A lot has already been written about how women experience divorce. Almost every glossy magazine is ready to offer ladies a list of tips with which you can improve your life even after the most difficult breakup with your loved one. What do we know about how men feel after a divorce? How do they cope with their problems and depression? This article is intended for the stronger half of humanity and will answer the question: “Who is he - a divorced man of our time?”

Why are they getting divorced?

Unfortunately, in modern society, divorces happen almost every day. Moreover, very young families who have not been married for even three years, and well-established unions where the spouses have spent more than twenty years together are collapsing. According to divorce statistics, breakups are most often initiated by women, but men do not try to stop their other halves and boldly sign divorce papers. Why are they so easily ready to let go of their past life and not even remember it? Psychologists say it's simple.

Most men believe that marriage is some kind of limiter that prevents them from enjoying life. Scientists at the University of California conducted an interesting experiment by interviewing one hundred men who were injected with truth serum. When asked who they were jealous of and why, eighty-three participants pointed to their single colleagues. It seemed to them that a free and carefree life with a lot of sexual contacts was an ideal unattainable with a wife and children.

At an appointment with a psychoanalyst, many husbands admit that their family does not allow them to develop. In the minds of men, freedom looks like a tempting set of new victories and achievements. It seems that as soon as you get rid of family problems, life will present you with a lot of opportunities that will open up prospects for financial and career growth. But, despite these conclusions, most men do not feel strong enough to break off relations with their wives. They start affairs, suffer from disgusting responsibilities, but in 85% of cases they will never file for divorce first. However, they will be happy to support their wife’s initiative. Amazing, isn’t it? But how a man’s life will change after a divorce will be a complete surprise for him. And not always pleasant.

Psychology of men after divorce: behavioral model

Stereotypes about divorce have not been revised in our society for a long time, but recently the behavior of men who have experienced the loss of a family is of serious interest to psychologists. It is generally accepted that a woman, without financial support and a strong male shoulder, falls into a prolonged depression and cannot return to a normal rhythm of life for a long time. What did they say about men? Of course, what they receive is freedom from obligations, for which they have to pay with partial loss of property and money. Otherwise, a young man or an already established one can live as they please and even marry a new passion, whom in some cases they have been dating for years. But the truth turns out to be not so rosy.

A survey conducted by British sociologists showed that 23% of men feel empty, and only 37% feel free from worries, versus 20 and 40%, respectively, for the women surveyed. This means that a divorced man, after leaving the courtroom, feels not free and happy, but depressed and confused. But why does almost no one notice this?

The fact is that it is not customary for representatives of the stronger sex to grieve over lost love, and the word “divorce” evokes not sympathy, but congratulations from colleagues and friends. Naturally, in this situation, the strong half of humanity seeks to disguise their true emotions behind promiscuity, noisy companies and senseless spending. Almost all ex-wives notice this. They say that their ex-husband, whom they know so well, is behaving absolutely inappropriately. This can manifest itself in different ways. Some men, who lived quietly and calmly, suddenly begin to drink and carouse from morning to evening. Careerists abandon all their affairs and go on a long journey, and once serious and responsible fathers forget about their children and spend all their money on expensive entertainment.

All this is just an attempt to prove to oneself that one is necessary and in demand, because, according to the scale of emotional stress, divorce is equated to the death of a person. And you can survive this difficult period only by going through all the stages of grief.

Psychologist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross: five stages of grief

Ross based her theory of grief on the emotions of terminally ill people. But, as it turned out, the psychology of men after a divorce is no different from the state of people who are seriously ill. In order to return to normal life, you need to go through five rather difficult stages:

1. Denial

The young man cannot believe that divorce is a reality. He subconsciously denies all changes and does not want to enter a new stage of life.

Without this stage, it is difficult to return to a normal lifestyle and “let go” of the situation. come suddenly, discontent pours out on everyone around. In cases where a man lives alone after a divorce, he can simply throw away old things that remind him of his past life.

This stage is the shortest and is expressed in the desire to return to the previous way of life. During the time that has passed after a divorce, a man can look at his ex-wife with completely different eyes. And, to his own surprise, he was inflamed with the same feelings for her, even if he himself initiated the breakup. He feels homesick for his family, tries to see his children as often as possible, and may even begin to persuade his ex-wife to renew their marriage.

4. Depression

Unfortunately, this stage is sluggish and protracted in men. In some cases it lasts up to five years. The California Institute recently published statistics on male suicide after divorce, and it simply shocked psychologists. After all, men are twice as likely to decide to commit suicide two to three years after breaking up with their wife. This period is the most dangerous - the novelty of social status disappears, and fatigue and a feeling of loneliness, on the contrary, increase.

5. Acceptance

At the last stage, the man subconsciously accepts the divorce as a fait accompli. The past life remains just a memory and does not cause negative emotions. After acceptance, a person freely enters a new stage of his life journey and can successfully build a relationship with a suitable partner.

Prolonged post-divorce depression in men

Divorce is not only a formal break in a relationship. In almost all cases, this is a loss of energetic support and connection that the spouses have formed. It is this connection that is the basis of marriage; it does not break after leaving the court and signing the documents. Each spouse must adapt to the changed situation, but men cope with this much worse than women.

The psychology of men after divorce is characterized by great interest in the life of their ex-wife. This is very easy to explain: it is not yet broken, and the spouse cannot adjust to life outside of it. Surprisingly, even the appearance of a new boyfriend for a woman cannot stop her ex from visiting and talking about her past life. Often, women who begin relationships with recently divorced men do not notice that they are depressed and are consumed by jealousy towards their ex-spouses. But in reality, a man simply cannot improve his life in the absence of the usual process of receiving energy and exchanging it.

Causes of male depression

After a divorce, most representatives of the stronger sex feel overwhelmed and cannot cope with negative emotions. In a difficult situation, they find themselves in a kind of vacuum when no one can share the current situation with them. All this happens against the backdrop of close observation of the life of the ex-wife, for whom everything can turn out quite successfully. As a result, depressive and suicidal thoughts arise. The most common causes of depression:

• disappointment in freedom and new women;
• psychophysical burnout from the endless search for a new sexual partner;
• obvious disadvantages of single life - lack of care, comfort and coziness;
• feeling guilty for a broken relationship.

In some cases, divorced men experience a combination of all of the above factors.

Manifestations of depression in men after divorce

Women, left alone, try to actively express their emotions, which allows them to come to their senses faster. Men do not have the right to lose their status as a strong and confident male, so they carefully hide their grief and gradually withdraw from life. They withdraw into themselves and in many cases behave completely atypically. Most often, depressive syndrome is expressed as follows:

• absent-mindedness, lack of attention and loss of decision-making ability;
• a destructive passion for alcohol, drugs and other ways to forget;
• aggression and sudden attacks of anger, which can be expressed in self-examination;
• complete loss of interest in all areas of life;
• chronic fatigue, frequent headaches;
• decreased potency.

Most often, depression occurs in men a few months after a divorce. During this period, the energy that once fueled the spouses dries up, and the novelty of a free life ceases to please. In addition, men during periods of depression find it difficult to see halftones; they completely lose the ability to enjoy life.

Treatment for male depression

What should a man do after a divorce so as not to fall into prolonged depression and quickly return to normal life? Psychologists unanimously say that you should not hide your emotions from others. A man has the right to grief, suffering and disappointment. He should not, while experiencing mental pain, put on a mask of indifference. Such behavior is a direct path to depression.

In this case, you should not hesitate, but you should immediately contact a psychotherapist. Modern medicine offers various methods of drug-free treatment of depressive syndrome in men, which give fairly good results in 80% of cases.

Looking for the other half

A divorced man is looking for a woman literally as soon as he leaves the courthouse with a stamp in his passport. Moreover, this is not a myth, but a reality that almost everyone faces. The fact is that, being married, a representative of the stronger half of humanity fantasizes about numerous sexual partners and non-binding relationships. Men begin to embody all this with great enthusiasm, but soon such a lifestyle becomes boring.

In reality, in order to lead the desired lifestyle, a lot of effort is required, but the result is not always. Psychologists say that spouses become aroused from each other quite quickly, even without foreplay, and physical release occurs after five to eight minutes. But with a new partner, a man does not always have the same good time - his body is not attuned to the next woman, sexual hunting is physically and emotionally expensive. In addition, apart from a physical connection, nothing else arises between the partners, and over time this begins to burden the sons of Adam.

A man is looking for a woman who could satisfy all his needs, but all he gets is a short-term affair. Often divorced representatives of the stronger sex also encounter another type of woman who simply dreams of marriage. These ladies are not at all familiar with such a term as “male psychology.” After a divorce, it is rare that a single person is ready to get married within three years, which is why conflicts arise in new couples.

We can say that after a divorce, a man falls into a kind of trap - he receives freedom, but does not feel the desire to use it after several disappointments.

When considering the problem of divorce, we should not forget that every man experiences the loss of his family also based on his psychological type. This factor has a serious impact on the perception of the situation and its overcoming. Psychologists have divided the psychotypes of men into four groups:

1. Hunter

This one always achieves everything he wants. He is charming, handsome and confident. The hunter is not ready to give in to his partner in anything, and perceives divorce as a struggle for leadership. He tries to find a new partner as quickly as possible and show her off to his ex-wife.

This man is very soft in character, he cannot stand up for himself and has a big kind heart. After a divorce, the Deer man becomes depressed, worries for a long time and has difficulty finding a new partner.

3. Parent

This type of man is ready to take care of a woman and give her true love. Relationships are always built on trust and mutual understanding, so in the event of a divorce, the male Parent is sincerely worried. He tries to fill the emptiness in his soul with numerous activities, but he never rushes headlong into a new relationship.

4. Child

A man of this psychotype is absolutely not adapted to living alone. He is vulnerable, often talented and kind, but does not know how to make decisions or care about anyone. In case of divorce, he is capable of blackmail, persuasion and hysterics. Such men have difficulty getting out of depression and often attempt to commit suicide.

Conclusion

Divorce is a difficult stage in the life of any person. And you shouldn’t divide divorced people into men and women, because the pain of losing a family resonates equally strongly in both hearts. But men show her a little differently.

The decision to get a divorce

Despite the fact that the desire to legitimize relationships most often arises among women, they also have primacy in the decision to divorce. It is common for a man to carefully think through the situation, and only then “burn all bridges.” Therefore, they often know where and with whom they will live next. If the reason for the divorce was male infidelity, then they often go to their new passion. A woman can experience a real shock, even if she herself is the initiator of the divorce. The most difficult time for her is surviving the first month. Then it gradually becomes easier. But the specifics of male psychology are somewhat different.

Typical behavior of a man immediately after a divorce

Regardless of the character and behavior in marriage, often after a divorce a man begins to revel in the freedom he has received. He ignores depression, lyrical memories and other consequences of what happened and does not seem to suffer. From the outside it seems that he doesn’t care about divorce.

For some time he may be in euphoria and anticipation of new acquaintances and numerous sexual relationships. He begins to date 2, 3, 8 or more women in order to again feel the forgotten novelty. Of course, sex with your wife and new partners is very different. But gradually he can feel that along with the desired pleasures, which in reality may not be so wonderful, temporary companions also upset and disappoint. They turn out to be not so caring, tactful and, of course, faithful.

The surging freedom is often realized not only through women, but also through alcohol, food, gambling and other similar “entertainment”. It is very difficult to resist these temptations. Therefore, soon the apartment may be filled with many empty bottles of beer and other “attributes” of a bachelor’s life. Things will be scattered everywhere, and food will have to be ordered home. It turns out that washing and ironing clothes, keeping the house clean and preparing food takes more than just a lot of time. To do this, you need to have considerable skill, for which even a month will not be enough. In general, life after a divorce is not so easy for someone who has already been married and experienced female care. And the surging expanse can end in alcoholism.

Feelings after divorce: second stage

In order to interest unfamiliar women, it can take a lot of effort and tension. You need to be interesting, be able to seduce, give pleasure and not be considered a boring partner. An intimate relationship without emotion and affection quickly becomes boring. Then, after a divorce, after some time, the man again strives for a strong relationship. He feels the need to be appreciated, loved and supported in difficult times.

Life, which previously seemed bright and rich, turns out to be empty and, for some reason, does not bring happiness.

Therefore, already after 4, 6, 8 months, a year or after two years from the time of divorce, men experience a decline in sexual activity. Some even reject beautiful women who offer them sex.

A divorced guy may feel confused, lonely, depressed, and lost interest in work. Even at 30 years old, this can be accompanied by a sexual disorder. Only when the crisis reaches its peak can a man come to a psychologist.

In psychology there is even the term “17th month syndrome,” which does not necessarily occur after 17 months. It can happen, for example, after 8 or 9 months. At this time, disappointment in single life is most experienced. It is then that a man feels longing for his ex-wife after a divorce. Memories come of how good it was in the family. It happens that at such moments he returns.

Of course, this does not always happen. Breakups happen for various reasons. Some of them make further relationships impossible. But more than half of men remarry within 5 to 8 years after a breakup. And the majority, although they do not regret divorcing their wife, and do not intend to return, continue to believe that she was the best.

How to live after divorce

As you can see, a man after a divorce is going through not the easiest times. Therefore, it is very important at this time not to rush from one extreme to another. Promiscuous sexual relations and alcohol abuse quickly exhaust him. To survive a divorce from his wife with dignity, he needs to make plans, strive for new goals and make efforts to achieve them. A career, a new hobby, sports and a lot of other interesting things will help fill the gaping void.

During periods of crisis, regardless of whether he is 30, 40 or 50, instead of addictions that devastate a man, the best way to recover from a divorce is work. It will not hinder his rehabilitation as much as other ways to forget. But this also needs to be done in moderation.

He can forget about the 8-hour working day and get so caught up in work that he begins to ignore his inner emptiness and set impossible goals for himself, which require not twenty-four, but thirty-eight hours a day. The result will be a feeling of inability to implement plans.

This behavior is typical for a man after a divorce if his ex-wife demanded too much. And he had accumulated anger that never came out. Then the man begins to demand a lot from himself. He internally becomes like his ex-wife. Then achieving very difficult goals will require incredible efforts that will not leave a single free minute.

But after a divorce, a man must soberly evaluate himself in order to find his new love among many women, who will love and support him. If you don’t do this, he will paint himself into a meaningless corner. It may seem that without a relationship it will be much easier to achieve your plans. Of course, before starting them, he must clearly know how to live further. But it is not at all necessary not to allow another woman into your life until a new goal is taken. Ideally, his life path should be balanced, so that there are 8 hours for work and hours for love.

It is difficult to say definitively how much time a man needs after a divorce. You should recover as much as necessary. It’s better to try to bring calm into your life, engage in introspection, and understand the reasons why you managed to separate your spouses. You need to adequately evaluate your contribution and mistakes in relationships. Then this will be taken into account in a future love affair. Otherwise, everything may happen again with another woman.

The psychology of men and women may be the same after a divorce. For example, they begin to blame each other for what happened and almost throw mud at each other. Then the man concludes that his wife was not suitable for him. Therefore, he thinks it’s good that they got divorced. But, even though such conclusions are common to a man after a divorce, they are incorrect and harmful. It is known in psychology that in this way they try to transfer the burden of responsibility onto each other. Then, without solving problems in one relationship, people transfer them to others.

In addition to the typical behavior of how men behave after a divorce, they usually tend to easily forget past relationships, but not forgive. In this case, intolerance will manifest itself in other respects.

Learn to say goodbye

Even if the fault of the breakup lies with the ex-wife, you should not take revenge on her. To start a new life with another woman from scratch, it is important to say goodbye to your ex-wife correctly. But this does not mean stopping loving her. It is not at all necessary to move into a state of hatred or indifference towards the one with whom you previously had a lot in common. You can try to remain on friendly terms. Then it is much easier to let new love into your life.

Divorce is a psychological trauma for some and a cause for joy for others. Divorce statistics do not favor the widespread moral value of preserving the family.

First of all, divorce is a crisis in the relationship between spouses. They could be inspired to file for divorce for various reasons: dissimilarity of temperaments, different views on life, sexual incompatibility, secrets, infidelity and much more.

What happens to ex-spouses after a breakup? It is worth noting that in the case of divorce, statistics are not in favor of women - they are the initiators of most family breakdowns.

The main reason is that a woman is driven to divorce by emotion, while a man, planning a divorce, prepares an escape route and is guided by calculation.

How men cope with divorce

One of the main myths about men after a divorce is that they have an easier time because they naturally love freedom and feel relieved to be freed from the shackles of marriage. Everything is relative, but this phrase cannot be called true.

What determines a man’s behavior during a divorce?

1. Firstly, on the duration of the relationship.
2. Secondly, on how prepared he was for the situation or whether he was the initiator of the breakup.
3. Thirdly, from the presence of common things: children, finances, property. The last two points, unfortunately, often traumatize much more than romantic experiences.

If a man has prepared an escape route and a new woman is waiting for him, statistics say this - in 70% of cases, a divorced man will consider his new wife - civil or official - worse than the previous one.

In addition, discomfort will be created by the usual feeling of loss of the familiar. This is especially noticeable after the breakup of a long-term relationship. So, it all comes down to the fact that for various reasons, a man still experiences stress - to a greater or lesser extent.

Destructive impulses

Sudden changes in life cause a state of shock. The common idea is that shock is a reaction to grief, but divorce is not always sad and terrible for everyone.

However, after a divorce, a man experiences stress and shock caused by a change in lifestyle and habits - this happens if the initiative to dissolve the marriage came from a woman.

What do we have to do? How to help get through a divorce? In such a situation, people are needed - close friends or relatives, even colleagues who will sympathize and support.

It is customary to feel sorry for women after a divorce, but often it is the man who needs moral support due to the persistence of men’s habits and beliefs, which can no longer be the same and crash after a divorce.

The following situations occur frequently:

• Drunkenness. Alcohol makes you happy in certain doses, but the saddened man does not think about the dosage, smoothly passing into a state of extreme oversaturation with alcohol. This no longer brings fun, but a new round of depression. After a large-scale binge, the man already has two problems - depression and alcoholism.
• Unbridled joy. Clubs, restaurants, bars, noisy companies distract from the problem for a short period of time. Morning comes: there is no noisy company nearby, the hop has worn off, cheerful club music is not playing. All that was left was a crushing depression, enhanced by a feeling of hangover loneliness.
• “Women! More different ones"! This works similarly to the previous point - at first it’s good, then it’s sad and lonely. Passionate and stormy romances that begin with a man in this state do not last long. At the end we again have depression, melancholy, loneliness.

Bed life

The most common situation is the wife initiating the divorce. In this case, the man is looking for a replacement - a new sexual partner. And it’s better to have many partners. If the divorce was initiated by a man, he leaves for another woman. In this case, everything is fine with his sex life.

The sex life of a divorced man depends on:

• his state of health;
• age;
• the lifestyle he leads.

Self-responsibility

A newly minted bachelor, who has lost his wife as the keeper of the home, is faced with everyday life in all its terrible manifestations. Now he needs to wash, clean, cook - this version of a “free” life is not to everyone’s taste.

Most men solve this problem quickly - find another “keeper”, since men’s habits are more stable - a man needs an established lifestyle more than a woman.

But there are also exceptions. It is worth taking into account the character traits of a man. Statistics say that some men do not immediately appreciate freedom, suffering from a drop in self-esteem. In such a situation, a common reaction is: “They don’t want me,” “I’m not needed.” Such reactions are rare and pass quickly in males.

Some more statistics:
About 30% of divorced men strive to quickly find a new life partner - even through dating sites and marriage agencies. The reason is life, which there is no one to provide.
About 65% enter into a new marriage within 5 years.
15% - in the next 10 years.

Who suffers more

Do men experience divorce the same way as women? It doesn't necessarily mean that someone is suffering. Divorces often happen by mutual consent. Everyone lives happily ever after.

The other, most common option is that the one who has lost something or the one who has been abandoned suffers. In both cases, these are children. No matter what age they are. Children are experiencing a family breakup, because no matter who they end up with, mom or dad will live separately.

This is true in normal family relationships before divorce. We do not consider cases of domestic violence. If there are no children, the one who is abandoned or the one who has lost material wealth suffers.

If we consider gender as the cause of feelings after a divorce, psychologists say the following: women are more emotional - they worry more strongly, but not for long, with men it’s the opposite.

Feelings after the collapse of a marriage

Experiences depend on:

• From the one who initiated the divorce.
• From the duration of the relationship.
• From having common children.
• From possible loss of material wealth, property, general business.

These are the top most popular reasons. Very often, divorce is a consequence of infidelity.

Because the wife cheated on her husband

The man feels deception, betrayal. Self-esteem and pride are wounded. This condition can cause serious psychological trauma.

If he has a mistress

According to statistics, over time, a man begins to compare his mistress with his wife, not in favor of the former. Looks for another and history repeats itself.

Studies have shown that if a man does not start a new family in the next 5 years after a divorce, the next marriage may take place only after 15-20 years or may not take place at all.

Divorce is a psychological trauma for both men and women. First of all, you must not lose touch with reality. Divorced parents should, first of all, think not about their psychological state, but about their children.

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The time after divorce can be difficult, regardless of the reason. For men, the world is turned upside down, as it is difficult for many to survive a divorce from their wife. However, there are ways to get through this difficult period of life without mental devastation.

How to behave after a divorce?

It is believed that the injured party after the collapse of a marriage is the woman. However, this is not true, since it is not easier for a man to survive a divorce. He gets used to the family way of life, the calm rhythm of life, etc. Therefore, there are two injured parties. And it’s better if they continue to live peacefully, but no longer together.

If you cannot maintain friendly relations, then you need to behave with dignity. You should not humiliate yourself with quarrels and “showdowns” over who is to blame. A man will not abandon his family, even if it is an ex. This primarily applies to families with children. But you can also support your ex-wife by remaining her friend.

You should take care of yourself too. Since in marriage men most often shift household chores onto women’s shoulders, after separation they must take care of themselves. If it doesn’t work out, then you can turn to your mother for help. But no one forbids entering into a new relationship after a divorce.

What to do if feelings persist?

It is normal for a person to have different feelings. For some, divorce is a difficult ordeal, for others it is a new stage in life. But the worst thing is for those who still have feelings for their significant other.

A man who can't let go of his ex-wife feels sad, angry, exhausted, frustrated, and confused—and these feelings can be intense. He cannot think about the future, since he associated it with only one woman.

To sort out your feelings, you should give yourself a break. It's worth trying to live for yourself. Often the melancholy passes over time, and the feelings fade away. A good way to forget and occupy your thoughts with other things is to immerse yourself in work.

In addition, a person can be seen better “from a distance.” And the ex-wife may already seem like a different person.

What to do if you have children?

Divorce is difficult for children to bear; divorce will be even more difficult for a spouse, child and spouse. But the worst thing will happen to the child, since he worries about both parents and feels insecure because of the new state when dad and mom will no longer be together. Therefore, parents should help young children and adolescents cope with the situation.

More often than not, children stay with their mother. Then the father’s care should be twice as great so that the son or daughter does not feel abandoned. But even if the children stay with their father, he should pay more attention to them than before.

First of all, you need to talk to them and convince them that the divorce was not their fault. It’s better not to come up with absurdities, but to try to be honest so that the children don’t feel guilty.

We must try to maintain the same rhythm of the day so that the children’s daily and weekly activities do not change. It is important to set up a schedule for meetings with Mom and Dad, agreeing in advance about bedtime, curfew and other daily decisions, as well as any punishments.

Children should not be involved in conflict. There is no need to argue or talk negatively about the other parent in front of the children. There is no need to use them as spies or messengers, or force them to take your side.

What is the best thing not to do after a divorce?

It is not always easy to answer the question, if a woman has left, how a man can survive a divorce. Everyone copes in their own way. However, there are some things you shouldn't do after a divorce. Even if your wife cheated on you, there is no need to create loud scandals. They will not benefit anyone. However, all friends, neighbors and acquaintances will know about the events. And if there were children in the marriage, then they will suffer the most from gossip and gossip.

Divorce is not the end of a relationship. However, the spouses cease to be close people to each other. If the ex-wife does not want any contact, then there is no need to call her and look for meetings, even if you want to get her back.

Preserving and maintaining friendships is the best consequence of divorce.

You definitely shouldn’t ruin your life and pour alcohol into your wife’s care. There is also no need to get depressed. If it’s bad, then it’s better to turn to friends and loved ones for help. You can also use the help of a psychologist.

How to start a new life?

Divorce is a blow for both spouses. It’s difficult for a man who has experienced this; they get divorced, marriages fall apart—thoughts of family tragedy can linger for a long time. However, after breaking up, you have to start a new life. This is more difficult to do in everyday life. If a man cannot get used to the fact that everything around him is wrong, then it is better to change the situation.

Psychologists advise starting a new life with yourself. A man can change his clothing style and hairstyle. New hobbies help a lot. This gives a good psychological mood.

A radical way to start a new life is to move, change jobs, change cities or even countries.

There are psychologists who specialize in overcoming the negative emotional consequences of divorce. They give the following recommendations to men:

1. Find support. You can't go through divorce alone. Sharing your feelings with friends and family can help you get through this period. You can even join a group for special psychological trainings and communicate with other people who find themselves in a similar situation. Isolation can increase stress levels, reduce concentration and interfere with work, relationships and health. Therefore, you should not be afraid to get outside help if you need it.

2. Take care of your emotional and physical well-being. During a difficult period in life, you need to be attentive to yourself and your body, take time to exercise, eat well and relax. You should avoid making important decisions or changes in life plans for now.

3. Take up a hobby. In the period after a breakup, a person should not have a lot of free time, then he will not think about his mental trauma. The best way to occupy your time is to get involved in something interesting.

The main thing is not to let yourself be captivated by negative thoughts. Divorce is not the end of life. Breakups always happen, so you need to learn to cope with them.