloying, sugary, flowery nonsense - compliments, attention, false promises, supposed tenderness, etc. or on sexuality - real or mythical. The essence is in themselves. Some of these unfortunate women, after this false gilding flies off, realize that they are “trapped” and begin to hysterically and feverishly look for a way out. The majority of these female individuals delight in BEING SLAVES AND SUFFER. Those. there is an accentuation of character with elements of masochism. Neither the admonitions of relatives, nor the advice of friends and acquaintances, nor the bitter experiences of other victims, nor psychologists and even psychoanalysts can do this.. THIS IS THEIR NATURE
There is nothing more incorrect and empty than the statement “Among every nation there are scoundrels and righteous people.” There is only a national ethnic mentality, i.e. the predominance (not one hundred percent!) of certain traits among the people (Russians drink a lot and are lazy, Germans are pedants and workaholics, Americans are “sharpened” on career and success, etc.) Do the “Easterns” have positive qualities? Of course. Among these is devotion to blood ties, family, clan. THIS IS WHY THE SLAVIC CHOSEN WOMEN OF THE “ORIENTAL PRINCES” WILL NEVER BECOME THEIR FELLOWS FOR THE RELATIVES OF ISLAMBEK! THEY ARE STRANGERS BY BLOOD! Agreeing to your son marrying an “infidel” is just a concession to a capricious spoiled child.
No matter how hard the “chosen one” tries (acceptance of Islam, willingness to put on closed clothes, sitting within four walls, servility, obsequiousness to relatives of the “oriental”) SHE WILL BE TOLERATED AT BEST, DESPIBLE AT WORST (our handsome son deserves the best of his blood!) .Among negative traits Eastern - deceit, cowardice, laziness, lust and voluptuousness (however, this is welcomed by the chosen ones), treachery, deceit, cruelty, a tendency to physical and psychological violence (but always only in relation to the defenseless, dependent weak), betrayal (but not to their own), servility and servility towards the powerful and rich, short temper, ardor, attacks of irrational anger. No matter how the “Eastern” disguises or suppresses the manifestations of these qualities, these manifestations break through and fall on the heads of the “chosen ones”. And the last thing. The word “Natasha” in Egypt and Turkey has become synonymous with the word “Russian (Ukrainian Belarusian) prostitute. The local “Casanovas” have albums with photographs of “the victims of their charm” and even videos “with their participation in the act.” Yes. I hear I am not like that!!! MY FRIENDS ARE NOT LIKE THIS!!! WE HAVE ONLY FOR LOVE!!! Then stop seducing and seducing with your idiotic advice those who are ready to step on a slippery slope. Of course, I am not a decree for you and others like you. But there is a God who endures for a long time, but then hurts.
- ALEX:
- Anita:
Mila Hello. Let me start with this: if you are going to another country, respect the customs and people who live there.
What kind of arrogance is that I want to turn around, where is the culture. Take off your clothes in Russia, even wear shorts, even I am annoyed by our girls in swimsuits everywhere, no matter the beach or a grocery store.
As for appearance, the Turks are a mixed nation (because of the warriors, if you remember of course school curriculum) there are a lot of dark-haired people, but there are also plenty of light-haired ones, blue and green eyes are not uncommon and European features are present.
Discos, everything there is just like in Russia, our ladies spread their legs for a cocktail. And again, this is your lack of awareness, if you noticed that there are no Turkish women at the disco, and if there is, then she is only with her man. Well, if suddenly a Turkish woman is alone or with a friend, then they work... you know who... as a prostitute. Draw your own conclusions :)
As for prudence, I would like to argue with you))) In my opinion, men in Russia are more greedy and cunning, it’s just that ours sing to you in their native language, so this fairy tale seems more truthful to you.
Our men do not look after so beautifully, they do not feel so brightly, we have spoiled them. And I’ll tell you a terrible secret: all men initially want only sex... and they are all partly animals, but everything is in your hands, how you behave is what you will get.
- Mila:
Yes, this impression was formed about the Turks solely from my own experience, which is what I talked about earlier.
And when I was in Turkey, their excessive attention did not bring me joy. I went to Turkey myself and when I arrived, naturally I didn’t know anyone, only then I met our vacationing guys and when the Turks see that you yourself, the “moments of courtship” begin
What should I tell you, if the first time I left the hotel premises... their reaction to our women simply shocks me.And what should I wear to the beach, which is 300m away? Naturally, beachwear - shorts or a skirt.
In general, I think it’s no secret that “hot blood” flows in the veins of Turks and other Muslims, and this leaves its mark and you can’t argue with it. - Irina:
Yes, of course, you need to respect the customs of the country you came to, BUT...
Let's remember that to Egypt, Turkey, Tunisia, etc. They invite us, ASK us to come, because... we bring FREELY CONVERTIBLE CURRENCY there, their country makes money from us. And it is for our money that they teach their children and treat their elderly. We need to be respected, otherwise we won’t come again. Right now in Egypt they have spilled oil on the sea and on the beaches, but by winter half the country will starve.
Should I respect their mentality and wear a maxi in the heat? Or should they respect me?
We Slavs are abnormal, we need to admit it. I saw Italian and British women on Arab beaches of different ages and builds, sunbathing topless, and at least one of the locals would bark. You must respect, firstly, secondly, and lastly YOURSELF, and only then the mentality of someone else. - Anita:
Well, this is our way, if I cry, then give it to me :) Therefore, in Turkey, many hotels do not want Russian tourists but prefer Germans. Well, as for business, all of Russia is in Turkish clothes, there are millions of shuttle traders. Our girls deliberately marry Turks (fictitiously) in order to obtain citizenship and fly without a visa. I don’t know anything about Egypt, my Turkish husband doesn’t like Arabs (they even have a different language and Arabs are polygamists, etc.)
- Olga:
Well, Anita, why so rude about the Arabs? And Arabs don’t necessarily have polygamy, what kind of stereotypes are these :)))) In my Arab husband Turkish blood flows on the maternal side. And in Egypt, for example, there are many such mixes.
For the rest, I completely agree with you. Cutlets separately, flies separately. There is no need to drag the tourism industry into this, because... This is not an indicator at all. - Merlin:
Anita
What you wrote on 07/21/2010 is 100% true! And Mila really needed to at least get acquainted with the traditions and customs of Muslim countries, and also read on forums how to behave in Turkey so as not to fall on her face in the dirt.
But then Anita you wrote that Arabs are “different” - that you meant something else and that polygamy. There is an expression: everyone praises his own swamp, you are married to a Turk and you praise the Turks, but the Arabs are already “different” for you. If your husband doesn’t like Arabs (although I don’t understand why) and you don’t know anything about them, don’t write what you don’t know. I am married to an Arab man, they do not have polygamy - this is generally nonsense about 4 wives! This was hundreds of years ago, and only among very rich people.
And also for Mila - next time go to Jordan or Morocco, you definitely won’t have such problems there. The men there are very polite and no one bothers you!- ALEX:
Have you already renounced the faith of Christ? Did you accept Islam? Well, yes. The beloved wanted it that way. How not to please, not to please the adored Islambek! Well, to complete the set - closed clothes, a ban on swimming in the sea, talking with men, sitting within four walls. Haven't you washed your mother-in-law's feet yet? Don't you wash her panties? Then everything is ahead. Does your beloved one not even want to hear about a harem? Well, anecdote. Maybe he doesn’t even go to the mosque? Nothing. He will save up his beloved money (a second or third wife is not a cheap pleasure), and he will say, “Do you love me? Then fade away our traditions. The eldest wife, khanum, will be!” And the relatives will calm down. The son married a girl of their blood. As if not for a second cousin! YOU WERE AND WILL REMAIN FOR HIS RELATIVES ANOTHER BLOOD!
Don’t create illusions! After all, your mom and dad told you the same thing. IN best case scenario You will be tolerated, at worst, despised. Slaves are sometimes pitied, but always despised. I don’t wish you luck. Sorry. I would like to live to see the day when you grow old, go into circulation, and you are thrown out like useless garbage. Then, perhaps, our always drunk, tongue-tied, foul-smelling Vanya will be remembered. After all, he often gets scraps from someone else’s table .And one more thing... Don’t need this babble “My Islambek is cultured, educated, modern.” The wolf changes its fur, but not its nature.
- ALEX:
- Anita:
Merlin, Olga, I’m not praising anyone, I’m talking about what I know.
Where did I write that Turks are good, Arabs are bad.
Girls, please read carefully, I wrote I DON’T KNOW. And we won’t have to waste time on useless correspondence. These are my husband's words, not mine.
Why doesn’t he like it? Maybe he can give you your husband’s email and ask? - Olga:
Anita, there are many women here who are married to Arabs, so, in my opinion, it’s still not worth quoting your husband’s words here. This is his personal business. We are all here expressing exclusively our point of view (and not what our husbands think about this or that nation), based on our own experience of family life or communication with representatives of another nation and religion. In all other respects, I completely agree with you.
- alex:
Yes... Some Turks married to Slavic women show disrespect for Arabs, including those who are married to Slavic women. And vice versa. Yes, this is a problem of universal scale and universal significance. The heart clench with pain (with anger - too), tears welling up in my eyes! Where are you, Shakespeare? Only he alone could describe the suffering of the poor things, console and dispel their doubts. But who will describe the humiliation of Slavic husbands, grooms, gentlemen, who were preferred to a Turk or an Arab? Who will tell about the suffering of the father, mother, relatives of the wretched females who chose Islambek? They said so. Warned. No!!! He is the most beautiful! The most gentle! The most caring! The most sweet-voiced! Either he or I are in the loop! Who will tell about the feelings of those who believe in Christ, seeing how the daughters of Christ easily change the faith of their grandfathers to Islam in order to please their eastern “princes” and their relatives! That’s what I’ll tell you all. For the majority of Slavic men, and women too, you are sellout creatures, worse than prostitutes. Those, spreading their legs, although they sin, do not change their faith. And - remember! THERE IS NO ROAD BACK! Remember the Soviet students who once married Syrians
- alex:
- Merlin:
Anita, you and I are to some extent “colleagues” since we are married to Muslim foreigners. No one is going to praise this or that nation here. It seems to me that everyone has found or will find their happiness where they were destined. For example, I never thought that I would marry a foreigner, much less an Arab man. I wasn't a racist, but I wasn't a fan of Oriental men either. But it so happened that on my life’s path I met precisely a slave man. You met a Turkish guy on your way. May God grant you health, patience, strength and happiness, as well as all women who are married to foreigners!
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"Generators unusual ideas", "masters of the family nest" and "desperate friends" - this is all about them, the Arabs. They are also spoiled, boastful and unpredictable. Personal experience girls, but not wives.
Oksana L. has been dating a resident of Jordan for four years, who came to Kyiv to study and earn money, and tells how she and her friend manage to combine such different views of the East and West.
About friendship and personal boundaries
We always have guests at our house. At any moment, a friend or just an acquaintance can call and come to our home in the middle of the night. Naturally, as a woman, I need to set the table and make sure everyone is fed and happy. Sometimes the house resembles some kind of Arab camp, and not a family nest.
If a friend needs help, you need to rush to him in the middle of the night. Arabs are always ready to help out a friend, come where they need to, pick them up, lend money.
They are not jealous of friends. My friend is very jealous, but this only applies to our Slavic guys and men, although I don’t give a reason. He trusts his own people. In any case, his friends, understanding who we are to each other, never allowed themselves even harmless flirting.
About work
They prefer conversations to business - long conversations over hookahs. These are real philosophers who are ready to reason and plan for hours. Although this time could be spent on constructive actions rather than chatter, most of which will be forgotten the next day. Eastern men have this problem: their conversations often diverge from their actions. They promise a lot, and they themselves sincerely believe in what they say. Plans can change dramatically, or mood, or something else, and promises will remain just words.
Arab men need to be encouraged - this is how they become inspired and are ready to move mountains for the sake of their family. This applies, in particular, to work. It is important for them to feel that a woman believes in their strengths and capabilities.
Generators of unusual ideas. In the four years since I’ve known my man, he’s started all sorts of businesses. Cafe, transportation of dogs and birds from Ukraine, which are in demand in his homeland in Jordan, processing of semi-precious stones, etc. But he did not bring any ideas to completion. I didn’t initially calculate the risks, I acted based on momentary desires, passion and emotions.
Many people do not value their parents' money. Young people live and have fun at the expense of their parents and do not know the value of money earned not by their own labor.
Attitude towards women
Most Arabs are spoiled by their mother's attention, love care and are often selfish. They like to surround themselves with everything beautiful and are avid fashionistas. They love to dress up: beautiful clothes, shoes, an abundance of rings and bracelets. Favorite clients of barbershops: stylish beard, gelled hair, expensive perfumes.
They love to educate, and if they fail, they can use force. They put pressure on me morally. Very hot-tempered. Any little thing can set them off. At the same time, their woman should admire them.
They love to brag about their woman to their friends - they tell them what a housewife she is, caring and a jack of all trades. It is important for them that others admire their woman, and therefore automatically admire them.
It is difficult to offer our men to live together - they are afraid for their freedom. Arab men, on the contrary, want the girl they like to be constantly in their sight. At home, nearby, close by. They are ready to protect and care for her, although they demand a lot in return.
Very generous. If possible, they give the woman gifts, they like broad gestures, and are not at all stingy.
They value independence in our women, the fact that a woman can take care of herself, earn money and not depend on a man as much as possible. In his homeland, women mostly stay at home and do housework.
There is a minus. Monogamy is not for Eastern men. How many times have we had to watch family Arab men woo our girls. When my wife calls, they hang up or don’t pick up. And when they call back, they sing like a nightingale, as they love, and exquisitely lie about why they couldn’t answer. Treason is not considered as such for them. This is the norm in the life of an Eastern man.
About everyday life
My friend definitely won’t eat borscht for three days in a row, although he really loves my borscht. Arab men are very demanding and capricious in everyday life, like children, and are often dependent. If we talk about my man, he can clean and cook even better than me. But it is important for him to see that they care about him and do something for him.
I’m used to Russian cuisine, but my love for hummus and flatbreads remains unchanged.
Loves cleanliness, but not to the point of fanaticism. She understands that we both work a lot and come home very late, so we don’t always have the physical strength to clean and cook at night.
About children and family
My man is ready to coddle with every child, but I’m not sure that he will get up in the middle of the night for his own. This is the wife's responsibility. And the man pampers his child and pays attention to him during short games. All other delights of education fall on the shoulders of the woman.
When married to a Christian, there is no choice in what religion they choose. joint child- he is a priori born a Muslim. Especially if we are talking about a boy.
My man’s parents are wealthy and ready to support him, but he, having matured, when the youthful frenzy had passed and partying with friends was no longer a priority, wanted to prove to his family that he could get on his own feet.
About religion
I refused to convert to Islam, realizing that I would not be able to wear closed clothes, honor Muslim traditions and be in a “golden cage” at home. He didn’t swear, he accepted my choice. But it is very important for him that his woman shares her religion with him and his legal wife, in any case, must convert to Islam or be a Muslim initially.
Arabs know the Koran from an early age. They read it like mantras. But my man openly admits that, living among Russians and Ukrainians, he leads an anti-Muslim lifestyle.
His mother, when she came to visit us, brought a hijab as a gift with the hint that I should accept their religion since I live with her son.
A negative attitude towards alcohol remains, despite the love for discos (already in the past) and hookah smoking (this is part of traditions). He doesn't respect it when a woman drinks, even in company.
About future
After living with an Arab man, it’s strange to see how our women treat their Russian husbands. It’s crazy to see the disrespectful attitude and desire to be in charge at times. My views on what a woman should be like in a relationship with any man have changed.
I don’t know where this relationship will lead - Russian girls are more freedom-loving, ambitious and active. I wouldn’t like to be completely dependent on my husband.
But Arab men are like sweet nectar. You can’t get drunk, but even when you drink, it becomes too cloying that you want plain water. But after nectar it seems tasteless. I’m like a tightrope walker halfway: I can’t go back, but the unknown lies ahead...